A lot of guys tell me they can not go to one country or the other because they do not speak the language of that country.Â Incorrect logic.
When I meet my wife I had been in Poland for about a month and did not speak Polish, except what I learned inÂ a little here and there, and she did not speak English except what she heard on songs and movies growing up. We could not speak the same language. I do not know how but we communicated. Something about attraction transcends languages.Â Snapchat, meaningful texting was out, spending time with her and learning to communicate was in play.
The good thing, ironically was she did not want to go out with me. It gave me time to learn a little Polish and her to learn a little English why I tried. At first we spoke Polish then I got lazy or her English took off and and then I got lazy. I tend to think for evolutionary reasons women can pick up a language easier (because women were required to transcend culture for marriage purposes and raising the children).
Therefore, the last thing you have to worry about is language.
More important than language
Worry if she believes in God and is walking the walk. Worry if she has intellectual curiosity. Worry if she is super hot and will stay hot (determining if a girl will stay hot is another story).
But language, not an issue.Â Language is a cipher. It is not something real, but a man made tool. And with all tools you can improvise.
Think of it like a recipe, if you do not have sugar, you can improvise. The other day I made homemade frozen yogurt and we were low in sugar, so,Â I used other sweeteners like honey and stevia (I need to grow this plant). You similarly can sweeten the pot with other things besides fluent communication in a language. What about just walking and holding hands. What about teaching each other words, that is one of the best non-scary ways to get to know someone.
Origin of language in a philosophical sense
Existentialist philosopher say the genesis of language is the primordial scream of man when he first discovered he was alone in this universe in the wild. He became aware and needed to start to communicate beyond survival. I believe language is overrated, and that is coming from someone who creates language learning programs. What is behind the language is what counts. It is the awareness of life that matters not how one expresses it.
Religion is like a language. We are all expressing our belief in the Ultimate reality and are longing to be whole in our own ways of expression.Â What matters in religion is the authenticity of the person behind the rituals.Â Similarly what matters behind the language, is the feelings and person.
Many people speak the language but do not understand and many people speak different languages and communicate perfectly.Â Stretching it a little is that not what Jesus was saying? He was communicating with not only the Jews but the Samaritans and people not in his culture.
They have eyes but they do not see, they have ears but do not hear – Mark 8:18
Hearing and having words is different from understanding.
What language does God speak? All and none. It does not matter. So the same applies to earthy love
What does it matters that language in dating is not a barrier mate selection?
It matters.Â If you are a man or women, you are basically saying there are no limits. And this is the way it should be. We are going for the love of your life, not someone who makes sense. Love never makes sense. Love is always upside down and all wrong to start. It is one of the rites of passages to be able to overcome this. If you are not willing to suffer for love, than you are not worthy to be called a lover. Where is your piss and vinegar? Where is your zeal for the surreal experience of this life?
If you love someone what does it matter the language they speak or the culture they come from.Â In fact it is beautiful to hear someone speak another language that you do not understand, it is like music.
What matters is you both are committed to each other, that you will be gentle not competitive. You will be patient. Love does not know ambition. Love is not about money, career or standard of living, but about love of each others as you are on your journey to the source of all love, God.
The math of dating a uni-linguistic person
More mathematically, lets say there are 375 million native English speakers. Lets say 1/4 of them are single females. That is 93.75 million women. I know my numbers are way off, but this estimate is to make a point.Â If there are 7.6 billion people in the world then 1/4 of that is 1.9 billion single women in total. That means if you do not worry about language you will get a 501% increase in the number of single girls to date if you ignore this one aspect. That is a lot.Â I personally think the best ones are outside the realm of native English speakers and there is less competition for one reason or anther. That means you personally could marry a 10. Yes you, if you jettison your hang ups.
Are you telling me you are that defeated by life that you can not find the girl for you out of a pool of 2 billion girls? Do you know how much a billion is? If every girls was on Tinder, and you observed their photo for a second, it would take
How many seconds in 2 Billion? 63 years,Â 138 days 5 minutes and 49.5686 seconds.Â Â And here is the kicker, there are new girls coming on the market everyday, so even that statistic is understated.Â Also you have to sleep and do other things.Â It would take more than a lifetime.
Zeno’s Paradox of the Tortoise and Achilles and dating
My point is if you accept my premise that language does not matter, in one second you increase your chances of meeting your other half.Â If you know calculus as the limit approaches a number, it becomes that number.Â This explains Zeno’s Paradox of the Tortoise and Achilles. The take away is the more you remove the mental restrictions from your brain,Â the math says with great certainty (and patience) you will 100% meet your mate.Â If you understand the paradox and I suggest you read up on it.
What would be your strategy in a languageless world?
Look for girls that you think are hot, in cultures you think are hot. For example, for me personally I had always like brunettes with a snow white look. Maybe I read too many fairy-tales, Â maybe because I come from a family of blonds.Â When I met my wife she had really dark hair, yet blue eyes and almost pale, like the Snow White look. I did not think I would meet her when I was traveling through Poland. I was not trying to meet a girl, rather, my family came from Poland and I had an interest in history.Â Eastern Europe has a lot of variation in looks because it is Slavic mixed with Jewish and Tartar, even me.
Go for what you like. If you like blonds, or redheads focus your travels on countries that a high percentage of this look. If you like the curves of Latin America, go for that. If you like South America but like blonds go for Argentina. There is something for everyone, as long as you do not restrict yourself by the language you speak.