What is attractive on a girl

What is attractive on a girl?

Who am I am why do I know about what looks good on girls. I am an American living in Europe.  I also have two sisters, a wife and a daughter.  I have a lot of respect for women.  I am also honest. I am not trying to sell you anything an not a company.  I write my own language learning software.  I am writing this because I feel a lot of women are mislead as to what is good looking and what they should buy.  Companies spend lots of money on trying to convince you what is attractive on girls.  My guy friends and I are all pretty good looking, intellectual and I think they would also agree with my views.  Some guys will disagree but beauty is subjective.  I do not dance around the issue, I tell you what I honestly think.  If you disagree please let me know.  But what I write might shock you.

Lets start with what is not attractive on a girl

Here is my list of things that are things that detract from a girls beauty.

  • Hair color changes are not attractive on girls.  Most girls hair looks fried, that is, their coloring damages their hair.  Also the hair looks fake.  I like real.  I do not like fake. Guys like real girls. Hair is big money and big business.  Give your wallet a break and try your natural color and you will see more guys will respond.  I know girls will protest, but this is true. Natural looks great. I personally have some of the most attractive shinny hair, I get girls asking me all the time what I do.  I wash it with only natural soap, but eat well and take vitamins.  A very natural diet, no caffine or junk.
  • Too much make up is not attractive on a girl.  Basically a little lipstick is all girls need.  If your skin is not perfect spend money on vitamins or something very natural that will help heal your skin not mask it. Do not be affraid of imperfections.
  • Too much grooming.  American girls have tons of cash and spend it on their looks.  Every eyebrow and part of them looks like a well manicured lawn in suburbia, nothing out of place. This is boring.  I like the wild, rustic look. Something thick eye browse look great.
  • Body hair is good except on the face. Women are have OCD about shaving everything.  They should go easy on themselves.  It is instinctive to like hair, hair on a girl is good.  Sure shave your legs but do not go crazy. Girls care more than guys.  Girls do should not feel the need to pluck everything off so they look like a girl.  Be a women, this is attractive.
  • Shoulder length hair is not attractive.  For me, shoulder length hair means,  I do not want long beautiful hair as its too much work, nor do I have the guts to do something radical like cut it real short. So I will be another boring girl with a bob.
  • Tattoos, I want a girl not a sailor.
  • Facial moles, very not cool if they are big an ugly. I do not recommend many body modifications, but mole removal is not bad if it is ugly.
  • Fat is not attractive.  I like skinny girls as most guys do. This is why I think European, Russian, Ukrainian, Polish girls are much more attractive than American girls. Argue all you want, a girl who is skinny is attractive, a size 8 is not.
  • Girls that are not humble are perhaps the biggest turn off.
  • Perfume, its just petrochemicals on your body, why not use your own pheromones, this is attractive 100%.
  • High heels look very uncomfortable to me and therefore no attractive.
  • Foul language, smoking etc.
  • Jewlery and anything in excess.

What than makes a girl look attractive?

Here is a list of thing that I think are attractive on a girl:

  • Long hair or really short hair.
  • Girls that show their face and do not cover it with hair.
  • Thin girls.
  • Glasses or not.
  • Tight jeans and a t-shirt.
  • See though shirts or tops.
  • Earth tones or spring colors.
  • Girls that keep fit.
  • If you want to drive guys crazy try not wearing a bra.
  • Girls that eat healthy are attractive.
  • Brains and humility is attractive as well as wise girls. Stupid material girls are not.

In summary what is attractive on a girl?

Girls that spend money on looks are rarely attractive.  Girls that walk a lot, and wear clothes that are not to pricey, jeans and a nice top or sweater, earth colors.  Natural hair and look and lifestyle are beautiful.  Basically do not spend money on making yourself look good.  Any girl in Eastern Europe spending little, to no money on their looks, look great. Romanian, Russian girls etc total incomes might be a few hundred dollars a month. These European girls look much better than her American counter part spending cash on herself.  If you want to really attract guys play chess, read books, do yoga, learn a language.  This for me is interesting and attractive on a girl.

Author: Mark Biernat

I live in with family between two worlds, US and Europe where I create tools for language learning. If you found my site you probability share my passion to be a life long learner. Please explore my site and comment.

341 thoughts on “What is attractive on a girl”

  1. I figured it out lol, there is something in the milk 🙂

  2. Admin

    You can’t generalize because everyone is different. You’ve got some good points, but somethings are weird. I don’t know why you keep talking about women if you’re married and in love. I do not understand a man who’s got his own woman but he keeps speaking of other women. I mean, maybe I’m wrong and this subject is very important for you but….maybe your wife doesn’t appreciate you or whatever. Let’s go on point. I’ve read some comment and some of them are very good. We need to be realists. Kate Moss isn’t cute. She’s too thin, but it seems that this past month has getting corpulent.
    I think that shape body is different on people. Some women can be corpulent if they have 8 but there are other women that can be too skinny.
    I also think that you had some bad experiences with american girls, because in every post you write, you keep saying something bad about them. We need to realize that there are good girls and bad girls everywhere. Romania doesn’t have just good girls, there are also bad ones. Maybe if you compare them with Spanish girls, you may prefer romanians. Or maybe that’s just my opinion :D.

    Spatula

    There is any way for you to talk with respect and without insulting nobody, because in every post you write, you want to let us know that you’re the best and maybe that’s not the way we see it. I’ve seen that you’re romanian. Some of romanian are very smart but otherwise they need to be more humble.

    1. However, lets be real. Many guys fall into a common trap.
      This trap is, marry the girl next door or from your own country just because you are too busy working or whatever. This is crazy. The world is full of opportunity and large enough that if you put half as much effort into finding your other half as you do your bosses request at work, you will life a wonderful life.

      I write about girls because I am married and do not want other guys to fall into the traps I have seen my friends fall into. I have a personal ethic I do not even look at women on the street on anywhere. I do not think about other women in a bad way. It is not about that. I am very loyal in my mind and actions. I believe disloyalty in the mind is like disloyalty in action. But writing objectively is something different.

  3. It’s an interesting post, although I do agree it’s somewhat generalized. I’ve never seen an ugly girl until now anyway (well, except for those orange girls, or deformed from plastic surgery). But naturally ugly I am yet to find one.

    What I wanted to add is some more to the obvious: the obesity problem in america (not that other countries don’t have them too, just not as serious yet). I read somewhere that the normal plate size in US is several times the size of the same plate in Europe. I think what is happening is that, since childhood, americans get used to eat larger quantities of food than would be recommendable, and other types of (not so healthy) food others may not be used to eat. When I see what americans eat on a daily-basis, I’ll be honest here, I get absolutely shocked. Because no way I’d be able to eat all that, I’d eat half and with some effort. And then there’s those McDonald’s inventions (where else?), that include an hamburger made only by three big chunks of meat (no bread). That’s just… nauseating.
    I believe the obesity problem would be greatly reduced if the government copied what are considered ‘normal’ sizes from other countries (and shut some McDonalds, that should help too). Actually, China, who has never had obesity problems, has now their obesity rates also increasing – this coinciding with the abandon of traditional foods and compliance to western junk foods. The enemy? Several, but junk foods are by far the worst in my humble opinion.

    I just talk about what I see from afar, since I’ve never been to america. If I got anything wrong, be free to correct me.

    1. Thanks for the comment. It is not just McDonalds, which I like from time to time, it is an attitude. The attitude says, ‘I am not going to deny myself of anything’. I have actually had girls tell me that. Then the next reaction is accept the deviant behavior as normal, even if it is unhealthy.

  4. For me dark hair, i just love girls with dark hair, and if they’re tan better.

  5. lmao!!the see through shirt thing made me laugh. i like wearing my plain white shirts but all of them are see through so i usually put a jacket over it but one day im sitting in math and the guy next to me leans over and says “why are your shirts always see through?” and before i can say anything hes all
    “Its cordial”
    now i like to make sure to wear one just to drive em crazy >:)

    1. If any other girls have any other secrets of attraction let me know. I think see through then covered or semi see through uncovered is the right direction. Also remeber the whole point in making yourself attractive is to attract the one guy for you. Some people disagree with me on this and believe nothing provative should be wore. Maybe they are right, but if done right it can also attract your mate.

  6. I need help how do i look attractive? Please I need your advice in this matter. There is this other girl named Caitlyn and all boys like her and she has blonde hair blue eyes and shes popular. I do not know why I’m not attractive. I mean I am not corpulent I am average I got brown hair brown eyes I like trying to look like Avril Lavigne but she gets Avril cloths and I do not. Tell me help me.

    1. The answer is simple. You are not only attractive but you are also beautiful. The issue is the boy in your school are not poet enough to see your beauty. You think I am joking I am not. This is a rule, almost a universal law, that the girls who do not get attention in school, latter are the happy in love and marriage. The ones that are popular become too spoiled with attention to be able to have a normal life. Look at any actress like Brittany or Lindsey. Do you want to be like those blondes? I hope not.
      I think God protect some people from being over popular because they have a special beauty which is for latter. Guys will notice you latter in a few years, I promise. I know it for a fact. Be patient and just enjoy your life. Focus on fun things like learning France and going to Paris and do not worry about comparing yourself to anyone. Learn a little French and dream of going to Paris some day or something like that, and that blonde you are talking about will not be able to touch you because you will be on a different level of beauty.

  7. I “tried” to ho_k up with a really skinny girl once. Maybe 5’9″ 90 lbs, and she was magazine cover beautiful, I thought I had really scored.

    Anyways, I lost interest, like a deflated balloon. Nothing happened. I was a balloon with no air.
    I think its partly because she was too skinny. Not all men want sticks. I mean beer guts and jiggling corpulent is gross, but skinny’s not so great either. Beyonce has a nice body. Wide hips with nice b_tt and thighs is my preference. Just enough to hide their goods if you are standing behind them and they are n_ked.

    I suppose its different and less shallow when you love someone. A lot of girls think I’m a stud, and I’m just saying, not all men want to b_ng sticks.

    1. Well sticks are always not the best of health. I think what men look for is healthy women. I also think men are looking for humble and intellectually curious women. The bottom line is I think all women have a beauty they just need to realizes that men are looking for personality more than flashy and trashy.

  8. Hello.
    I agree that being attractive is subjective judgment.
    An attractive girl for me should have a nice face at first. She is modest and seems kind at first sight. Then, I would say, she should be average in size, weight and chest. Facial beauty lays in eyes an mouth. I agree that she should have long hair.

  9. HI !
    I have read the discussion and it is really interesting. I agree with the most what Admin said. I would like to ask guys what they are thinking about hair extensions? It seems to be very popular in UK, United States and nowadays it is becoming more and more popular in Poland (where I came from) and girls that I know thinks that it looks nice, but still for me it is too fake ( especially when sb. has done it in not really professional way). I will appreciate all answers
    K.

    1. Ask other guys here, but if you ask me fake is not attractive on girls. I like real. I like to look into someone’s eyes and not be attracted to fake hair or body, just real heart and soul, even if their hair, skin, face and body has what some would call imperfections. I think it makes people unique and more attractive, but hair extensions, I can not see it. Would you like it is a guy was wearing a hair extension?

  10. Ha ha ha !!
    No, not really, I don’t like them even on girls ( I can’t even imagine how it would look on a guy!), but I was wondering if there is any difference for guys or if they even can spot the difference between real hair and extensions. I think the same would be about fake nails, fake eyelashes etc.
    thx for reply

    1. I can spot them. I think most guys can see things like that, but maybe I am wrong. If you wear them just for fun, why not. But if you wear them to attract a man for a relationship, I think he will not take you as serious or you put out the wrong message.

  11. In America GMO is legal, in Europe (most parts) not. Genetically manipulated food makes people grow tall and corpulent. Anyway I mostly have “metrofriendshipual” boyfriends, an I am laughing now, as I imagine what they would say for my new “natural” look :)))))
    People are different.

    1. People are tall in America because of many reason, as they are tall in Denmark, some of it is the high corpulent, caloric intake and protein, or even growth hormones in meat and dairy products. GMO is not the cause, but I do not know if it is good.
      Americans have a problem with weight and this can affect their health and in most people’s opinion is not attractive.
      I would have to see a picture of you to tell you about your natural look or not. I think to attract a guy the more natural the better with a little bit of accent. Guys with perception and character I think go for more subtle than flashy.
      Some natural looking girl with maybe a little accent will always attract a better quality mate than a lady gaga or Cosmo girl look.

  12. Admin, I have read quite a few of your articles after stumbling upon them during my research. I have often thought of commenting, but until now considered it a waste of time that could be spent studying. Thankfully I have a moment or two.

    Before I begin, I notice that some people respond to any negative feedback here by accusing the poster of being a ‘corpulent girl’ that ‘doesn’t like hearing that she’s not attractive’. So I would like to clarify that I am an Australian University student – I prize only my relationship and my studies above my health and fitness. I am an AU 4-6 which in America is a 0-2, I cycle and jog 6 times a week and eat very well.

    And while I absolutely agree that being healthy makes a person feel better about themselves, which results in more self-confidence as well as a more positive outlook on life (thus, makes a person more attractive), I find that your narrow definition of what makes a girl ‘healthy’ (being thin) is rather ridiculous.

    I know girls my age who eat as well and exercise as much (if not moreso) than I do, around the same height, who are larger than I am. Naturally their bodies have distributed their weight to different parts of their body making them appear much bigger, in spite of their daily routines. So because they are an Australian size 12 or 14 (US 8-10)does this make them less attractive than me?

    Remember that there is no one definition of what a healthy person should look like. There are many, many variables that determine a person’s shape or size and not all of them come down to just ‘laziness’, ‘overeating’ and such.

    As for the natural look, I can agree to that. Many women fail to realize now that makeup is meant to enhance your natural features – not hide them. And that our ‘flaws’ (any feature that makes us different from those ‘generalized’ images we see all over the media) are what make us stand out as unique.

    Hair length though? It seems a little shallow, again, to assume that because they feel more comfortable with shoulder length hair that they are too boring to cut it short or too lazy to grow it long. Some of the most stunning women I know have hair that length (some even require it for their careers, or sports and such) and do amazing things with it, too.

    Also, while you often specify in your posts that you are an American living in the EU, your English seems very broken. Having travelled and worked in Romania, you quite frankly remind me of some of the more ‘advanced’ English students moreso than a native speaker.

    Unless, of course, your family in America had English as their second language?

    1. There is no one general definition of what healthy looks like, but if someone is obese they are not going to be as healthy or attractive to most guys. I am not trying to be mean, but hey, where I am from the girls are thin and do not work out that much, I think they are just moderate in their eating habits. Obesity can also be caused by a lack of ascetic practices.
      Ascetic practices I think are essential for forming the character of humans as we are all prone to human frailty. Beauty and attractiveness is ultimately something that comes from withing and shines outward. But if someone does not have an conception of asceticism or at least moderation this might speak something about their character.

  13. I don’t know what you’re talking about when you say that Eastern European women don’t spend a lot of money on appearance (make-up, clothing, etc) versus North American girls. I am Eastern European living in North America therefore I understand the mentality of both cultures and I can tell you that your point is not true at all. When I was in high school, I would see (mainly) Russian and Polish girls coming wearing high high heels. What the h_ll? Leave the stilettos for the club honey, not school (not to mention the clubby clothes they’d wear). They shop and care about make-up a lot.

    1. Where are you from? Polish girls do like to look feminine and most Americans coming to Poland can not believe how beautiful, the women are. However, the average Polish girl, has more of a natural look and is for sure thinner than an American girl the same age. I would say they are also more innocent. Maybe some are provocative looking here generally not.

  14. I am a European girl and live in Europe.
    And in my Town many girl at the moment looks so:
    a6.idata.over-blog.com/421×500/3/87/45/26/das-istes.jpg
    scary! D:
    … But don’t say all American girls/women are so, and all European girls/women are so.
    Every women is different. It does not depend on the country where she living.

    …Your Points for an attractive girl/women:

    “Tight jeans” … Didn’t you mean before “look very uncomfortable to me and therefore no attractive.” .. You don’t know how uncomfortable it is!
    – or
    “If you want to drive guys crazy try not wearing a bra.” – I think that’s a little bit y and not attractive.

    A attractive women is self-confident, high-powered and have a beautiful smile.
    A attractive women must not look friendshipy. She must have a really nice character!
    But so many guys don’t see that!

    Hey on all women:
    Be yourself, it is attractive.

    1. Thanks for the comment European girl, You are wrong on most points and you are right on one, all girls are unique and it does not matter where they come from, this I agree with.

      However you are very wrong when it comes to high-powered being attractive. Guys like females not woman that want to swim with the sharks and be corporate dragons. Believing in your ideals and having a reasonable assessment of you positive and negative qualities so you can work on being a more loving and compassionate person is better than self confidence. Why? I have meet a lot of girls that call themselves confident (and guy) but really just lack humility.

      Tight jeans, a thin body and long hair (down the to the small of your back), natural look with a bit nerdy, will attract the guy you want. Believe me, I am a guy..

  15. Funny how Kata complains about America’s GMO, while Hungary is being eaten up by highly toxic sludge. I think you’re safer drinking from Los Angeles River than the Danube.. LOLOL

  16. BTW.. Fat people existed before GMO.. I am against GMO (aka Franenfoods).. I eat organic/biodyanmic foods, exercise and do bodybuilding, etc.. However, it is not only GMO foods, but rather high amounts of carbohydrates, sugar, lack of exercise, lack of sunshine, etc.. There is lot of toothless , heavy and unkept people in Europe too.. Africa was a place lacking of GMO foods, but a lot of Africans I saw in Uganda were missing teeth and not living even into their 40s, some dying of malaria, typhoid and other diseases.

    GMO is just one part of equation. But to just make a blanketed statement that GMO is why American’s are all corpulent is a very imprudent analysis.

    One reason American women are so corpulent is they spend all day at work, take loads of birth control pills which mess up their hormones, as well as consume massive amounnts of fast food and do not exercise. These are the key factors. When women left behind the farms and housework and were put into the office, they stopped eating the home-cooked meals and spent all day working and running to fast food, because they had no time to cook.

    Blaming GMO alone for obesity is like me blaming cars for all the world’s pollution. Just one co-factor amongst a myriad of other problems wrecking havoc on our societies.

  17. THANK YOU SO MUCH!
    I knew it! Guys do like skinny girls! I am naturally skinny myself (no butt or chest). I’m not so sure about the hair thing. Long hair is gorgeous, I will admit. But what if the girl just can’t “pull off” the hair look and look good in it? I am skinny (size 00), but I have a round, chubby face (I’m only 16) and I think long hair would look bad on me. Now that I think of it, I should really take the pink highlights out of my hair. Thanks for the advice!

    1. The main thing is remember all girls have their beauty. I do not know if I have ever saw a woman that was not beautiful. They all have a particular allure.
      What do you mean by a girl can not pull of the hair look? You mean the natural hair look? Chubby face skinny body, I think that is like a model look. You do not have to lose any weight by the way of course, I think size 00 is your genetics right?

  18. I think that all of your points are absurd, you are a – bleep. You want girls to remove moles, however you don’t actually want females to change things about themselves. You really need to do your research before you post blogs like this, is size 8 not skinny!? You’re just a dumb, pathetic, man…who needs to get a life You go from extreme to extreme, ‘ nor do I have the guts to do something radical like cut it real short.’ . And then you added ’ Long hair or really short hair’ for what makes a female attractive. Just for my own acknowledgment , what would differentiate masculinity from femininity if your both going to keep body hair at natural. You seem to think of yourself as a man who is genuine and has a passion for ‘real beauty’, but that is not what you are showing within this.

    1. Size 8 is not skinny where I am. Size 4 or 6 is skinny but size 8 is curvy. But OK. Where are you from? I am living in Eastern Europe and the girls here are thin and beautiful and confident. Why are you so upset when someone has a different opinion than you. I deleted your swear words. I am not saying you personally have to be skinny. I am just saying from my perspective, and I am a male, what is attractive on a girl is a healthy body, long hair and a natural look. Also humility and someone who develops their spiritual being. We all know good looking people are a dime a dozen but someone with humility and gentleness is truly beautiful.

  19. I am a young American girl and I do agree with most of these.
    Although facial moles? I don’t exactly understand the issue with this, I thought that if they were natural and not just applied on there with makeup, it was referred to as a “Beauty mark”.
    Anyway, I am born and raised in America, although I am European by blood/family. I naturally have a fast metabolism so obviously I am going to be very thin as you mentioned, but I am also very short, 5’2 and have not grown an inch in about 3 years? Although I am just a young women, some of the stuff on the list like heels, makeup, and pricey clothing as a turn off, did in fact shock me. Because everything is quite different here. I also noticed that a lot of natural born European woman tend to be very white (porcelain), and over here in America girls are always trying to get tans, which sickens me that they would destroy their beautiful skin. If I may ask, how on earth do European woman keep their skin so clear? I understand that eating healthy is one way, but what about hormonal acne? Hormonal acne is extremely hard to get rid of.

    1. Nichole, if you have a facial mole and it is small it can add to beauty, I am just talking about larger ones. But really it is not a big issue.
      About European girls skin, I am convinced it is diet.
      Let me explain why, a girl I worked with, has the most beautiful porcelain skin. She was 23 and went to the USA for 1 year and came back with horrible acne scars. She did not change her diet, it was the food was different. Maybe she did change her diet but it could not have been that radical.
      When I was a youth I had reasonable acne and it was really hard.
      First, I do not think acne on a women is that much of an issue. I do not know why, maybe because I had it. But it does not in my mind affect attractiveness. It is like I do not see it.
      If anything maybe it pulls at my heart strings a little.
      But you are right European girls have very white porcelain skin. I should take some real life hots and show you.

      The agriculture and therefore the food supply is totally different. For example in Poland about 30% of the people are engaged in agriculture. Even my wife and I have a small piece of land and we get a lot of our food from her parents farm. It is all homegrown no chemicals and has a totally different taste. So even when you compare apples and apples they are totally different.
      I walk. I do not have a car. I walk for about 2 hours everyday at least. So do many other Europeans. I do this not for fitness, but to go shopping etc. I try to take the route thought the forest.
      Women are crazy about skin care stuff here more than makeup. Even I as a guy use skin cream.
      We have no sun. Sad but true Europe sits at the end of the gulf stream and mixes with artic air. For example, where I am it snows almost everyday in the winter. It is dark. So no sun means beautiful skin.
      Low stress. We are always on vacation here. Americans are very stressed and competitive.

      But the main reason is diet. Doctors can tell you this or that, but I know diet makes a difference. In Poland people use sulfur soap and other natural soaps. In the USA I think you might need a prescription for this. Here it is like 2 dollars. They use it to treat rosacea also.
      I would not say you are short by the way. Americans are way too obsessed with height. In Europe I do not see people talking like this.
      I would say the best looking girls are natural girls who have a good diet take care of their skin, long natural hair. In Eastern Europe where I live girls have little money to spend on anything like that but they are out of this world in terms of beauty. So do not believe all the marketing to women and advertising in the States, to be attractive you do not need to spend money.
      Thank you very much for the comment if I can answer any questions let me know. I do not have all the answers and some parts of this site are a little crazy as they are for guys who are looking for girls, love and other parts are a statement about materialistic, hyper consumptive culture etc so ignore those parts if you find them too much. 🙂

  20. Haha, thank you. I do not have facial moles, I was just wondering. I do in fact have natural long brunette hair (still growing it out more because I love long hair)and I also have very white porcelain skin because as I said I am European by blood/family, and I am half Italian. Even though people here in America ALWAYS think that all Italians should be dark/ tan skinned.. I really do beg to differ, I can’t tan, I would burn, but I don’t try to anyway because I love my porcelain skin. It’s too bad that over here a lot of people are shocked at how some girls can actually be so white like me (I’m not as pale as it seems) and I have blue eyes. Now you say that you have no sun over there so you all keep your skin so clear that way and with diet and taking care of your skin? I am in California and there is almost always sun, but I always take care of my skin, I am obsessed with taking care of it! So sun, diet, and hormones are reasons why my skin has issues. I really do wish I lived in Europe because it seems like I am really a lot like them. Over here, all guys really care about (most of the time depending on the guys) are how huge girls breasts are and their rears. So that makes so many women want to get surgery to get breast implants and as crazy as it sounds, rear implants too. Girls have such low self esteem, only because of the way people treat them and perceive to be.

    1. I live only 300 miles from Northern Italy. No way are Italians dark complexion. Many Italians are alpine and look Irish or Swedish even with red hair. So if you have a porcelain completion you are lucky as many people think this is the ideal in skin care. Believe me Northern Italian girls often look like runway models, like they are angels from heaven.
      If you are Italian you can get Italian citizenship or green card pretty easy. I am an American and got Polish citizenship because my grandparents were from Europe. It is more complicated than that but, I think you have the right to it, if you want to do some work.
      About skin and sun. Evangeline Lilly lived in Hawaii for six years filming Lost and she always word a big hat, although she admits the sun took a toll. Look I live near a monastery and some of these monks do not get out much. But the old ones really have great skin. Why? Not too much sun. I think if you want to protect your skin, always wear a hat at least.
      I do not care about a girls chest. I do not care one bit. Zero. People in Europe or at least in my part of Europe care more about intellect. Europe is like ancient Greece, focusing on intellect and America is ancient Rome, focusing on practical or contrete stuff.
      Do not pay too much attention to what guys think. Really many guys are primative in their view of women and those are for sure not the guys you want to be with. They will cause you pain and heart ache. Even if right now they seen cordial, they are not. Best is to ignore it and not get draw into that pattern of thinking. Sometime there will be a guy that sees the world like you do.
      If you ever can, please go to Europe and you will see what I am talking about. And you know George Clooney of course basically moved from California to northern Italy? So you would not be in that bad company if you ever did something crazy like that.
      For me what is attractive on a women, is authenticty. Someone living their live in a real way. This is also connected to humility. But if you are living an authentic life, your life is filled with meaning, then this is attractive. So I guess the question is what is the meaning of your life? The answer is ‘it is in the living’. Doing the things you really love, in the short time you have here. And for me worrrying too much about what other people think of me in terms of looks is not fun.

  21. Exactly! I have no issues with these problem guys over here, for I have not dated a soul yet (only in my choice) because I don’t see any of them mature enough yet, regardless if they are “cordial” or not, that doesn’t phase me. I also do plan on visiting to Italy, Rome with my best friend when I graduate. Even though I have not been to Italy before, I feel as if it is somewhere I long to live. Although, that may not happen because of future collage, jobs, and all. I also do live to achieve in what I love, and I know that many times they have mentioned that acting/performing in any type of Broadway, or Theatre, may not pay the best, but I know it’s something I enjoy doing. Because it makes me happy, and I know I am good at it, so I aim for that major. But of course I do have back up plans in case things don’t work out. I also try not to worry about what people think of me too much, because it is sort of like a natural thing to do, (worry how you come off to people). In my opinion, it just takes a lot of practice and time, to over come and not care. The only thing that I am ever so low in self esteem is just the skin issue, but I have been drinking this diet green tea with citrus daily, to see if I get any improvements. I know that taking vitamins would help too, like Zinc, but I am waiting to see if this green tea will actually do anything, if not, on with the Zinc.

    1. What you say sounds great and I would not rule out living in Italy someday. First go there and see if you like it. If it is in your blood. I am not even Italian and would love to live there, it is simply beautiful.
      There are many opportunities to study and work there especially if you have this heritage.

    1. Let me know if you are serious about Italian citizenship, I can give you hints.

  22. I am afraid I misunderstand you issue with weight completely… just because someone is a size 8 or maybe more they are unattractive? Some of the most beautiful women I know aren’t stick figures…

    1. It all depends. I think most guys prefer slim girls not just because of some instinctual desire to be with someone that appears healthy and active and athletic, but it is also a sign of moderation. No guy or girl wants to be with a partner who is excessive. Do you want a guy that watches TV too much? Well guys do not want girls who can not balance their life either. But beauty is in the eye of the beholder and what is curvy for one person might be excessive to another. I think girls mostly think size 12 is OK. I think most guys think size 6 is OK. But do not get obsessed with numbers. There is someone for everyone in the world, the more important thing is to develop yourself in ways that you personally want to, intellectually and often the rest takes care of itself. This is because you have a rich full life. This is what makes you attractive.

  23. I think “what guys like” is subjective. I see plenty of corpulent people in relationships (and apparently happy) and plenty of thin people not in relationships (of which I am one – and yes, I am happy).

    I am 36, and am at a point in my life where I don’t need a relationship to be happy. In fact, I am much more complete without a partner! I am perhaps happier than I have ever been, because I get to see all my guy friends without someone being jealous, I have my own income and can do whatever I want whenever I want. I can dress as fab and friendshipy as I like, simply because I like to look good and attract admiring glances – or I can dress down. Whatever suits me. I can enjoy being myself and expressing myself just the way I want to. I think that is attractive in itself. You are never going to please everybody all of the time and I don’t try to. People will accept you more if they realize you have accepted yourself. I am a very honest person and I think this is fundamental to one’s own wellbeing. I am most definetely “overconfident” – I couldn’t not be as I work in an all-male office and if I didn’t hold my own I’d be dead meat.

    I am so much happier NOT being in a relationship, because it means I can focus more on my friendships and concentrate my efforts on the world at large, not just one person. I get very bored in relationships as all the guys seem to end up doing is eating, sleeping and watching TV!! The only thing I miss is cuddles and friendship, but of course that can be good or bad depending on whom you’re with!

    And just because I enjoy focusing on my looks (and BTW I have never been to a beauty parlour in my life, I am a lovely natural blonde) does not mean I am vacuous. I have a lot of hobbies which I share with my (mainly male) friends and I enjoy doing and discussing stuff with them as an equal. Why should I have to hide my light under a bushel just because I think a man might not like it? Nooo, I don’t let that bother me one iota! I like the style of the sassy 1940s Hollywood movie stars. Strong and seductive and temperamental, but feminine. I like style and character, and do you know, I think a sparky woman secretly turns men on. They might not want her for a girlfriend, but she might not want THEM for a boyfriend either!

    So, you see, there are many shades of grey, and your article just oversimplifies things. It’s okay wanting to catch a man. Actually, just about anyone can do it. It’s not that difficult. But what do you actually do with the relationship once you’ve got it? Hmmmm…

    1. This is a subjective view of attractiveness, as beauty is subjective, at least partially. If you are happy, that is fine. However, I am not saying this to be rude or hurtful, but I really think being married and having a family is a wonderful thing and I would not rule this out in your life. I would be open to the possibility that is the right guy came a long you could have this. If I was 36 I would see this out for the next 4 years very hard so as not to lose the chance.
      Being corpulent or skinny or beautiful or not has little to do with love. Love really is about finding someone like you and growing old together.

  24. That’s kind of you, thanks! – though I can’t imagine marriage/family happening in a million years, ever – (I have been married before) but thank you for imagining it for me! 🙂

    It’s funny that in theory I think the same about men as you seem to about women. Everywhere I look, I seem to see large men in this country, there are no men over 30 who are properly slim (except for my boss and another coworker, and they are both married). I don’t know why some of them don’t do something about it before it gets to a stage where it can’t be reversed easily (this excludes people who are corpulent due to genuine medical reasons, who really do deserve sympathy).
    I think there are three answers to this: 1) Cow’s milk. This is loaded with oestrogen and causes extra corpulent tissue and skin problems apart from anything else: (“feminization” in men). 2) Sugar. Many males I know have a very sweet tooth. 3) The drinking culture. Men over here drink a lot of beer, which leads to a paunch.
    So in theory, as I said, I don’t find extra weight attractive. However, a few months ago I met someone through a social group whom I find absolutely wonderful – and yes, he is chubby. He has a girlfriend (equally chubby), and I would never seek to split them up, but nevertheless I find him fun and confident, so I feel the best thing I can do is to be a nice friend to him.
    It’s funny, I normally go for handsome, dark, olive-skinned, tanned, slim Mediterranean/ Middle-Eastern-type looking men, and he is the diametric opposite. (How does that work?) And yet I find him adorable, and I really think this could be a friendship worth keeping.
    Broadly speaking though, I think corpulent people tend to pair off with corpulent people, and slender people with slender people. The more chunky boyfriends I’ve had actually had issues with my being slender, whereas the slimmer ones loved every inch of my body, usually because of having had more relationships and therefore more experience to measure up against – so they could appreciate their luck more than the heavier guys. Funny, but true.

    1. Although I write mostly about women you are right, the same applies to men. Why are we any different. If you modify the formula we are the basically the same and what is attractive on a girl is what is attractive on a man with a few small alterations. That is a natural diet and healthy look with a minimalist but stylish fashion.
      Hope wins over experience, so do not give up on marriage. Everyone makes mistakes.

  25. Oh my god. This is so not true! I have many Swedish friends (women) most of them have at least size 8! Many have size 10-14!! And almost everyone of them is SKINNY! What size you have depend on your chest (you can be really skinny but if you have a chest they force you to go up a size) height and length of your arms and back and stuff. I have really long back (shirts are often too short/showing the stomach even though they fit perfectly around the waist and stuff)… This post really disappoints me :p

  26. who is this article aimed toward? Other guys? Why do they need you to tell them what is attractive to them? Or aimed at girls? Don’t we have enough people telling us how we should look? The nerve of men to think it’s their job to tell us how to look and for us to oblige. So it’s the woman’s job to look good and not try to get ahead financially, so that she always has to rely on the man and how he wants her to look? Maybe you just feel threatened by a financially independent woman because that makes it more relevant how YOU look to her.

    When I was 15 I had magazines telling me I was too corpulent and my family telling me I was too thin. I was 5’8″ and 125 lbs. Enough with the physicalization of women. You’re argument will be that it is biology that men are visual and are attracted to good looks on women. Well, newsflash buddy, women are no less attracted to beautiful men, it’s just that because throughout history women have been subjugated and brainwashed to think they need men for financial support, this is why this “biological urge” is allowed to run amok in men, but is said to be “less active” in women. Hah! Give me a break.

    1. A ‘strong independent woman’ is often just a girl who has a strong opinion and broadcasts it to everyone. Even when shown contradictory evidence she will not back down from her opinion.
      The same could be said for men. Males and females are from the same creator and both genders have their weakness. Being ‘strong’ or ‘independent’ today is something different from my definition. My definition is humility.

      I would not ever put my job ahead of my family. I would be Mr. Mom and proud of it. I kind of am. The most important thing parents can do is raise a happy child and you do that by spending time with your child.

  27. PS in case you think I’m a corpulent bitter old woman, – I’m 28 years old 5ft8, 130lbs, and wear your coveted size 4 to 6, depending on how provocative I want to look, and a sl_t I am not so, size 5 to 6 it is.

  28. I am towards the skinny side and have long hair. But my only issue is the skin. I just to break out alot and now im stuck with enlarge pores and blackheads. I was wonderign if guys care or look at stuff like that? I am really insercue about it, becuase i just feel it makes me look really unattractive when looking at me upclose.

    1. Steffy, I do not care what other people say, I not only did not care if a woman had/has pimples. In fact I found it slightly positive. I know this sounds crazy but it is true. I found girls with some acne a little more attractive. I do not know why.
      Two theories:
      1) It pulled at my heart strings a little and I could sympathizes with a girl who has acne.
      2) Pimples are caused by hormones (that produce oil). It is a sign like chest or anything else that some one is hormones and this is a subtle unconscious reproductive signal. In fact many girls get this connected to their cycle or pregnancy.
      Therefore, at some level it is a positive thing.
      However, the real problem is you want to make sure you minimize scaring. I had some scaring from this myself, but I used this onion based cream and silicone sheets at night and a few other things and it cleared it up pretty well or it just faded with time. In the future they will have really good stuff.
      So having blackheads and enlarged pores are not a problem.
      My wife had acne and I am crazy about the way she looks.
      My recommendation is read up on how to treat it the best you can. A lot only time will heal. But I notices since I eat natural yogurt without sugar and cut out sweets and junk food my skin improved. I also use sulfur soap. I do not know if you can get it in the USA, but I think you can. They use it to treat an adult form of acne called rosacea.
      Try to keep your skin clean and read up on natural things. I take a good multi-vitamin like daily 3 from the vitamin shoppe. But do not spend too much money. I am sure you are not like a 30 year old banker.
      Besides a good multi vitamins use natural treatments like yorgurt and apple cider vinegar (other vinegar is bad) or a tea tree oil wash. If you can afford it they have it at the body shoppe. These things will not cure it, but will help. Especially probiotic (like yogurt masks and eating it.) Honey is also a good mask that is not too pricey.

      These are ideas. But the main thing is even if you did nothing it will start to clear up and guys – or at least not all guys do not care.

      Girls see details, guys are clueless and do not even notice if a girl cuts her hair or colors it. I know it is crazy but if my wife cut her hair, my wife who I see everyday, I do not know if I would notice. This is the way guys are. We do not see the details that girls see.
      My wife looks at me and ask me are you wearing this shirt? I say yes why? What about that and there will be a big read ketchup stain on the front. I will see oh I did not see it.

      I went to the dermatologist and took all kinds of things but do not think it helped as much as relaxing (stress makes it worse because your adreial glands stimulate other hormones), vitmains and yogurt.

      Long hair is very attractive. I was telling my wife this morning as I was watching a modelphotosession, basically girls just need to have long hair because objectively all people look similar. I hope this helps and rememeber with looks and attraction love see with the heart and not with the eyes. The guys that do not see your beauty, do not only because they do not have the courage or they are not poet enougth to understand you.

  29. Thank you so much for writing that. I tried to get it through my head, but i just feel blackheads and enlarge pores are something that just spoils it. I could use the world obsess. I am always afraid to sleep over at my bf place, because i am afraid he might see my oily face in the morning.=( grrrr i just wish i have normal skin just like all my other friends. Thank you so much, you made me feel so much better.

    1. Well, I am writing it not to make you feel better but it is true. Even blackheads are not big deal for me if a girl has them. Not an issue. I do not know why, but it is true. I guess it is because we are mammals. And as mammals we have hair on all parts of our body and smell and irregular things. And if you look at nature this does not seem to bother the other mammals when it comes to mating.
      It is only when you read too many media distorted views of what a woman should be do women obsesses about hair on and smells etc. I know it sounds disgusting but trust me nature’s designs are stronger than anything portrayed on the media.

      Think about s-x tips. They are all ridiculous. It is better to use instinct and you will be the best lover in the world rather than try to read it out of a book. DNA and nature is powerful. So if nature give you blackheads it is not that big of a deal, its part of maturing. Look you have a boyfriend. He knows you have blackheads, and he does not care obviously. Love is about acceptance.

      On another note, I am a romantic so you are asking the wrong guy, I do not believe girls should spend the night at their boyfriends until they are married. But I am a romantic and believe that expressions of love are reserved for the guy who puts a ring on your figure. I just believe in true love and romance. You might want to consider this. Guys respect girls who are very hard to get.

  30. I’m sorry I never comment on these things. But your post is just ridiculous. I am a 21 year old California girl currently living in Spain. I am a dark brunette with hair all the way to my waste. Light blue eyes, pale skin. People have told me I resemble Megan Fox. Which let me reassure you, I am not close to her cordialness. But have been told I give off her vibe. I must say I have more of a European nose. Haha, I always thought it was too big for my face. But now I realize it makes me unique. Some men find me extremely beautiful and some men find me extremely unattractive. I disagree with Everything you have said. It sounds like you think very highly of yourself and your opinion. You remind me of my friend Nick who only dates platinum blondes, with no curves orange skin, fake nails, and fake breasts. But who am I to tell him that’s NOT attractive? It’s his opinion. I have seen your picture and think the light hair is boring and I find you too feminine. I always think men with light hair and light eyes look like cupid. They look like little boys, not a man. But I’m sure there are other women who might think you are handsome. I like my men tall, piercing eyes, any color, dark hair, and tan skin. Believe me, Spain is the perfect place for me 🙂 I find that masculine. I don’t like huge body builders who look like all they do is plan when their next protein shake and cardio workout will be. I like broad shoulders, toned, no ladyen legs, and must have big lips. Since I have big lips kissing someone with small lips is just no bueno. Telling woman what you think is attractive is fine, as I said earlier you are entitled to your opinion. But in my experience every man I have run into likes different things. Sometimes I agree other times I don’t. Personally I find women like Adriana Lima, Scarlett Johanson, Megan Fox, Angelina Jolie, Salma Hayek, Penelope Cruz, Kate Beckinsale VERY attractive women. I keep my hair long and dark because I find it attractive and I also think I look the best with that. I think whatever YOU look best in is what you should work with. Scarlett Johanson is not naturally a blonde, she’s a brunette. But she wears it blonde and I think she looks best like this. I think thin girls look like little boys. But there are some men who like the boyish look or maybe their pedophiles, I don’t really know. But to each his own. I personally like exotic women. I like long dark hair, lighter eyes, and tan skin. I love girls with that fit their body. I think a 34 C is a great size depending on the girl. I find a great butt a must! Something to grab onto as a few of my male friends have said. I think balance is nice. I love curves on a woman. Scarlett Johansson and Adriana Lima have such amazing curves. They’re women, not children. The men I have encountered usually love dark hair and curves. They like a woman who have an actual butt and nice breasts. The men I encounter probably like curves and brunettes. Because I am that and I try to keep it that way. I like to keep toned. I love having lean strong legs and a flat stomach. WITHOUT losing my curves. It’s a delicate balance because unfortunately my body sometimes likes to take them away. I don’t run into many men who like blondes. Probably because I am not blonde. Just like I don’t show interest in blonde men. I always go for exotic dark haired men. But see this is just MY opinion and the men I have been with. ALL men like something different. My friend Matt loves either short brown hair, cute girls. Or he likes extremely dark complected exotic women. Some like the beach volleyball type. Some like Asians, African, Eastern European, redheads etc. Some men like the fake bimbo look. Hello, look how well Playboy has done. But these are opinions, for you to state this is what men want. Just sounds arrogant. Also, to breach the subject of woman from America vs European women. This is such a big topic. Let’s face the facts. An accent is attractive! In America women and men fall over themselves when they hear an English, French, Russian, Spanish, etc. accent. It’s exotic and different and almost everybody likes that. I have seen this in America and being an American girl in Europe I can tell you the same thing happens here. Men think I’m so exotic because I’m Californian. I’m not talking about a few men. I’m talking about whole bars. They can’t get enough of someone who is different. Speaking Castilian with my accent is attractive to them. I have some Spanish girl friends who get jealous because of the attention I receive. Just like I might get jealous if a French girl was with me in a California bar. She would get tons of attention just because she’s French. You’re American, you like girls from Europe. Big whoop. Every American woman dreams of her Irish soul mate. Or an Italian lover. It’s life. Something different is exciting and exhilarating. Doesn’t mean European men are more attractive than American. I can go anywhere in the world and find attractive and unattractive men. Also, Europe does have over weight people. I would say America has more morbidly obese people. But even in America when you see an obese person it’s like, “WHOA, how the hell did you get like that?” But overall people are the exact same. Maybe it’s because I’m from California and everyone’s a bit of a health freak. Many southerners find California too healthy. With our yoga pilate workouts, to our all organic sometimes vegan restaurants, sushi, surfing, working out. Where in the south they usually eat corpulenttier foods. But in California there are obese people and also thin people. I have some friends who naturally have perfect and I mean PERFECT bodies. I have others with just ok bodies. I have friends who work hard for their bodies and some who just don’t care. Also I have friends who are absolutely stunning and some who are plain Janes. I have noticed in Europe, there are not as many morbidly obese people. But I have seen many boys/girl, men/women who are technically overweight. I have also seen many good looking and many unattractive Europeans. But to sum it all up. You can not, let me repeat can not sum up what men find attractive. Same goes for women, we all have different tastes. So please stop playing god and telling women what is attractive and not attractive.

    P.S. A study found men tend to seek out women with big chest, curvy physique, thick hair, full lips with a feminine color like pink or red hues, women who wore eyeliner, and had a clear complexion. Keep in mind this was just a study. But most men found woman of all heights, weights, race, hair and eye colors with these attributes more attractive. Big breasts for breast feeding children. Curvier woman seem healthier and usually have an easier time bearing children. Thick hair tends to mean your healthy, where thin hair has a malnourished look. To have some rosy color to your cheeks or lips, gives you vibrancy and makes you look healthier. Eyeliner makes the eyes have a more dramatic effect and tends to entice men. A clear complexion also sends the message that you are healthy. This study was conducted with men of all ages, race, and nationalities. They showed each man a group of women and asked which they found more attractive. They noticed each man always went with the same type of women. These women were of all ages, weight, race, hair lengths, build, and nationality. So they believe men naturally go for women who are healthy and look like they would be able to procreate easily. Just FYI.

    1. Katelyn, thank you for your comments.
      Also I do not even see where we disagree? About beauty being relative. There is someone for everyone.
      Every person will find the one for them. But I believe there is only one. It is about finding your other half.

      I do not believe studies on men about what is attractive on a girl, why? I am a guy and the studies are really lame. Every generalization is a distortion of the truth. I think basically guys go for long hair and thinner women and as natural as possible. Beyond that they are lame studies. I doubt they even polled guys, they maybe said they did but the study might have been fake. Have you ever thought of that? It was just published to get your attention.

      I do not care one bit about lip or chest size or anything ridiculous like that. I do not care about clear completion, if you read some of my other comments the opposite is true. Where did you read this study in Cosmo? I could write something like that and say it was a study and no one would ever check it.

      Well I am telling I am a guy and basically all my friends, and we are educated to the masters level and well traveled and smart like normal girls. Natural girls. All those Hollywood stars are disgusting.
      I would not date a Hollywood girl in a million years. They are so gross, bad morals, trashy, have no faith in God or humility. You are young and you do not know how the world works.
      Here is a girl who is one of the smartest human beings on the planet, yet she is humble. Go to this website, pogonina.com She understand what beauty is. She is not flashy or perfect complexion or nose. She married her other half and he is just some normal guy, not Brad Pitt. Americans have such a distorted view of reality when it comes to beauty.
      Beauty is natural and humble.

      This is how the world works – men want a princess.
      Guys want real. They do not want fake. They want true love. Someone that needs to be rescued and needs their prince. This is attractive on a girl.

    2. By the way, you have the right idea. A woman with a larger classical Roman nose look great, no need for an altering this. Women should not be concerned if their body or face does not fit a norm. Long hair I am sure you have no lack of suitors. You know instinctively what is good looking for a woman, you do not need to compare yourself to anyone.

  31. Ok so studies aren’t correct? I could agree with that. Because I’m sure most studies and facts are made up. Just like everything you say is an opinion. I could care less if studies are correct. But you sound like another study. Saying the men you’ve talked to all want the same thing. So your study suggests men want natural? How many men in the world have you discussed this in depth conversation with? I might be young but you sound old and arrogant. Guys want real? Why is Pl_yboy so successful? Why have some men not liked me because I didn’t dye my hair blonde and gotten fake chest? Let me guess you’re going to say, “Those aren’t real guys. Real men want natural.” So these guys are a figment of my imagination? Believe me I wish you were correct and all men wanted real women, flaws and all. But unfortunately it’s not true. SOME men want that, others want other things. You say, “basically all my friends.” Haha, a whole 15 men. Wow I have been enlightened! Men go for long haired thin girls. You are the king of generalizations. That is not true. Some men do yes. But not ALL. “We are educated to the masters level and well traveled and smart like normal girls.” I bow down before you. You have a masters and you’ve traveled and you’re smart! Oh my! Don’t you sound pompous. “All those Hollywood stars are disgusting. I would not date a Hollywood girl in a million years. They are so gross, bad morals, trashy, have no faith in God or humility.” Really? Every single one? So now you’re saying any famous girl in Hollywood is disgusting (strong word), gross, bad morals, trashy, have no faith in god (now their atheists too?), or humility? Have you ever even been to Hollywood? If you were there for a week I doubt you have the expertise to state such things. I am actually entertained by your ignorance. You have nothing to back up your claims. You would never date one of those girls? Believe me they would never date you. Maybe that’s where all this animosity comes from? Actually I’m surprised your married. Shouldn’t you be being a perfect lil Christian husband and get back to her instead of blogging about women? I think there are some trashy girls who are Hollywood stars and some intelligent, kind, big hearted ones too. I’ve also seen sweet natural church going girls who truly were trashy, insecure, and had no morals.
    Are you American? Then this implies you as well, right? Americans have such a distorted view and Europeans don’t? I’ve seen more European men after the girls with caked on makeup, heels, and clothes their 5 year old daughter should be wearing. It’s not an American thing it’s a male thing! Only some males. Some don’t chase after that. I’m not going to be like you and classify all men in one category. I’m sure the girl is great. Doesn’t mean that’s what everyone wants. You should really stop fixating on her though you do have a wife. You found your happiness. Why should you even think about other women? The world doesn’t want that. YOU want that. Some people want that. I would not want to be a princess. I would rather be… what’s the word you love so much? Oh yes, humble. Princesses aren’t humble. Princesses are not real. 5 year old girls fixate on princesses. Disney makes fantasy movies about princesses. 20 year old women shouldn’t. Not ALL men even want love. Some want other things. You are not a prince and not ALL women want to be saved. Some men want a woman, not a 15 year old girl who still needs rescuing. A woman who can do things for her self, has a career, wants to help people, change the world for the better. Some men want a house wife and there’s nothing wrong with that. Depends on the man and woman and what they want out of a partner. Haha, you can’t have a masters degree. You sound like a little boy. A hard headed, narrow minded, ignorant child. Open your eyes sweet pea! Or maybe just go focus on your beautiful wife. You truly shouldn’t be thinking about other women.

    1. Why is pl_yboy successful? I do not know maybe the lowest common denominator appeals to some, or the articles are good, but I would not say it is so successful. Its stock price is 6 dollars a share. More guys read something like the Wall Street Journal or are into NPR than that magazine. That magazine is like all those women’s magazines who wrongly show women what a woman should look like.
      My mantra is a woman is a mammal and should look more natural than the hotshopped magazine covers or over done Jersey girl look.
      I think geeky girls are much more attractive than you will ever see in that magazine. I always point to Russian chess girls for example. These girls are geeks but guys like them for their brains and natural style.
      Not all the girls of Hollywood are disgusting in morals, I guess, but I think many are into multi-partners and reach their 40s without real love and children like Jennifer Anston, Cameron Diaz, Renee Zellweger etc who look botoxed out. Totally Botoxed. Like what are they thinking. A women should find their guys, their one and only get married have kids and live happily ever after. Megan Fox, Kim Kardashian, Lady Gaga, disgusting.
      Why are you off on a rant so going into flames of war mode. I am basically arguing for morals, natural look, and family. Sure beauty has some elements of relative and culturally determined as there are exceptions to every rule. But as a guy I can tell you what is attractive on a woman is natural and geeky. Not the Jersey look.
      And yes, all women want to be saved and have a family. If there is one that is liberated and modern and a career woman they have been sold a line and will swindle themselves out of their own lives. Have kids and a family, find your man. Just like a man needs to find his other half.
      Watch your personal attacks on me. I want to stay objective and an argument in the abstract about culture and beauty rather than a personal thing on anyone, OK?
      I was not saying I have a masters to impress, I am saying I am an average guy that lives in both Europe and America and have a perspective on the world from both sides. If you read the guys comments here most if not all are looking for their queeny to live happily ever after with.
      I write this blog partially because the message is of value. That is do not focus on what society things is beautiful focus on what is real and sincere and find one love. Find your other half. I do not check other girls at all. I am very happily married. I write this because I want other guys to know, it is possible. I mostly recommend traveling as often American culture is not the only culture there is.
      I also recommend guys do not married opinionated women.
      One last thing, what is wrong with Disney’s view on the world? What is the reason they are so popular is they tap into the collective unconsciousness and deep longings of what is in our hearts in an innocent way before it gets corrupted by society.

  32. Also, I just visited Rome. Europeans prefer the natural look? Maybe you should visit Italia. The women there wear stilettos in the middle of the afternoon. Their makeup was impeccable and most were quite the fashionistas. Most must have spent at least more on their 1 outfit than my entire suitcase. That includes a Canon power scordial digital camera. Plus, just so we don’t forget about generalizing the men as well. Most women prefer a man with muscle. Maybe before telling woman what size jeans they should fit into to attract the opposite s_x. You should beef up a bit more. I mean were just talking about what is preferred from the opposite s_x right?

    1. Women have a different view of reality than man, when it comes to women. Take a step back and switch the question, who do you prefer, a guy drenched in cologne and a fake tan and color in his hair in a shinny business suit? Or a normal guy, even a geek or someone who takes care of his body but not a meat guy, just a moderate guy, maybe even with a nice t-shirt and jeans, with a real interest in life. It is a the same with men in terms of what is attractive in a girl.

      Normal, natural moderate is better than flashy or extreme.

    2. Also I am not anti-fashion. I like it when girls have fun and enjoy life and go to the mall and try to look good. My point is do not think that will increases your chances of finding your mate. They do not do it for guys, they do it because it is fun for them to dress up. It is fun to do but it is more for girls, guys look at other things.
      Guys go for real and want a princess someone geeky and has not done it all, someone who needs to be rescued a little. Believe me any girl who has been there done that with everything and thinks she knows it all will not find a prince but someone just like herself, and I do not know if that is an optimal marital situation. She will be a serial dater and in her 30s look for that last chance guy.
      Better is to focus your time developing your mind and spirit and wait for the man of your dreams to turn your world upside down.
      Did you look at those chess girl websites by the way. Here are a couple of smart brainy geeky women who have a natural style. For guys they are more attractive than anyone from the Hollywood crowd.
      It is really good you are living in Europe and seeing the world in a different way, I advise you to spend some time in Eastern Europe, Russia etc.

  33. I’m not on a war rampage. I am a women with an opinion yes. My boyfriend that I’ve had since I was 15, loves that about me. We have lived in long distance and lived in the same town. He likes that I want to learn and grow. See different cultures and learn different languages. I am the more dominate of the two. When he needs love and support I am there to help him vice versa. He loves me when I’m dolled up and also when I have no makeup, sweaty and red faced from a run. He’s loved me when I had my awkward stages and wore all black and had heavy makeup. He loved me when I went more natural, also when I go much more glamour. I’ve never told him what I naturally go for in guys. I am instantly drawn to tall dark men. Doesn’t mean I have to date every man I see that looks that way. It’s just what I find aesthetically pleasing to the eye. He is only 2 inches taller than me and when I wear heels I am a giant next to him. But he’s secure enough in himself, he finds heels attractive on me. Also, he would never tell me what to wear or how to look. As I would never tell him. Because I am in love with him. He could gain weight or grow his hair out past his shoulders. Which he has done both on numerous occasions. He’s still the man I love. I am confident enough to be taller than a man. I love his height I think it fits him. What the “media” might say are flaws. I think are unique. I am in love with his Mayan nose and he loves mine. Believe me I’ve found an amazing man. But I would never tell him he needs to fit into a size or have his hair a certain way. He would find me attractive even if I cropped my hair off and dyed it purple. But he also is the nicest human being I’ve ever met. He as well as many of my friends will say that a lot of men like the gross fake look. Also, some love tattoos and piercings. I don’t mean any personal jabs at you. But I find this blog to be exactly what those other men. Who say women HAVE to be blonde and fit to be attractive. It’s almost exactly what you’re doing. That ALL men are attracted to long hair or super short hair. Be a size 6 etc. I just find you pigeon holding women. Just like I think it’s wonderful, how some men like being blonde or embrace having freckles. Some men enjoy fake tanning and wearing suits and styling there hair. Some women love that. I personally like men who are just clean. My only issue is someone who’s unsanitary. As long as you brush your teeth and take a shower. My bf in his teen years would go days without. Of course I still loved him. But he could be 5 feet, blonde, blue eyed, and with his personality he’d still be the man of my dreams. I think when you’re truly in love. All their so called “flaws” make them what they are. I have fallin in love with all of my mans. But he also would never tell me what I had to be. He’s so amazing that even if I wanted to dye my hair a different color and get my nose pierced he would still look into my eyes and know it was me. He fell in love with my heart. Not my long hair and size. But I find him an exceptional human being. A lot of men and women I have met don’t have that kind of character. I’ve heard many let me stress many men say if my wife got corpulent I’d divorce her. I don’t know what kind of marriage that is but I find it disgusting. I agree with a lot of the things you are saying. I like almost the same things you do. As does my boyfriend. But we both wouldn’t agree that this is what ALL or even MOST men or women want or seek in a partner. I find people vain in American as in Europe. It’s not a nationality thing. It’s a human being thing. It might be the media or it might be human nature. Think of history. Nefertiti was renowned for being the most beautiful woman alive. People let her destroy their beloved gods and worship aten (the sun) as she put statues of herself everywhere. They worshipped her beauty. VAIN. Helen of Troy, a war was started over her because she was stolen by another prince. She was supposedly the most beautiful women. Aphrodite, was supposedly stunning, people worshipped her beauty. She is considered a jealous vain goddess. Even through the pages of history, people have worshipped beauty. Doesn’t mean it’s morally correct and doesn’t mean I want my future daughter or son thinking that’s reality. But sometimes it’s the way the world works. I am also a licensed skin care therapist and makeup artist. I work with an all natural, eco friendly skin care line and makeup line. I believe what we put on our skin should be natural and pure. I also never always agreed with what my makeup instructor told me. Through the beauty course. The teacher would make us sit in front of the mirror and find our imperfections. Shadow this side of your nose to make it straighter. Outline your lips a different shape then they are. We actually had one girl start crying, it was awful. I believe makeup is to enhance what you already have. Not to give you a new face. While working my manager would use this selling technique, “Oh my that’s an awful color on you, let’s find you a color that’s better. Or Your lips are remarkably small lets plump them up with a lip enhancer.” By the way she’s 50 (she should be wise beyond my measly 21 years.) My technique is to never insult the client. I would never say anything negative. I feel it’s my job to boost their confidence. Women feel most insecure with someone like me in their face with no barrier of protection. (believe me, women use makeup as a barrier) They think I am studying their “flaws” But I feel my job is to make them see they’re beautiful. Because EVERY women is in there own unique way. I always find something to praise them on. Like their beautiful pale skin, their coloring, eye shape. Something that is theirs, not what a pretty lipstick or blush. I find the person makes the lip stick look good or that blush looks great on THEM. I am the youngest in the company and make the most money in my division because I believe in this technique. My clients feel good when they leave. I have a light hand. With makeup you naturally have a heavy hand or light hand. I think you can always add more. I also believe strongly in skin care. Your skin is the biggest organ and like your body it should be taken care of. I noticed your earlier comments about skin care. And to the girl who hates having oily skin. Let me tell you, you are blessed. Oily skin might be burdensome sometimes. And yes stressing about it doesn’t help. Also using harsh products to strip the natural oils does the exact opposite of what you want. By stripping the oils, your acid mantle base, which controls the pH balance of your skin. The skins pH balance falls between 4.5-5.5 is tricked into thinking there is no oil. So it starts to mass produce oil. Your poor sebaceous glands are doing twice the work. Making you stress even more. Oily skin is better than dry skin in my opinion, it keeps your skin healthy. Have you ever noticed caucasian women age faster? It’s because light skin doesn’t have as much melanin to block the suns UVA/UVB rays. That’s why women with darker skin don’t age as fast. Plus living somewhere extremely humid like Mexico or a tropical place keeps moisture in you skin. The benefits are smoother hydrated skin. Even though at times they must feel like an oil slick. I suggest a toner NOT an astringent (which has alcohol, which strips the oil and is much too harsh for the skin) were as a toner refreshes the skin. Spray a toner and use a light oil free natural moisturizer. During the day something with at least 20 spf. At night you might want a heavier moisturizer or maybe a light as well. But you want to make sure you have a moisturizer that has NO spf. Spf is important during the day to block out harmful sun rays. But while the spf blocks out the suns rays, it also blocks oxygen. At night your skin does almost all of its repairing and it needs that oxygen to breath. Your bf with love you no matter what and if he doesn’t he’s not the one for you. My boyfriend loves watching me get ready for bed. He finds me fascinating with how well I take care of my skin. He loves the toner. I had to buy him his very own. Also if you don’t want to spend a lot of money on it. Which I certainly don’t. You can make an all natural one at home. Take fresh lavender, let it dry for a week. Buy witch hazel from any local grocery story a huge bottle for a few bucks. Crush (important: You want the lavender cells to break open) the lavender into a glass bottle. Glass is important. Plastic has a lot of toxins and seep into the mixture. Glass is much more useful. Fill the lavender to the top. Pour the witch hazel into the bottle. Close the bottle and keep it in a cold dark place for 3 weeks. Drain it into a glass. remove all the lavender pieces. Pour the liquid back into the glass bottle and fill the rest of the bottle with distilled water, NOT tap (tap has minerals and things that can clog the skin). Cheap and natural. The lavender has antiseptic and calming properties as well. Also, some say you can use straight witch hazel. I disagree, it has too much alocohol you want a nice balance with witch hazel, distilled water, and lavender. Hope that helped 🙂

    1. I printed out your comment so I could read it. It is pretty long. Basically you are lucky to find your other half so early. When are you getting married?
      We each have different experiences in life of when we find the one we are suppose to be with, some early some latter, but it does not matter once you find them.
      I think a man’s height does not matter one bit. Zero. It has nothing to do with anything. Also men and women are equal, of course they are, however, I prefer to be the leader. That is just me. I like to take charge. But I think as your relationship matures you will find that this will be the case with your guy too and you will like this.
      I think most men prefer to be the leader.
      But every relationship has its own dynamics.
      I also like to make friends with non-argumentative people as I like peace and love in my life. But I love to exchange ideas. So your idea of an opinion might be just an idea exchange.
      Your skin and beauty tips are interesting. My main thing with beauty is girls can do anything you want to make yourself more attractive, its all fun. But nothing beats a girl who has a healthy thin body, long hair and eats good diet and little to no make up. The natural look. This will beat a girl who is 10-20 lbs squeezed into designer clothes with tons of make up any day.
      Focus on a healthy lifestyle and the rest will take care of itself. Less is more for beauty with women in most cases.

  34. We both feel very fortunate to have each other in each others lives. We discussed marriage when we were 18. I wanted to finish college and don’t want to still be moving around. He is a home body type. When we marry we want to have a home and raise children. So me living in Spain and him in the states is not the ideal time. We have decided to wait till we’re both finished with our degrees. We decided this when we were 18. Like I said before, when you love someone you love know matter height, color, weight. If you love them you must love all of them at least thats how I love. I prefer to lead and he prefers to stand back. There are times when he takes the reins and I step back. I would never try to control his career or how he thinks. Probably because if he’s happy I am happy. vice versa. He is a man and doesn’t need to take charge to prove it to me. But he chose me because I’m on top of everything. He respects me for that as I respect him for being so calm and caring always. Doesn’t mean that’s how a woman or man should be it is just the way we are and have always been. Our relationship is very nice how it is now. Like I said before I agree with what your saying. It’s my opinion as well. But I don’t find that’s how it always is. I think we’re going to have to agree to disagree

  35. I only wanted to add this because I am thoroughly disappointed you Oonly throw America under the bus. When I agree the media is awful and it’s truly pathetic. To say it’s an American thing is obviously incorrect. Like I said before Europeans are just as obsessed with makeup, hair, s_x, etc. Here are European DJ’s, singers, models. The videos and songs are horrendous in my opinion. But to say it’s an American thing is not true. It’s a people thing. Most all of these songs can be found in their original language. I chose them in English so I would understand the lyrics. Which in most cases are just as degrading as many American songs. Plus in America some of these videos wouldn’t even be allowed on tv. I’ve noticed in Europe even the commercials during the middle of the day have nudity in them. No one treats it as a big deal. They have commercials that say enjoy friendship and show people in bed. Making it quite obvious as to what they’re doing. I watch these and am a little shocked. Because in America. That is in no way allowed.

    Bob Sinclar is French. I thought this video fit perfectly to what we have discussed
    youtube.com/watch?v=RW25wKq0zGI

    INNA is from Romania
    youtube.com/watch?v=Vh_3zdmaHbk
    youtube.com/watch?v=4vAtDgwhQBg
    youtube.com/watch?v=lS22HZ21uKM

    Alexandra Stan is also Romanian
    youtube.com/watch?v=sS76eS34Y0c

    Dan Balan is from Moldova
    youtube.com/watch?v=hTQN09Yudpo

    ATB is a German DJ
    youtube.com/watch?v=9rH1kT8EIOU

    Basshunter is a Swedish DJ he usually has the same girl in his videos. She was formally a corn star, her name is Aylar Lie. She is Iranian by birth but grew up in Norway.
    youtube.com/watch?v=mrywTpfDIHU
    youtube.com/watch?v=gWCpfRZfVEc
    youtube.com/watch?v=fyYXirCAHP0

    Rudenko is Russian
    youtube.com/watch?v=FAtW0hua9rE

    Danzel is Belgian
    youtube.com/watch?v=bkWjCFwU4qY

    Alina is Romanian.
    youtube.com/watch?v=prCZvA6g2Qc

    David Tavare is Spanish.
    youtube.com/watch?v=jEMa2DIvxQA

    1. Katelyn, thank you for the comments as always, but actually you are making my point. Hollywood or Bollywood of Eurovision etc, are all stars. I do not recommend anyone date or look up to starts. European or American. They think they have style and look good, but they do not. They are only impressing themselves, and fuel their egos.

      These are not role models. The average girl on the tram in Europe, at least where I live, is way cordialter than any star.
      Stars are the worst.
      In term of looks and relationships I would say models fare the best. Then maybe singers, then TV stars and the last who have the worst relationships are movie stars.
      In terms of attractiveness do not go by what popular people do, focus on natural like I said.
      There are many beautiful and nice American girls. It is not Europe vs America. However, there is a tendency for some American girls to over rate themselves, put too much money in to their looks and not enough into their intellectual development. Not all mind you, but American culture like I said is like the ancient Romans, we are doers, while Europe is more like the ancient Greeks.
      Americans are a product of the enlightenment and Protestantism and Europe is more from the age of Romanticism.
      I personally recommend American guys consider European girls, especially Eastern European girls as no one says you have to marry the girl next door. In my personal experience for example, I have found that Eastern European girls put focus on their minds and American girls put focus on their careers. American girls try to be attractive with clothes and style and European girls with their bodies. All this will change in the future but this is the trend.

  36. I agree with your point. I think most women are most attractive after giving birth, working out, less makeup, wild flowing hair, features that are unique. We do not differ in this area. I agree 110% The only thing that I was trying to state because I have had to fight the American stereotype. In Spain people have excepted me as one of them. My host family has actually said I am the best teacher/caretaker they’ve had for their children. They’ve hosted a girl from Siberia, France, and Morocco. They found at times these girls were lazy. Only wanting to go to clubs and meet boys (1 actually brought a boy home, how disrespectful can you get). Even one didn’t know how to interact with the children. She just sat and sulked. Where as I adore children. I keep in mind however some of my American girlfriends would not be able to do this job. They would be exactly as those other girls. I feel sometimes people think Americans are greedy, lazy, etc. Which is true, just like they’re are people like that in every country. I find people in each culture can be that way. Also, in every culture you can have the exact opposite. A kind person with a big heart who works hard. I don’t think you can classify models at being better in a relationship than an actress. I agree that I personally wouldn’t want to be famous therefor marrying someone famous would put me in an uncomfortable position. But that isn’t normal or average. Not many people in American or Europe are models, singers, actors. Most are normal every day people. So not many of us will ever even have the chance to date that. But you can’t deny the trend is and always has been revolved around s_x. S_x sells. Maxim sells, Cosmo sells, Victoria Secret sells. I don’t think any of these things should be what the children of today look at or try to imitate. But it is. You and I personally don’t agree with it. But it is what is out there. It’s not just a trend. As unfortunate as it is, it’s reality. In Europe the ads are provocative. Doesn’t mean you can’t find kind, sweet, good people in the world in every country. I’ve met some amazing women who were Americans, South Americans, Europeans, Africans. I am not biased in my opinion. There are good and bad people every where. 1 country doesn’t make a good type of wife. Having a strong character and a good upbringing make that. And that my friend are found in every country. Because there is good in every country. Unfortunately as well as bad. You will not find all Eastern European women a good partner. Just as you won’t find all American women as good partners. But some men might have a problem finding a partner because maybe they’re not a good mate. It’s not easy to find a soul mate. I personally think they come to you when you are not looking and maybe when you need that person most.

    1. You and I are lucky in that we found the right one.
      You are correct that many American girls much harder workers than European girls. You are right that in each culture you find greedy and lazy people.
      The main thing is when trying to find a mate, guys should not look at it like this culture is the ultimate solution to dating. Rather, guys should say the world is full of opportunity and they do not have to marry the girl next door. American guys should consider European girls or South American, Africans etc and not close their minds to these beauties. But you are correct, in these cultures you have desirable mates and undesirable people just like everywhere.
      That being said it was refreshing to come to Poland for example and find like all the girls here are pretty religious, do not believe in lots of partners, ab_rtion is not only not legal but most girls would never consider it, while in the US its about 1/3 of the girls.
      It was refreshing to meet I would say 90% of the women who love to cook and take care of the children and say they would not get divorced no matter what. That raising kids is the most important thing in life. I do not know if I could find that in Western Europe. South America yes UK no. Boston no. Krakow yes.
      So although generalizations are a big no no, culture does play a role in determining behavior and values. Not that one culture is better than another, it is just that you have to find a partner who sees the world the same as you.
      I think your boyfriend is from your culture?
      This is often a positive indication for success in a relationship, that is people who are similar in moral and cultural views. I think maybe physical opposite work but moral similars.

  37. I agree I think people should always be openminded to other cultures. Depending on what type of person you are. You might find a culture that fits you better. Just like I find the European lifestyle fits me better than the American. Technically he’s not. He was born in Mexico, he’s 100% Mexicano. But he grew up in Brazil. His father worked in Brazil till he was 14 then they all moved to California. His father was transfered. We met in High School. I love his family and their morals. They were very much like my parents. Tough but loving. We both hope to be as good of parents as our were. Glad you found the lady of your dreams. Best of luck! Enjoy Europe.

  38. I agree with most of what you said, except for size 8 not being attractive. That’s where it starts for me. I prefer a size 8 to 12. That gives a woman a big curve to her hips, full rear, full stomach but still a smaller waist, shapely arms and legs. A woman is supposed to have curves. That’s what makes her a woman. Skinny is what is not attractive. Skinny makes a girl look scrawny, and it certainly does not give her the womanly shape she’s supposed to have. No offense, but it’s comments like “size 8 is not attractive” that makes perfectly healthy, happy women want to starve themselves and reach for some unattainable goal. If skinny is what’s desirable in Eastern Europe, I have no desire to go there.

    1. That is fine, different attractiveness for different people.
      For example, chubby women use to be attractive I think in the Soviet times, like men of that time. Remember that looked like those broad Russian leaders with one eyebrow? It is not bad or good, just culture.

      What is attractive on a girl is culturally determined to some extent. Now the look for men and women tend to be more healthy, active, athletic. Look the Russian tennis players I do not think I see one over-sized one get attention.

      So you are right it is personal. But I prefer healthy, athletic as do most of my friends because it is a sign of moderation and physical strength. Any girl even if she is not perfect shape, because no one is, coming out of Pilates and Yoga class and having light healthy cooking and drinking lots of water, is more attractive than a girl who is over sized and packing herself, with cookies, cakes and pies.
      If you are someone that is fit and active you will have a better ability to take care of kids and live longer. Not always but statistically. This is why I think attractive in my book is not a size 12 but a size 6.

    2. If this is the case there are places you might focus on. The point is always what is good for you and your life and happiness, no judgment. So if you do not think slim, athletic women are healthy, skip Eastern Europe go for where statically you have more to your liking. I think Mississippi and Alabama for example has girls more to your style. I personally love the weather in that area is great, and the girls are nice.

  39. See, that’s the thing, size 8, 10, 12, whatever have you can be just as healthy and as athletic as the skinny girls you’re describing. My old girlfriend was a size 8/10, she worked out, played sports, ate healthy, but she was still a size 8, and she didn’t stuff herself with cookies or cake or whatever you think corpulent people eat all the time. Every one is built differently. There are naturally thin people and there are naturally big people.

    1. There are mesomorphic, endomorphic or ectomorphic bodies and everything in between. However, I prefer a slim or athletic mesomorphic, endomorphic or ectomorphic. Someone glowing with health and a good hip to waist ratio no matter what their body type is. A belly on any frame is not healthy.
      I believe weight is mostly lifestyle. I see Eastern European girls settle into the American lifestyle and in a couple of years get huge. I see American girls living in Eastern Europe really transform naturally better than if they went to a month long boot camp for weight loss.

      Now there are exceptions to every rule, including rules of beauty and attraction. For example, there is also something that I call farm corpulent. That is girls from the countryside who work hard and do not eat junk, but are a little big. This is because they work hard and have a different life. I do not have a problem with this, but I noticed they distribute the corpulent in their body differently than someone eating a typical American diet or lifestyle.
      So there are exceptions.

      But consider this. Once a size 10 hits 40 after a few kids she will most likely gain weight. But if you start with someone who is a size 6 they may go to size 8 and no big deal.
      So for mating and dating and attractiveness I prefer the Anna Kournikova body style than Roseanne Barr. But to each his own.

  40. I agree with Wayne. If you take care of yourself and eat right, work out etc. you are in the “mind frame” that is attractive (doesn’t matter the size). Stating a size 6 is good so when they have children later on and gain a few pounds they are not attractive. You fall for people how they are, not who they statistically will be in 20 years. God made us how we are. Love it or leave it.

    1. I agree. You love people for who they are.

      I personally, and I think many other guys would also, instinctively tend to find a size 6 more attractive than a size 12. Now if when you meet her she is a size 6 and she turns into a 12 after your married, it is not a problem as love sees with the heart but not with the eyes.
      However, dating is often about primal drives and exchanging DNA. So if girls want to know what is generally, but not always, attractive on a girl from a man’s perspective than healthy/active/athletic or intellectually geeky is attractive because it sends messages that they would be good mates.
      This is just an honest post about what is attractive on a girl from a man’s perspective.

  41. I agree with both the admin and Wayne. Different people find different things attractive. Even though I’m not a guy, I prefer the Marilyn Monroe body type. She was probably a size six or eight in today’s terms, not corpulent, not skinny, just enough meat on her body to give her, as Wayne put it, a womanly figure. I also agree with the admin that most men would prefer the Anna Kournikova body type to Roseanne Barr, but not all.

    1. Abbey, thanks for the comments. I even dusted off the yoga mat from today and noticed I have some spring training to do. It has been long winter and I have been in hibernation mode. I just think that the times I have been in shape I felt physically better and was more positive.
      ps. I have a netflix movie recommendation. Mary and Max.

  42. I saw that movie! I loved it! Yes, I have to agree that when you’re in shape, you feel 100% better. Ditto about the positivity. When I’m not working out regularly, eating healthy, drinking lots of water, I start to get depressed and feel really negative about everything.

  43. I don’t want to sound conceited but for what ever reason girls have always been attracted to me. I don’t consider myself good looking and I don’t have a good build at all. In fact at 5′-10″ tall and 125 pounds a lot of people say I look too thin but it is my natural weight and I feel good at it.

    My point is that I have been fortunate to have been able to meet and in most cases start a relationship with any girl of my choice with exceptions of course. That being said what I find attractive in a girl is the following.

    I like short girls, in fact most of my girlfriends have been under 5 feet tall. Part if the reason for this is that I find small hands and feet a real turn on. A girl being skinny is not as important to me as it is to some guys but I do like a girl to have skinny legs if possible. I prefer for a girl to have natural fingernails and the shorter the better paint or polish is OK but better without it. Bangs are much more attractive than some “power look” hairstyle – yeah a pageboy cut with bangs is so cute.

    I find small chest much more attractive than the opposite. My current girlfriend has like a 30AA bra size and she is so beautiful. Eye color is not that important though I prefer blue eyes but eye color being natural is important no fake color contacts for me. The less make up a girl uses the better though I do like lipstick because I love the way it tastes when I kiss on my girl with reckless abandonment. Some of my girlfriends have even had blemishes and I find that preferable to trying to cover it. Dresses are prettier than pants and as far as footwear goes, flats are the cutest shoes of all. My girl knows how much I love those little white canvas Keds that they have made for a hundred years so she wears them all of the time for me and they are far cuter without socks – by the way I don’t like nylons at all bare legs are the best. Of course in her case no shoes are the best as she has very beautiful childlike small feet that I love the feel of against my legs at night. Glasses are preferable to contacts and the old fashioned frames are preferable to modern wire ones.

    Natural teeth are better than anything fake but if a girl feels that she needs braces I definitely prefer the old fashion kind they are a total turn on and feel good when you are kissing on your girl like there is no tomorrow. Straight hair is friendshipier than curly. And girls really look friendshipy driving an old vintage car. Having been a successful singer songwriter in the 1970s I have more money than common sense so I bought my girlfriend a 1960 Buick convertible. She dresses in a 1950s style which looks great when she is driving it.

    The other day some dizzy girl accidentally cut her off on the coast highway and that set into play something else I find very attractive about girls – a cordial blooded temper. So after we were cut off she says what a jerk that b%$#h is and I said OK Pennie jut calm down baby it’s no big deal but that wasn’t to be. She turned to me her face all flushed with anger and said she almost hit us then she pulled next to this young girl and gave her the bird which I have to admit was very cute and then as a gesture of female superiority I guess she floored the car as hard as she could and since she is so short especially that day since she was driving barefoot it required that her little rear end rise up out of the seat to jab the gas pedal all of the way to the floor and that was extremely cute if you ask me.

    Lastly, Pennie is the first British girl that I have dated and her accent is so delightful that I would have to add that as a final thing that makes a girl attractive to me. Plus she has jet black hair and pale blue eyes – a very hard to find combination. Her thick luscious lips are such a turn on to kiss on for hours. S_x is great but lets face it you can have that with yourself you really need to but a cordial kiss that is a rarity these days.

  44. I have a question. I have several small scars on my arms and legs from playing outside when I was a kid. I scar very easily. They are barely noticeable, but when I wear skirts or dresses, I cover them with make-up. I also have a few stretch marks on my sides from growing too fast as a kid, and a scar on my stomach from surgery. These are also very light, and I never wear anything that shows my stomach, so these aren’t seen. Should I get these removed? I don’t want to spend thousands of dollars on this, especially since covering them with make-up seems to work. Would most guys be turned off to know that I have a surgery scar? I want to think that the right guy wouldn’t even care about this, but I don’t know.

    1. Me personally would have no problem with scars on girls. In fact, I know this professor that was studying beauty and attractiveness and he said sometime things like this enhance attractiveness. I was surprised but this is what his study showed. He gave an example of Robert Redford, I know he is a guy, but he was the Brad Pitt of his day, and he had horrible scars on his face.
      Scars are not a problem. I would not do surgery because in the future they will have better and better non surgical options. Every 10 years medical science basically doubles. The more you wait the better things get.
      You know about onion extract etc. But do not worry.
      I think girls with some scar on their legs are cute. I have these from playing as I know everyone does. It brings back childhood memories. It is why Cinnamon and Good and Plenty etc are one of the most appealing love scents, more than perfumes. You can look this up also.
      My point is when it come to psychology of love not all is as it might appear.
      Stretch marks also not a problem. I am a guy but I have huge stretch marks from when I lifted weights my muscles got so big so fast. But I know your a girl and see it differently but believe me. Guys do not care about stuff like that. If anything it pulls at their heart strings.
      Some girls are so critical of their looks. I do not know why. My wife has the longest most beautiful model like legs I know, and she wears stocking or jeans as she is self conscious to wear a skirt in the summer. I am working on her.
      Something is an issue only if you make it and issue.
      I remember I had a mistake on my resume and I was sorry worried about it in the interview, but then I said I do not care and it did not make a difference. So it is with your body. What you put out to the universe is what the universe gives you. A good book is Heal Your Body by Louise Hay.

  45. Hey admin, I am a bit corpulent but pretty, I have long hair and I am tall, I want to be more attractive and pretty especially to guys in school. Please any advice would help so I can be cool and looking good to guys?

    1. There is an ancient Greek Myth about someone being granted a wish. They could have one thing from three choices. Money, beauty or wisdom, were the choices. Most people would say beauty I think. They would wish for irresistible attractiveness, would not you? I remember when I first read this, this is what I wanted. I mean if you have beauty you could attract the person or people you want and your life is easy. Doors would open for you, you could even get money with this as good looking people get paid more.
      The reality is, I am so happy I did not have this at first. I suffered greatly in my life. I obtained some wisdom and a lot of intellectual skill by reading. I traveled the world. When I look back at the girls I was attracted to in school, there is no way I would be happy with them.
      I think God, if you ask God will lead you to the one you are suppose to be with and guard you from the ones you are suppose to not be with. But you must trust God in this.
      So if you are still in school, take your mind off comparing your relative beauty to others to attract cordial guys and start focusing on a harder thing, developing class and culture and intellect and maybe spirit. Think about what your life dreams are?

      Where do you want to travel and what would you like written in your book of life? Develop yourself intellectually and you will be rare. It is nature that guys are attracted to smart girls.
      From a guys perspective it is so unhigh to kiss a girl with little in terms of brains. But a smart girl how is not classically beautiful, it does not matter it is a turn on. Why? Mating, we guys at a subconscious level want to reproduce with and have smart kids.
      If you do this your attractiveness will develop. I promise. This is not none sense it is life, it is Karma.
      If you want to make small changes in your physical appearance, focus on being natural. Long hair is a start. I think not coloring or perming your hair but spending the savings on good conditioners are a better thing, or vitamins.
      We have Easter coming up and the 40 days before are a good time to examine in your life somethings. Ask yourself personally why you might be a little over weight? Are you doing this to protect yourself emotionally? To distant yourself from others? Or it is your genetics and you want to work on acceptance. Read Louses Hayes “Heal your body” – heal your life. Also Creative Visualization by Shakti Gawain, if you read these books your will have your answers about beauty.
      Try thinks like walking and yoga.
      For make up at your age you do not need it. The one thing you can do is lipstick. I see girls who wear no make up and lipstick, the right shade will accent them and guys will want to charge at them like bulls. Lips are a very strong instinctual message in terms of mating. Think about it.
      Wear, not too complex clothes. It is better to dress in simple style, maybe pin strips and black to help your shape but you know this already. But better are jeans and a quality t-shirt and one or two accessories.
      Know that in all my travels I have never seen a girl who was not attractive. All girls have beauty as rare as they are.

  46. You say that what is attractive is really long hair or really short hair. My hair is just at my shoulders, very boring looking, and the problem with me is that when my hair gets long, it looks stringy and very thin. I would like to cut it chin length with layered bangs, but I don’t want to do so if that will look boring as well. I’ve shown my husband how I want to cut it and he likes it, but I can’t decide what to do. What would you say about hair that gets fine and thin once it gets long? How do I correct that?

    1. That is the great thing about hair. It grows back. Nothing you do ever really changes it forever.
      Also girls are way more critical of their hair than guys. My wife will say her hair gets stringy etc, but I do not see it unless we go to the bathroom mirror under lights that hang off the mirror and she says ‘see’. I say ‘I guess’.
      I tell her do whatever makes her happy. Really, because hair grows back. But since I have her on good vitamins and eating different her hair really does shine and is stronger as are her nails.
      The following are some random ideas.
      I recommend for hair a good multi vitamin like from the vitamin shop daily 3. Then good diet (you can research what is good for hair and nails, I think things like flax seed oil and gelatin if you want to really get into it). But better is a normal diet and spend money on natural conditioners rather than perms etc. I think there are more exotic things like reflexology’s nail buffing you can try. What is this? Read about it, some people say it works.
      But I do not think you need to get that complicated. Just take vitamins, eat right your hair should respond. I am lucky I have very think hair, but I have always well. What is well? Try the Salmon and Salad diet by Dr. Ronald Hoffman. It is not a fad, or I do not even think he has a book, but there is reasonable research on this diet.

      I think if you want to cut it, cut it. Why? It grows back not problem.
      I seriously doubt a girl like you could ever be boring with your personality. Just would not happen, trust me. If you ever think your hair is a total disaster, and makes you look boring like Ms. Crabapple, the teacher you had in the 3rd grade, you can do other things to change your style in subtle ways.
      I am a big believer in cool lipsticks. I think L’Occitane has some or you know better than me. Also stocking that are really interesting, my wife bought some black and white checkered ones, there are all kind of crazy designs and colors.

      There are many low tech cheap things you can do, to make your style good, while not getting too cluttered. No matter what you do with your hair.
      Think of a woman’s style like a rustic farm house in Tuscany, just enough to accent, and not like a Spencers shop. If you cut your hair or do not cut your hair it does not matter to much for you. More important is you understand, it is just hair, it grows and only one part of the whole look.

    2. I just saw the film ‘Black Swan’ – Who does not like the fairy-tales of Tchaikovsky. Women see things others do not. Girls are more sensitive but somethings they see things that others are not aware of. The same is with imperfections in their own beauty. You do not need to be more perfect than you already are.

  47. Is there an easy way to lose weight without exercising in the gym or walking.

    1. You need to walk. If you do not move it will be very hard to lose weight because a large part of weight lose is about making your body as a whole more efficient. You can do yoga as an alternative excessive but you need to move.
      I would also recommend the Salmon and Salad diet by Dr. Ronald Hoffman. It is basically fish and ladyen and beans and salad. Salads and vegetable you can eat all day long and never gain weight.
      You can try visualization also as your body is somewhat holographic but I think you need to move.

  48. I am moving, is there anything else other than weight loss to attract boys.

    1. Yes there is a lot. Love sees with the heart and not with the eyes, so develop yourself spiritually and mentally as the brain is the biggest organ for attraction. If you want to talk style, be natural. Grow your hair long, do not fry, dye or perm it. Just be natural and take really good care of your diet. When it comes to clothes keep it simple. Jeans and a quality white t-shirt with subtle lipstick is enough.
      I am a guy. I know what I am talking about with girls. I have meet enough in my life and travels on a cordial basis. There is no way I would be attracted to a girl if I did not think she was not developing her mind and dreaming in a romantic idealistic way.
      I wish I would explain in another way but it is true. Carl Jung wrote about self individualization. If you are not on this path you will lose your appeal.

  49. Can you tell me some clues how we know that a guy has a crush on a girl? What is the main clue.

    1. If a guy looks at you he likes you. Guys are all about visual stimulation. While girls fall in love with what comes through their ears, guys their eyes. So the main clue is if the guy is attracted to you is eye contact, you catch him looking at you a lot. Some guys like me are shy are not always good with this, but if he looks you in the eye or at least talks to you he is interested. That is all.

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