Why do good girls like bad boys?
This is total horse hockey. Good girls do not like bad boys. I do not care what you think, it is wrong. I am a good boy and I never had any trouble getting girls interested in me. Girls do not like bad boys and the ones that go for them are disgusting and lost souls.
Let me explain why this ridiculous myth exists. Further, why people in the men’s and women’s magazines like to perpetuate it. In one simple sentence:
People look to the example and not the rule.
I know scores of relationships between normal girls and good guys. But if one freak is dating a pretty little dolly, then everyone looks at them and says ‘see’. People remember exceptions and ignore the norm.
The truth is neither found in the beginning or the end but always the whole – Hegal
That is, people look at a flash in time and extrapolate this to be the grand reality. Remember the opera is never over until the corpulent lady sings.
- Marriages between two good people are the only ones that work and are worth it.
If you think girls like bad guys, go to another country that does not have such disproportional number of hyper materialistic egocentric women. You will get educated real fast about women. You will have very nice decent ladies, real ladies flocking to you. I think in the USA there is a higher percentage of women that go for bad guys (and sometimes girls) than in normal dating havens like Poland or Argentina for example. I have written here about how to find a good wife.
If you are a girl reading this post and you go for the bad guy, leave a comment and tell me what your experience with this is. But I doubt any women would, because good girls do not go for bad guys, except in articles by pop pseudo psychology of the popular press.
Why do girls not like me?
Two basic reasons why girls do not go for you, either you are not easy-going and charming or you are not romantic or both.
Easy going light and breezy gets girls – This is one of the most important characteristic for a guy that wants to date. If a guy is easy and light and no stress, he is cool. If he is charming even better. Charm is getting what you want without having to ask. Charm and easygoing will melt hearts.
A guy may or may not need to be good-looking. I am a good guy who is easy-going. I am also a choir boy by some comparisons. But when it comes to real life and interacting with people, I am like a Hawaiian suffer dude on the beach.
If you want to get girls be easy and flexible and non-judgmental. Like the Beatles’s song says:
if you go carrying pictures of Chairman Mao, you are not going to make it with anyone anyhow
This means do not go trying to make yourself right by engaging women in a discussion about some abstract ideology (girls rarely thing this way) when you could be tell her how her beauty is from a midnight summers dream.
Dreamy and romantic – Forget women that go for money and primitive manifestations of power (numbers of digits in your bank account, car price tag or senior manager or directors and up). Live your ideal and you will have a cornucopia of girls to chose from for mating and marriage. When I was poor I got just as many women to date me as when I was rich.
If you have no charm or imagination read some romantic poets to her like Heinrich Heine:
I love your pale and slender body,
Your limbs answer love’s caresses,
Passionate eyes, and forehead covered
With heavy waves of thick, black tresses.
You are the one. You are the one. I have always searched for
In foreign lands, in every weather.
You are my sort; you understand me;
As equals we can talk together.
Be romantic and read it with all the sincerity as you look into her eyes and in a foreign language even better. Whisper sweet nothings in her ears and make the moon appear in the sky and the stars shine at night for her. Or at least a sincere complement about her shoes, you know women put a lot of thought into their shoes.
To get girls tell them about your romantic fantasies and stories of your adventures in life and youth. Your words should be borderline erotica, but never cross the line. They love this stuff. It gets their blood going. If you do not have a countless stories to tell girls, start living a bit more.
What women do not like:
- Meaty guys – These guys are actually harmless but ridiculous, the male equivalent of insecure clubbing girls. If a guy is really secure and confident about himself he does not need to put energy into a tough persona. When I was pumping iron, I realized I was like a neurotic teenager who got his self worthy defined by his image. Once I lived my life on my own terms, I could easily have stolen girlfriends from macho guys, but had no desire to.
- Rich guys – Girls that factor money and success into the equation of love are (insert bad word in the plural). I love it when girls say I want love and money. I immediately think (insert bad word in the singular). When I was rich I got the strangest girls (reptilian) in Boston’s Beacon Hill to date me. For many gals to take me seriously in Boston, I had to be at a reasonable level in my career, then they would consider me. They would prefer Doctors, Harvard grads or Vps. They expect things from men and have standards way above their own level of beauty. What nut jobs these girls were. They would go on and on about the most meaningless things. I wonder if they are married today and if they are good luck. f you are relaying on your money to attract women you will run in trouble somewhere, lets home it is not after you get married and are waiting for the sweet kiss of death to set you free.
- Bad guys – Basically guys who either are slaves to their appetitive limbic desires or untrustworthy. Either definition in my books spells weakness. Yeah every lady dreams of a guy that will cheat on them. Bad guys are really just mamma’s boys. Their mothers took care of them and now some poor girlfriend must be their mommy.
So if you wonder why girls like bad men, think again.They don’t. Girls go for easy-going charming romantic guys, it just so happens some bad guys have these qualities. But good guys also have these qualities.
Power, including allure and attraction is independent of your moral alignment in the universe, darkness or light. But in the end good always wins over evil. Good knights (even if their mettle is tested in the purgatory of loneliness) get their princess and live happily ever after. Bad guys lose in life’s unseen battle between good and evil.