I am so out of the game. I do not want to mislead you. However, my knowledge is relevant more than ever.
Great knowledge is often forgotten
Yes I am aware of all the chatting apps to meet strangers and girls on your cell phone. Apps like:
These are to name a few. I may review some of these someday. I am not against technology. However, real power comes from somewhere else besides the Playstore or the Apple Store.
Don’t be too proud of this technology…The ability to destroy a planet is insignificant next to the power of the Force.Darth Vader
What I have learned in my PhD research
For example, I started researching monetary theory for my PhD. I read scores of articles in modern literature. However, now I am a reading few modern economists, rather researching the classics Why? Because classic writers of the last two centuries had greater insights into monetary theory than the minds of today. In fact, modern information I find on the web is vastly inferior.
Knut Wickell, or Ludwig Von Mises or Carl Menger, for example, are eons beyond Paul Krugman or something you find on a web search. These minds of the past penetrated deeper into the reality of our current day economics, than the noise that streams through modern technology, like our cell phone.
If Bobby Fisher were alive today and starting out, he could dominate chess, with or without the current technology. He started out on chess board bought at the old Five and Dime store, with a sometimes homeless single mother. The key thing is he was interested in chess and his ability to take risks (more on that latter). Metaphorically and literally, often technology makes us weak. If you drive everywhere we get fat. If we use dating apps and social media too much, we get authentically feeble and so do the girls we meet.
Do not let technology deny you of your birthright. Be the great person that you are.Mark Biernat
I coach chess and can beat the other coaches hands down. They use Fritz, one of the best phone app and computer-based chess coaches. I just use my brain. Old school still works. I improved the most taking simply a minor piece on a board and moving it until the patterns became embedded in my mind and I could visualize the board.
The key here is, not if your approach to getting dates, you will always get dates, but do you get the right ones. Try grounding yourself in the real-world or use technology as an ‘after thought’ rather than your hook, line and sinker. If you really want win, and I mean the love of your life be willing to try unconventional methods.
What effect has this technology had on making you a better human being? What effect has this technology had on you, or as important, ‘the girl who catches your eye’ a better human being? That is all that matters.
So how is this different than anything in life? If not real more fun the virtual? To feel pain and disappointment better than to be dropped by a chick digentally. I want real. I want to feel pain.
Better to feel pain than nothing at all
If the best stock traders of the past, were to be placed back into the stock market game today, I image with a little updating, they would do well. What is Shakespeare were alive, would the cell phone enhance the beauty of his words?
Da Vinci would not need digital software to create masterpieces, and if he had would they have been timeless works of art? What about Mozart who contrary to popular myth did not create music out of thin air, but studied it since infancy.
Yes use your phone and social media to find girls
My point is the wisdom you need to meet the love of your life has little to do if you use technology or not. Yes, use your phone if you want. Yes, use dating websites. It is OK. Call girls on their mobile phones. It is fine as long as you know what is real and what is not.
- Once you get strong again, like you were as a child full of imagination and hope, you might want to discard the crutches.
Remember, the key determinate criteria if you will meet the girl of your dreams is the technology of your brain and heart. The heart thinks and not just metaphorically, but it beyond the scope of this article. These two organs are better than any cell phone connection.
I remember this poor Chinese teen that sold one of his kidney’s to buy an iPhone 1. Where is that technology now compared to the priceless part of his body?
Relay on your own hardware and software. Develop and update that software rather than your phone or the next app or social media advice.
Awareness equated with dating power
What is real? How do you define real ‘? If you’re talking about what you can feel what you can smell what you can taste and see then real is simply electrical signals interpreted by your brain?Morpheus
Try to understand what is real and what is not. That has been a recurrent theme that I write about.
Because what is real will get you to marital bliss. What is not real is a house built on sand.
You build your house on what is not real, it will be washed away.
If a girl is obsessed with her phone now, do you think she will be different when you are married? The kids will be crying and dinner will be burning and she will be on Facebook or checking her mobile phone or taking a selfie.
You might consider a girl who for some reason is not on her phone too much or uses it, but is not overwhelmed by it. I do not know if my wife is the ultimate yardstick for everyone, but she dislikes having any images of herself on the web. I basically forced her once to do a YouTube video on a Chromebook, as an experiment, but that was it.
Perhaps consider someone who does not put themselves out there.
I even saw a Mennonite woman who did a YouTube on her morning routine. I understand, they are a new family and need to generate web income. But I lost a little respect for her.
Think of the 1960s and 1970s, during the Sexual revolution. People were connecting left and right before technology. Or the 14th Century France with the ideal of courtly love. What do you think the Middle Ages was about? People had fewer distractions so whatever were they doing, you know the people who had 14 kids and all? I do not see too many people having that many kids today.
Not to mention the huge decline in male ‘seed count’ over the last fifty years. I wonder if that has anything to do directly or indirectly with technology?
An acquaintance of mine runs a dating website
The guy runs one of the largest dating websites and cell phone apps in the world. I will not say which one. I use to work with him. Fifteen years of running it he is still not married. He wants to get married, but girls do not stay with him. In stark contrast, I see a lot of guys who are humble, poor locals, with do lawn care who know who to sweet talk a girl without a phone or technology get married and stay married have children and live happily ever after.
How I would meet a girl today
Do you want a happy life? Find a chick who is not putting herself out there. Meet her in a club or in Church or on some charity project or in school. Most of my students still meet in school. Take a class in foraging food in the wild. Join a permaculture group or a cooking class, travel. Go aboard and meet women.
I am going to Europe in a few weeks for my school. If I was not married, and I am 100% married, do you think I would have any trouble meeting women everywhere I go? I do not even bring my cell phone when I travel. The airport, the youth hostel, the street, the market? All without a phone.
Friends, meeting a girl has to do with where you are in your life. If you have “wisdom” in the old-school sense. Meeting the love of your life will just happen, when you have been tested and tried in life. technology come with improving technological devices or flirting techniques or advice from others on the web who are not married themselves on where and how to connect with women. My advice is wisdom trumps all of this.
For the foolishness of God is wiser than human wisdom, and the weakness of God is stronger than human strength.1 Corinthians 1:25
In fact, I am writing part of my Ph.D. on this premise in economics. Specifically improved econometric techniques and computing power have not to lead us to money macro equilibrium or optimal economic income diversity or high growth.
Attitude determines altitude
I promise you the power of your spiritual level will determine your mate. So if I were you, I would work this unseen intangible side and you will be running from the girls who are chasing you. This depends not on what you look like or how much money you have in your bank account or cell phone apps you have. Take the attitude that this world is largely illusionary and the things people focus on like money and looks are not what is real. It is like the matrix or Plato’s Allegory of the caves. Once you realize this, you will be unstoppable and be able to get chicks movies stars cannot.
What are you trying to tell me? That I can dodge bullets? – Neo
No, Neo. I’m trying to tell you that when you’re ready, you won’t have to. – Morpheus
Look at me, in my basic clothes, and not having two nickels to rub together, I would get dates from top looking women all day long. That is not a boast it is a fact. I do not want to, nothing would be more unappealing to me.
What if your life thus far has been pretty sucky?
What is if you have an average or boring or a painfully lonely life so far? What if you tried everything and God does not seem to answer your prayers (God hears, he is saying learn patience). You tried and you are tired of it all. Great you have the red badge of courage, the battle scars of life. You will be stronger for it.
I would be able to get the dates not because of my texting ability and agility, but because much of my life was pain, suffering and lament. This raised my awareness. People look at me say ‘you are so happy’, what could you have gone through? It does not matter.
Take your suffering and offer it up to God.
Start to realize your power, and see yourself for who you really are, a great spiritual being. A strand of energy between heaven and earth and on a mission to do something beyond great in this world, something people do not do now days. I don’t know something crazy, like having a family and raising children with more importance than your career or fame.
Additionally, I am well read. I read books with paper pages. Books, you know the classics or modern writers who read the classics.
I take risks like living in other countries, including where I do not speak the language. Taking small risks at first and then build to bigger risks.
Take a day of rest. Go off the grid every Sunday (or Saturday). Do not shop or spend money or work, rather go on a day trip in nature after service once a week.
I believe in prayer. I believe in humility as one of the sweetest virtues. I travel in my imagination during the day and daydream a lot.
All this sums up to a person that women and others respond to and they do not know why. It is this intangible quality of life that attracts women.
Just think about it OK?