Marry an ordinary girl

Normal, ordinary women are so cordial. Is there anyone that will dispute this? You want a normal girl for a wife.

Do not be mislead by feminism that as destroyed the dating scene in the USA Nor the false light of economic security, that during the great recession has proven to be the biggest house of sand.

If you want to know where to find a girl to be your wife and lady friend,  it is easy, open your mind and read my website or ask me. I have hundreds of ideas and specific facts on where to go, such as free dating websites or countries to travel to, on a shoe string to find your other half. I found my extraordinary ordinary girl and so can you.

My normal girl makes my home peaceful and sweet like out of a Thomas Kinkade fantasy life.

List of women you do not want to marry

  1. High powered career women – you will find yourself getting your hand slapped when you reach into the cookie jar. If girls strive for power at work they will try to dominate at home and your testosterone levels will decrease. I believe people are who they are and do not change magically when they walk in the door from work. If they are tigers and sharks at work there is a consistency of values and this will extend to their personal lives, unless they live by some idealist code of ethics to temper this.
  2. American women who think they are career women  – but are really pushing paper in marketing, or HR. If you marry them the benefit of their modest salaries will be fully absorbed by excessive consumption and your children will be in some daycare somewhere and not experiencing the most important and precious years of life with their mommy. I loved that my mother was there for me.  There will be ego issue involved also and battles at home that are about defusing work stress. I am not against women and careers at all. I am saying for a guy to choose a lady friend know where her priories are.And the same advice goes for women seeking a husband.
  3. Actresses –  Or anyone in any high-profile position. Power corrupts. I have no idea why guys and girls are gaga over high-profile people from athletics to movie stars or flashy business people, to anyone in the news or limelight.  If you fall for a noteworthy person there will be a high flight factor and inordinate  chances of a divorce, and nobody wants that.
  4. Female lawyers –  Real Estate layers are fine, but any women who does ‘family law’ the new euphemism for divorce lawyer should be avoided. These women promote the break up of marriage and make their living off of it. This is not what the Bible or Church teaches as moral.
  5. Female Doctors and PhDs – Sometimes marrying a female doctor is good because they are compassionate, however, others are all about being a Doctor and have told me they can only marry a doctor, which is ironic because Male doctors go for beauties more than brains in my observation. Intellectual pursuits are good when tempered with humility and knowing that we all add up to 100%. No one is smarter or better than another. If you choose to jump through hoops as defined by society as honorable, do it for your own intellectual satisfaction or else your ego will inflate and pride comes before the fall.

Enter the ordinary girl

My ordinary wife who is humble loyal and beautiful. Remember: happy wife, happy life. You do not need materialistic drama or materialistic nihilists to bring you down, no matter what their status in society is. Marry a normal girl with a good heart.

My wife’s father  has always describe his daughter as ‘just an ordinary girl’. He tells everyone ‘oh she is just an ordinary girl’.   That is, nothing special. He loves his daughter with all his heart, however, the comment was more like nothing as defined by society like a corporate lawyer. Guys listen up, you want to marry an ordinary girl.

My the ordinary girl is extraordinary. She Speaks English and Polish and also learned German and French (paid for lessons on her own with her salary of 300 a month living on Ramen noodles but it was more important to learn). Oh she has a Master’s degree and some medical school. She has travelled through Europe, Africa and Asia with me. She lives with me on a tropical island and has her own website she runs and raises our daughter.

I think she is beautiful and no ordinary girl. She is a great cook, intellectually curious and just fun to be around. She did not distinguished herself in careers nor does she wear fancy clothes to cloak her problems in hyper materialism to fill an existential void.

She is a humble, simple girl who wants to live a normal life with her husband and daughter. She grew up in a poor village in Eastern Europe.

This is the type of girl you want to marry. A diamonds in the rough. Do not worry about what other people think of your girl. She is your girl. If she has ideals and morals and is beautiful for you that is all that matters.

The same can be said for a woman looking for a guy. Marry a guy with ideals who is plain and flies beneath the radar in life. Your blessings in life will  not be money or power or earthly measures of success but a life of love.

If you want further advice or guidance on finding the love of your life just ask.

Author: Mark Biernat

I live in with family between two worlds, US and Europe where I create tools for language learning. If you found my site you probability share my passion to be a life long learner. Please explore my site and comment.

8 thoughts on “Marry an ordinary girl”

  1. I love this guy’s site and his advice. Marry an ordinary girl. Not a woman with an ego. and not a woman with ambition. My only ambition in life is to love and spend as much time as I can with my wife and children and to provide for their natural needs.

    1. Thanks, I am very happy in our relationship and have been for years.

      My wife literally greets me at the door with a drink (tropical smoothie with a unbrella in it) when I come home from work, in her bikini and barefoot. She wants to make me happy. That is her ambition.

      However, I live my life for her. Anything she wants. We live on a tropical island with my daughter and life is nice.

      In contrast I was talking to this American girl at work today, she drops her 3 month old baby, and 3-year-old at day care all day, drives a Mercedes L class SUV and lives under a mountain of debt from her 900,000 dollar apartment.

      Her and her husband work 24/7 to pay for their lavish life style while her kids space out in some daycare. Is that love or love American style? Many ladys in the USA would like that.

      In my experience she is not too friendly and I would not want to be married to that lady. She is all about ambition and money. Maybe she is a nice lady, I guess, you know American working gals, but she spends a lot on her look and is high mataintance.

      The choice of life is yours. Guys do not be mislead by women as women can manipulate men into thinking the wrong way. What is the wrong way? The way that is against a normal understanding that life and marriage is based on love and has nothing to do with money, or power and secular manifestations. Read Corinthians 13 and see what this says about love and contrast it with what people say is love and you will have the reason why so many are unhappy.

      If you can not find an ordinary girl in the USA. Take a flight to South America or Eastern Europe. Lots of cordialties there.

      Matt Damon, a guy who could have married any girl in the USA, married a Cuban barmaid from Miami. He is happy. Take a cue from Jason Bourne.

      1. You made a good point as far as your willingness to do whatever it takes to make her happy.
        “However, I live my life for her. Anything she wants.”
        I think that is what will make or break any marriage. No woman wants to be a man’s slave. She wants to be loved. So any man in America wanting to get a foreign wife must realize this point. You can’t expect her to serve you if you are not willing to serve her!

        By the way, what kind of website does your wife run? Is it a business? or just a hobby site?

  2. I’m back again.

    You are so right in this article.

    My girlfriend inspires me to do better, and never ceases to amaze me. Much like you describe. Who would of thought that? Plus I love talking about world issues. It seems she always makes me think about them in another way. I just think. I could have never thought of that but, wow that’s a great idea.

    I was so worried when you said lawyer. She is going to be a lawyer but, she does civil law and works to protect consumers right now. They work for no cost, and only hope they get some if they win the case.

    She is Russian.

    Thanks for a wonderful site.

  3. Hi,
    I am probably one of your youngest female readers, I am a teenager (almost 18), and I was wondering what age you thought was best to start looking for a husband, should I start now or wait until I have finished university?
    I would also like to thank you for your fantastic advice, I have genuinely taken it to heart to try to better myself, I am currently growing out my hair and healthily losing weight, but I’m doing it without focusing on it, I am focusing on expanding my mind and continuing trying to be a humble, simple girl, and I don’t think I’ve been so happy with my life before, by not be so concerned with social status and what people think of me, I’ve been able to accept myself for who I am and try to make sure that my time is well spent rather than wasted on putting on heaps of makeup, dying and straightening my hair or shopping for the most stylish clothes. I am now determined to live simply and naturally.
    On a separate note, you say to not marry a career woman (such as a lawyer, actress etc.) what types of careers do you think are best for a woman? I was thinking of studying science and becoming a high school teacher, do you think this job would have a healthy environment so I don’t get caught up in materialistic dogma and selfish career-pushing?

    1. When you meet your other half is not important, but who is the only question.
      There are two schools of thought about getting married. One is experience the world and when you are ready to settle down, find the right person. The second school of thought is find the right one, and this is all you will ever need.

      I am from the second school of thought. Although I met my wife midway though life’s journey I wish I had met her when I was 18. My parents met when they were teenagers and they are in their 80s and still happy together 65 + years . My brother met when he was like 20 and they are 35 years married. I have only positive examples of young marriage and success. Yet I met my current life latter and we are so happy together. Maybe we would not have had the maturity to handle an adult relationship as I was so immature emotionally when I was younger. I was smart and highly principled yet, I think I was not easy going. I did not have the wisdom to understand patience and calmly weather every storm. If my wife is upset for any reason, I can be a rock and anchor and calm for her. If I was 21 I might react different. I am accepting and peaceful. This took years of work.

      Yet I still think if I met her at any age it would have worked as it all about finding your one and only, the right one.

      So I think for a modus operandi love should be based on the idea that there is one great love in your life. Find that love. And when you do stick to that person no matter what. I would not ever leave my wife nor she me. Even if we were both miserable with each other, we would not break, because when you find your other half the love is greater than happiness or self.

      The issue today is making sure your partner feels the same. Too many people are just whatever. Deep real feelings of love and ideals. Find a guy that is highly idealistic. Someone that believes in fairy-tales for example. I always loved fairy-tales and this is what I am living.

      I believe you get what you believe.

      I dreamed up my wife, I went to the Royal city of Krakow and found her near the castle after living by the castle we flew back the US after many years and live on a semi-tropical island in the old town of St. Augustine. My life is a fairy-tale. But I always believed in one. So you get what you believe in.

      Focus not on when to get married but the vision of what your dream. Not if I should look in college or when I am 35 but rather who rather than when.

  4. I am probably one of your youngest female readers, I am a teenager (almost 18), and I was wondering what age you thought was best to start looking for a husband, should I start now or wait until I have finished university?

    I would also like to thank you for your fantastic advice, I have genuinely taken it to heart to try to better myself, I am currently growing out my hair and healthily losing weight, but I’m doing it without focusing on it, I am focusing on expanding my mind and continuing trying to be a humble, simple girl, and I don’t think I’ve been so happy with my life before, by not be so concerned with social status and what people think of me, I’ve been able to accept myself for who I am and try to make sure that my time is well spent rather than wasted on putting on heaps of makeup, dying and straightening my hair or shopping for the most stylish clothes. I am now determined to live simply and naturally.

    On a separate note, you say to not marry a career woman (such as a lawyer, actress etc.) what types of careers do you think are best for a woman? I was thinking of studying science and becoming a high school teacher, do you think this job would have a healthy environment so I don’t get caught up in materialistic dogma and selfish career-pushing?

    1. I am a corporate warrior myself. I have been a veteran of the cubes and office at work for more years than you have been alive. In my experience you need to find something that mentally challenges you as a human. But never ever give up your ethics and commitment to your family and values.

      I had a conversation with my boss the other day. She said her priority in life was the company. I said mine was ethics and family then behind that was a job. I might make 200,000 dollars this year, maybe a little less but I do well in business if I have to because I am smart. But the bottom line is I will never compromise my honestly and ethics at work. Ethics always comes before every job. I would rather live off the grid an honest man then be an unethical person.

      If you can live with ethics, then it does not matter your career. But you have to live it. I stayed at home with my wife and daughter for years and lived poor so I could be with them. People thought it was odd I was Mr. Mom. I did not care. I was man enough to realizes what was important in life. It did not hold back my career. I had an interview for a job making $250,000 dollars a year but turned it down because did not want to work that much as it would require time away from my family.

      We were happier living in St. Augustine or Krakow, growing our own food and fishing and not having a car. Do not go for money. Only go for love and family and career is to pay the bills.

      I think good jobs for women are things that use their brains like a professor/teacher or working in science/research or medical, or graphic design or something that helps humanity like a non-profit. The Machiavellian business world is good only if you are firm in your convictions and can walk the walk. There are good people at work but many have questionable ethics. Women need flexibility also with their families more then men.
      Accounting is also not bad but requires a lot of hours. Getting a real estate license is also good. I have this. These are some ideas.

      If I was a female I would choose something I really love and like me, this passion for something will translate into money if you want it to. I would be a history professor if I had to do it all over again but that is me.

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