Dating and love is a little like a mystery novel unfolding. If it was not it would not be as fun. However, a lot of mental anxiety during the dating process comes from the fact that A likes B but B does not like A because B likes C. Have you ever had this situation? Can you imagine, if you could just read your potential dates mind, it would make it a lot easier. For example, you could be dating a girl and talking to her roommate and discern if this is really the girl who wants to date based on how much she primordially you. This post is about my favorite pet way to tell if a girl likes you.
Why signs of attraction are important
You need to be able to read the signs of potential dates, and react to them in a way that best suits your dating strategy. Information is power after all. If someone is disinterested you might want to cut your losses and move on. If you could only read a girl’s mind and know what she is thinking. Well here are a couple of ways to determine if a girl like you. There is nothing better than asking and also trying and not giving up on a girl, as I believe you can change women’s minds. However, the direct approach is often not the best because it gets all weird and akward if the answer is unclear.
However, if you want to know if a girl likes you and want some objective feedback on how you are doing with the whole winning her heart process here is one way to tell. If we could just understand what a woman thinks.
Pupil dilation as a sign if a girl is attracted to you
If you want to know how to determine if a girl likes you it is pretty easy. Look at her pupil dilation. It is a basic tenet of human psychophysiology that when someone’s pupils dilated they are excited they like you. Similarly if they contract it is a sign of disinterest.
People have individual norms for how much their pupils will dilate to stimulus so you have to base it on their baseline dilation and their reaction to you. Try to judge their reaction based on their norm and when they see you.
This works even on babies. A baby’s eyes will dilate more with some external stimulus that they like, and believe it or not attractive people.
Women’s eyes will dilate more at looking at a baby than a good-looking man.
These are primitive reactions connected to the limbic area of the brain and really can not be controlled. So make eye contact with a girl and try to observe her reactions to things and conversation. Now I am not a techniquey guy and do not advocate doing this as a modus operandi for dating, however, it is a fun thing to consider.
This is not body language mind you. Body language can be manipulated or stage. However, this is deep in the unconscious working of your brain. It would take a real yogi from India to be able to control autonomic functions like that.
In fact to give you an idea how deeply neuro-reactions are connected to this world, two Canadian engineers created a visor where they would flicker lights at your eyes and the rate of your brains reaction to those lights fairly accurately determined your IQ.
Your eyes are nothing more than an extension of your brain.
Of course pupils respond to light and darkness so you have to factor this in when you are considering evaluating levels of attraction.
In a very subtle way a woman’s lips can become fuller when interested in you. This is harder to tell than above but it not a body language thing but more a physical autonomic reaction, so I have more trust in it.
No need to rehash this in-depth as I think these are the least useful signs because they are so well know, can be staged and obvious but I will mention a few. For example, exposing her wrists, leaning forward, moving her hips (hips are an important factor in female mating and reproduction), licking her lips, point her knees when siting in your direction, taking off or playing with her shoe, caressing a drink, making circular movements with her fingers, smiling and more eye contact.
Leave a comment and let me know if you have any other ways in which you gauge a females level of attractiveness to you, if you are considering dating her or are dating her. Of course this could work for men too, but let us be honest here, women are infinitely more mysterious and interesting.