When trying to catch a Russian female as your wife, know each bait will attract a different catch.
The Kingdom is like a net that draws all kinds of fish. When you pull it in, there will be good and bad, and you will cast the bad ones away. – Matthew 13:47-48
Hang a shiny enough bait in front of a Russian girl and you will catch her like your lady friend. The main thing here is to find someone who is idealistic. You want to think like an idealist yourself. There are many fish in the sea but you do not want to date many. Whether, Russian or American or whoever women, you want to date your one and only true love.
Consider this -American guys offer – and the potential pitfalls of thinking like a non-idealist:
- The lure of citizenship – You will pay on the way out.
- A better economic standard – You will pay on the way in and on the way out.
- The thrill of travel – Could go either way, generally worldly girls are wild and attractive but have a flight factor almost on par with American girls.
- Romantic idealism – A husband that shows more of an interest in humanistic intellectual ideas – You will find true love. 19th century Czarist Russian culture was hundreds of years of Romantic idealism. Relax on a dark lonely night and turn up some Tchaikovsky, read a little Turgenev, Lermontov or Tolstoy and this is the world Russian girls live in, try to understand it. Dostoyevsky such books should be mandatory reading for any guy searching the CIS for a lady friend.
- You want not someone interested in citizenship or money or travel, but only romantic idealism.
If you tempt a girl from Russia with one of the above, you will get married. Just know which bait will attract which female.
Choose your rut (lane) carefully you will be in it for the next 10 miles – Construction sign in upstate NY.
Just remember they are trying to hook you. It is not a one-way sport. It is a dangerous game you play if you do not realize that.
When you browse these tempting over hot-shopped hair and make-up girls on any Russian lady friends dating site, just know what you are going for. Just like you are tempting them, they try to reel you in also.
Women are man’s most dangerous plaything – Friedrich Nietzsche
The way to catch a Russian date
You want her to catch your scent, that is it.
If you put too much bait on the hook initially you might not get a better catch, but crabs on your line (literally and figuratively). Not that carbs are bad (the metaphorical kind), just that they eat your bait and they detract you from catching the prize fish you really want.
The key is do you really want to catch her with anything other than the last point, that is romantic idealism?
My advice is this: The Russian education system is still the legacy of the Soviet system and that is a classical liberal arts education. I firmly believe in this system. It teaches you what life is about. You study history, philosophy, psychology, art, languages, literature. Life is multidimensional and if you want self-actualization you need to do more than go to a technical school or business school. Even if you get out and are working as a secretary and living in a dreary block of flats, they are living at the height of their civilization. Do not think twenty years of classical education does not influence their world view, it does.
The dizziest girl in a Russian club can spin circles around you linguistically and from a humanistic standpoint. Your advantage is your Americanism, not your blue passport. Americans are practical business-oriented and master communicators. Use your communication skills to build rapport and prove to her that you are not some Oki from Skokie who thinks Plato is a modeling compound you played with as a child.
The problem with Russian girls are not scams
I am not superstitious. I do not believe in the stars of the horoscope nor have I defied stars in the media, sports and politics. My ideal is not a superficial patchwork of religion but a religion with a solid foundation and clear profile. Hans Kung – What I believe.
The problem with Russian girls on dating sites, lady friend sites Mamba or VK is this, they are not religious, period. They may have been baptized or go to Church on holidays or talk about spirituality or morals, but that is a world of difference from, seeing the purpose of life as building the Kingdom of God through humble submission to the will of the creator.
Hence, you will get a nice leggy blonde but might stew in some existential malaise most of her life. Is that how you want to live your life? It will bring you down and erode your ideals.
Better is to screen the girls solely on ideals. You might even browse girls in text mode or with a browser like Dillo. Dillo is more of a minimalist browser and it will make sure you do not see images.
Is Russian dating worth it?
Yes. I am an American married in Eastern Europe. Without a doubt, you will not get the same stress as with an American lady friend. You will have a 60% chance of divorce with an American lady friend. 20 % chance of divorce with a foreign lady friend living in the US and potentially none in other countries or if you find your other half. It is worth it to look for a Russian lady friend.
Best place to find a Russian girlfriend – when you go cast your net out
I would go on a historic tour of Russia. Learn about the history.
Talk to them in a normal way and please be honest. Do not try to impress them. If you try to impress them then they will have big expectations and then you will have to meet those exceptions.
What works if you are looking for Russian lady friends is sincerity. This does not work with many American women as they are often shown. Russian lady friends are about real.
The Tale of the Fisherman and the Fish
Alexander Pushkin wrote about it in verse. It is about a fish who grants wishes. The man who caught the fish was married and happy and lived in a humble cottage by the sea. The fish asked him and he said he was happy and required no wishes. When his wife found out her wishes were endless and this brought storm and unhappiness to the marriage. The man was able to command one wish to the fish over the noise of the storm and that was to return his marriage to the way it used to be. Let this parable be a warning to men who marry greedy Russian wives.