What makes a girl beautiful
There are a lot of myths that are being circulated out there about what is beautiful and what is attractive on a girl. They are perpetuated with psychological studies by ivory tower professors who would not know a beautiful girl if they saw one. Then they are circulated though the largest receptacle for recycled information in the world, the Internet. Lastly, girls read these article of allure and attraction and get the wrong ideas about what beauty is. Women are the worst critics of themselves when it comes to physical attraction. The purpose of this post is to set the record straight about what is attractive on a girl, from a man’s perspective.
Beauty is destiny – I have gotten a lot of girls writing about my post on what is attractive on a girl. People think I give the ugly truth in an uncompassionate way. I find this odd. Why? My underlying premise is beauty is not something you are born with, but something you create. The way you attract the opposite sex for dating and mating is by creating beauty. Only elitist believe beauty is born.
I give you useful information, what you choose to do with it is up to you.
What beauty is not
Myths of beauty started where all myths are started, with the ancients. People talk about proportion and will show you statues of ancient Greek goddesses. However, I think if one of these statues came to life it would not hold a candle to an average Russian girl. An average Russian girl turns heads not matter what proportions she is born with. Why she knows what works when it comes to attracting men. If you want to be hot you can be, no matter what you are born with.
Now, the reason the experts are wrong is they do not assign weights to their observed characteristics of physical attraction. It would be as impossible as creating a predictive model of the economy. Too many exogenous and endogenous variables.
Let me put it to you another way, your brain as more potential connections than stars in the universe. That is a fact. To find a match for you, your other half is a personal thing and nothing to do with some academic thesis paper on beauty.
Lets look at some of their imperfections.
Facial Symmetry – wrong. Not even close to being important. The romantics believed there is a strange beauty in disproportionality. You can reference all kinds of academic study that say symmetry. You can argue it is important for dating because people see these as a signal for good genes. I disagree. Many symmetrical looking parents have challenged children. Nature works in mysterious ways. More important physical signals for dating do not add up. The experts never tell you the weights of each of these factors. I would give facial beauty less than 1%.
- However, here is a research study if you want to ready more on this aspect of what is beautiful.
Height – Studies claim being short for a woman is an advantage as there is a ratio of men’s height to woman’s height that is optimal. The idea is short women have more potential partners. This is bunk. Me I like tall women ( I like short women too. I guess I just like women and this is the attitude of most men). I do not care if a woman is taller than me. Not would I care if she is short. It is not a big weight in the equation of beauty, pun intended.
Hip to waist ratio – One name. Evangeline Lilly. The girl has a body like a boy, no hips, however, by any measure she sets a standard for beauty. Few guess would say she is not hot. It is more about being thin than the expansiveness of your birthing hips you are born with.
Color of hair – wrong. Be natural do not color, dye, perm or fry. Mousey brown is hot if that is your natural color.
Color of skin – wrong. In southern cultures they like light, when I went to Latin America heads turned with my blond hair, blue eyes and fair skin. In northern culture people like dark (tanning, Italian look). It also depends on the time and person. Be yourself no matter what color you are.
What beauty is
Physical beauty is what gets neurons in the opposite sex to fire and trigger a reaction that will get you the attention you deserve. And believe me you deserve attention, as I have never seen a woman who was not beautiful. You could have had an accident or born with serious physical challenges but to me, I would think you are beautiful. I mean this sincerely. So these ideas are just ways the average girl can improve her look.
In life there are things you can change, things you can not change and things that really matter. Luckily for us the first and the last are the same when it comes to beauty.
The things that really matter are the things you can change.
I would nominate hair and body as the most important factors in physical attraction. I would say this is over 90%. Look at Jennifer Aniston. At one time she was the hottest girl in America, and she is nothing special except beautiful hair and body.
Look at any top model, basically no chest, thin and long hair and a funny looking face. Some really look strange with big ears or noses etc. But they all have a body and long hair. Every female face is beautiful, if the hair and body is in place. Then in the most natural way you can enhance your look with maybe natural lipstick and a smile.
Hair and attraction – Contrary to popular belief hair is your largest secondary sex characteristic. That is a fact. All you have to do is grow it long, even to the small of your back. Why do girls want to artificially inflate their chest? They could simply grow their hair long and guys will flock to you more than any silicon beauty.
Also with your hair keep it natural as possible. The beauty industry is a big market, and added to this women give horrible advice to their girlfriends about hair. Hence all the mixed messages and wrong ideas, maybe it is subconscious and they want to knock out the competition. Read my lips, long hair is hot, a bob is not. Sorry but it is true.
How do you take care of your crowing glory? I am using a little of my daughter’s baby shampoo for shampoo and conditioner in one. For me this leaves my hair softer and nicer than any high-priced conditioner. Or use a natural conditioner, something you make yourself or get at whole foods type stores.
Eat right, take vitamins and if you really have to, try nail buffing a reflexology technique to increase hair luster or have a pack of gelatine a day.
But remember the bottom line is your hair is the most important characteristic to attract guys, not some body part.
Think of a guy with a really good hair cut, he gets noticed. Or an animal with a shiny coat, no question it attracts at a primitive level. It is even more true for women. Long hair is a sign of submissiveness or at least femininity. Now you might not be into that personality wise (guys are), but it works for animal attraction. Then you can let the guy figure out for himself about what your personality is about. However, at least you attracted a date.
Shape and physical attraction – Thin is in, or at least toned is good. Being a fat girl is a powerful message that you do not want to compete or be healthy. If you do not understand about proper nutrition, than chances are your off spring are going to be a chip off the old block and not care too. For mating, dating and passing your genes, longevity, the ability to have energy and get things done, being unhealthy and overweight all translates into you not being the best selection when it comes to romantic love and reproduction.
Newsflash: there is something you can do about your shape. Body shape might be in the genes but whether you actualize this and how you live is your choice. You can do something about your health. You are not a victim.
How do you start if you want to be a skinny girl? Start by educating yourself on what is proper nutrition. Many people over-estimate their caloric needs. I am very active and basically have one good meal and a few healthy snacks.
I have not had a car for over ten years. I might have to walk two hours a day for shopping but so what, I save money on the gym. I eat salads and soups and never go hungry. It is a small price to pay for feeling great. You can use your imagination and what fits into your lifestyle but where there is a will there is a way.
The biggest problem is people replace self actualization like learning a language, travel or learning a musical instrument with eating. It is easier, address this issue, become a Renaissance person it will be good for your dating life.
If your job is making you fat because of stress or whatever, quit your job. I mean it. You will be happier and have less money to spend on food. What good is money if you have no love or health?
What style will attract men – I have written a lot about beauty and style so there is not need to rehash this too much, you can explore my website. However, basically simple is better. Women that spend an inordinate about of money on clothes are perhaps trying to compensate for unhappiness in their love life and are sending a message to a dating partner that you are high maintenance or they will have to compete with you. Love is never about competition.
Clothes do make the woman to some extent. Do you remember Bridget Jones Diaries? She did not get her boss to notice her until she wore a see through top. With the right style you can compensate for any physical flaw in your looks, but grow your hair and get in shape.
Remember there is a complex stratification of reality. As humans there is more to us than animal attraction. There is physical attractiveness, spiritual and intellectual attractiveness. They are interrelated. Develop all three. Humans are multidimensional and it is so unhigh to see a girl who has no idea about transcendence. A Jersey girl would do nothing for me. Why?
How to be beautiful
We are but strands of energy between heaven and earth and why you exude has more to do with who you are than your chest size or facial symmetry. If you do not believe me you will be lonely.