The purpose of this post is to  is to help you find true love.  It answers the question: What is the best approach to get girls cell phone number, on the web or in person? I have a definitive answer based on my personal experience.

If you want get and call a girl’s phone number you found online, reconsider this for a second. I will show you a better way! My goal is to inspire you and to get you thinking from another perspective to increase your awareness,  so at last you can find the love you deserve in your life. Yes, you do deserve true love, to settle for anything less is swindling yourself out of your own life.

Let’s start by looking at the first possibility, that is, finding a girls number from the web on some random profile.

Let’s get real about getting a girl’s number

Important point to consider: Websites that give a list females’ telephone numbers for dates are not what you think. These appear to be dating sites or directories of women’s numbers online, but unfortunately are not. If you see a number and a photo of a girl online, it is one of two possibilities:

  • Girl’s number + photo possibility #1 – Those websites are written by guys, who create a website for traffic. These self proclaimed web entrepreneurs paid for stock images and generated cell phone numbers or chat ids. These websites bait you in by making you think you are looking at girls and profile and their numbers posted. They know how to game the algorithm by making you click and spend time on their website. However, use some common sense, they are objectively not real profiles, rather, I speculate they are written by dudes. This is a form of spam on the web.
  • Girl’s number + photo possibility #2 – Someone who runs a less than reputable website, that wants to connect you for ‘relations’. If you go to those sites it is a tragic misuse of your good Karma that you will dissipate on libidinal drives. This will push you on a trajectory further from your destiny of true love. You will spend energy, time and even money and this will crowd out energy that you would have used to find the love of your life.
  • Better is listen to my advice on how to find true love. Learn to win a woman’s heart like the romantics of the past.

She’s beautiful, and therefore to be wooed; She is a woman, therefore to be won.

William Shakespeare, Henry VI, Part 1
Is it better to text a girl or contact her the old fashion way by dialing her up? What do you think the girl above would prefer?

My advice is radical but it works. Learn to be a romantic. Learn from from this website.

Here is my advice, leave your phone at home. Do not look for girls numbers online. Rather learn to meet them in person and have them give you their number. This will give you a higher probability to find true love.

Chutzpah vs. searching for girls numbers online

Therefore, if you can metaphorically or literally trash your phone and learn to  have some chutzpah you will be better off. This gumption will rocket you closer to Venus than the Martian way of web searches. Learn to meet girls in person.

For example, as a phone replacement I personally use,  a Chromebook. You can set up Google Voice and Hangouts and ditch your phone. This is what I did. I am a world traveler (visited or lived in over 20 countries).

In fact I am writing this from an Airbnb right now on a Chromebook and will call my family in the States in a bit – all on a Chromebook. You do not need your phone to get a girl, in fact it can and will slow you down. Right Swiping images and sending out messages does not work.

If you need digital communication after you have her number and have built rapport, all your calling and texting can be done with a Chromebook. However, you do not have to carry your phone with you everywhere you go like a pacifier. If you ditch your phone you will get real girls, authentic ones that you will never meet on your mobile. The best thing is these are girls other guys are not looking for, they are diamonds in the rough.

The best girls are not online. The hottest girls do not have Instagram or Facebook and are not online, rather they are too busy for that, they read books in the park or paint or do yoga or grow organic food.

You will meet these nice girls because you are lost without your phone’s GPS. You will have to ask them directions. It will force you to strike up a conversation with a woman you would have passed by because you had your phone in hand checking something useless.

The Universe might even carry you to an unknown part of the city where your one true love waits. This would not happen if you have Waze on all the time.

Parks over the Internet for romance

No digital device can replace the 3D sensory experience of the real world. Girls need their brains to be flooded with sensory rich experiences to be charmed.

The logic behind this is, your phone is a distraction from finding love. It is a energetic trap. Instead of chatting up girls on the street and meeting them in real life, you are searching and depending on your  phone for everything. My contention is it is a illusion and a trap.

Your phone’s digital display is a false light.

Mark Biernat

I travel all over the world and I do not need a phone, the money you save on roaming charges, you can buy a Chromebook. What is the point? You do not have to walk around the city with it. You can authentically as girls directions and they will help. In 2018 females still respond best to talking.

You have to learn to charm girls with who you are, not on your phone. 

Birds and the bees are better than Snapchat and Whatsapp number seaches.

I am married and this advice is based  on my experience which is personal and heartfelt. The best girls are not found online.

If you think my advice is ridiculous take a step back and think about it.

Do you really think this is the way to get a girl to fall in love with you or even meet a lady on your cell phone?  Maybe 1 in 50 will find love.

Listen man, I am with you, I have been there. I have been so painfully lonely so I know what you feel. The pain of being alone is more than any physical pain. You have ideals of love or at least hormones surging though your blood invoking such strong feeling connected to marriage and reproduction. Or maybe you just want to practice the latter, but take a second and read my dating advice.

These are stylish university students who enjoy nature. Why on earth would you need to look for phone numbers online when you have good girls who appreciate the subtle qualities of nature? Build your courage and learn to be polite and charming.

Charm is getting what you want without having to ask. If you develop the gift of gab, than women will be giving you their numbers and one day you might get married.

  • Please read this whole post and let me explain, then leave a text message or comment. In the post I give you two three real and legitimate websites for getting a fast date for tonight. This is eons better than a website promising instant gratification via a telecommunication directory of numbers. I mean you would be better off dialing up numbers from a phonebook or sending a random sms (I am not recommending this, it is my writing style to make a point). What do you want to call girls or a damsel who will inspire you to be a better man?
These are good girls of virtue. If you like the above photos of dolls just know princesses of this quality will be inaccessible to you if you squander your libido energies pursuing women’s phone numbers online. Seek purity and love and God will grant you your princess.

Consider this, I am a man of the world been from one side of this globe to the other, but I have never met a girl who is willing to put he personal information like a phone number on a website for guys to call. Be objective about this and think with your brain not with your Freudian ‘id’. I know many girls in the USA and India and Pakistan and Europe and trust me.

  • If you are looking for a local girls number to call read below about my alternatives below.

Always remember few respectable girls would leave their cell phone numbers on the web for you to call. What are you thinking man? There are a score of websites that give you the impression that you will be able to leave a one line message and someone might call you. They will not. Read my posts about such things here they have one idea:

Listen up, forget the spending so much time looking for numbers on the Internet. Travel and meet and chat with girls one-on-one. Take a look around you there are nice girls everywhere and if your intentions are sincere they could give you the chance to call them someday on their phone or iPhone or whatever. But the park or University campus is the biggest Internet in the world as it just traveling.

Forget websites that, instead try to get you to call girls telephone numbers

Why? Consider this metaphor, it is like a guy at a club or a hotel bar buying a girl drinks all night and thinking he is making process with the girls. He is not, he is just buying them drinks, then they often just leave to go back to their hotel room alone.

The websites that do this are just for money not for your heart and feelings and love and certainly not for getting girls.

So these other website that look like mobile dating websites. They are often not, they are just to get you to leave your personal information like e-mail and cell numbers online to call. There is not way, I would approve such a thing as this is the Internet and anyone could put anything and use that personal information. It could even be someone’s ex girlfriend whose number they leave for revenge.

They even have tempting photos of Indian girls and Russian girls and Dubai girls. However,these are not girls leaving their numbers. They are guys, men dudes. Yep, you think you will call girls, but you will be chatting with some 20 something Indian dude who has gender identity issues.

Personal story of chatting with girls on the Internet for phone numbers – I remember when the Internet first came out, I had AOL and was chatting and flirting with some girl in a chat room. I was so excited I had girls sending photos and eventually was clever enough to get them to send me their phone numbers to call. Yeah, real smart, the girls often turned out to be a guys. When she gave me her phone number and I called and there was a dude on the other line wanting to meet me. Real smart.

Why not look for call girls cell phone numbers?

I will try to write this as delicate as possible, if you are looking for girls for fun and for a relationship that is less than honorable, like meeting in a hotel for a night consider this. Although I am libertarian oriented person. I believe as long as it does not hurt someone it is OK, peace and love. However, I also believe God sees everything. Every time you are meeting a girl and use her, God sees this and it will hurt your Karma. It will take you one step away from meeting the girls of your dreams. Why? God sees you are misusing your sensuality.

I believe certain ethics are universal in life whether you are Hindu, Buddhist, Muslim or whatever: you should not to hurt people, not to lie and not to misuse your gifts given to you from above including your beauty and charm. Misdirected sensuality can come back to cause problems in your life. Further, of course you can do so but be prepared for Karma. So before you want to connect with a girl for fun, why not consider this alternative for meet a girl.

My top 3 recommendations – If you must meet a girl online

  • A religiously based dating site – I know, I know but these statistically have the highest rates of success. Love is aufheben –  This is a triple sense Hegelian word that means to lift up, abolish and preserve. When search for love search for your mate who will inspire you to the seek the ultimate mysteries of the this Uni-verse.
  • Gaming sites – Sites that people interact on and you share an interest is an bond. The male/female ratio of casual gamers are almost 50%. If you can connect with someone online with a real commonality of interests, that is a possibility. For example, I play on and people chat. If I was a girl I would take up chess for example.
  • ICQ – While everyone is doing Snapchat and Whatsapp you do ICQ. Learn to zig when others zag. Do the opposite of the trend to find that diamond in the rough. ICQ has a lot of international people, because it is owned by a Russian company. Get it here ICQ Chat

If you are painfully lonely or traveling for work and staying in a hotel, be strong and see it as a desert crossing experience, as a test of your morality. Did you know that is why the Gideons were founded? So when guys were tempted to pull out the phone book for some female companionship on the road they would find a greater book and comfort.

If you are a single guy and want to take a vacation for girls in some exotic place like Dubai, India, Ukraine or Thailand, consider this, a wife will give you more happiness in that department than any strange girl who sees you as a meal ticket. Find a girl to marry and you will have delight more than the Arabian nights every evening. But as I have written countless times, she should be attractive and irresistible. If you are from the USA or a Common Wealth nation consider girls from Eastern Europe. In one trip you will get more nice girls to call than ever looking on a website for numbers.

Seek true love in the old fashion historic romantic way and you will not be needing a cell phone. I gave up my mobile phone when I married my wife as we have been together 24/7 for 7 years.

If you with a sincere heart seek your destiny and true love the Universe will give you more than you can imagine. I promise. So forget sending a girl and sms unless you have established a real rapport with her. It took me almost a year of meeting with my wife before she would go on a date with me.

Published by Mark Biernat

I live in with family between two worlds, US and Europe where I create tools for language learning. If you found my site you probability share my passion to be a life long learner. Please explore my site and comment.

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  1. It is true that no respectable girl will post her mobile number on the Internet for stalkers and creeps to call. I know I would never do it , no matter how lonely my life gets and how desperate I become. I do not have a problem with giving my number to someone if I like them, as long as it is a real life conversation. On the Internet you never really know who you are dealing with and it is quite reckless to post this kind of personal information for everyone to see if you ask me.

    Anyway, I was thinking about how long should a guy wait to call a girl after she gave him her number. I think it should be somewhere between 1 and 3 days. All the dating experts out there will more than likely disagree with me but this just what I think. I have recently heard of someone who waits 2 weeks before making the call. Now two weeks is probably not the best idea, she might figure you are not interested and go out or start talking to someone else or even forget who you are. Or think you called because things didn’t work out with someone else and that she is your second choice. You don’t want that, do you.

    Let me tell you about my personal experience – I have had a guy text me the very same night that we met and it did not make me lose any interest in him. He said goodnight and I thought it was sweet. On the other hand, I am not that sure I would have wanted him to call me right away. But a text message seemed just right.
    Another guy I had known for a while and was absolutely crazy about once said he would call me the next day and did not call me until the day after next. This didn’t have to be his intention, I just kept thinking he forgot, had service problems or some unexpected work to do that kept him from calling. Until the next time when he said he would call me on Saturday and didn’t call until Sunday again. Of course I spent those days waiting and constantly checking the service on my phone as I really cared about the guy. I wonder if that is a common practice in the States. I mean I could understand if he said something like “I will call you sometime/sson” and then kept me waiting for a couple of days but this I can’t really understand. Maybe it’s just one of the cultural differences that I didn’t know about..

    1. I thought it was just common sense to not post your number or any contact information of yourself in view of the public. I mean that would be like posting your credit card number, and just waiting for someone to steal it. Good luck with that one.

      I kind of wonder why some guys don’t call the day they say they are going to. Probably because they heard some lame dating advice from someone who doesn’t know what they are talking about. If I said I was going to call someone for a purpose, I would follow-up and make that call.

      Kinga, let me tell you that dating in America is totally messed up. People are so confused about it that there is no set protocol for how a date should be. One person may say do this for a date, and another will contradict and say do that for a date. It makes your head spin, and you may have better luck jumping into a volcano than trying to date in America.

  2. There is no way I would call a guy first. I am from a more traditional country, that is Russia and I know some girls call guys. But my advice is this is wrong. Call them only after you have a reasonable rapport. Even with Sms or text messages I do not reply. I know girls are glued to their cell phones and checking it incessantly, but this is no way to get a guy to fall for you.

    As a girl, you need to let the guy chase you. You need to let the guy get frustrated and dream of the unobtainable. If something is too easy including a girl than no one will respect that.

    Woody Allen said, I would not want to be a member of a club that would want me, this is the same with girls and dating. If a girl were to reply to every call and text message than the guy would start to consider her conquered and just rank her in his little black book as a back up plan.

    I think better than too much chatter with phones and chats, just use the phone as a way to arrange a date. Then meet the girl face to face. It of course more stressful but to the victor and the brave goes the spoils. You have to be able to charm a girl face to face.

    My advice is if you are in Moscow for example, than accumulate girls numbers who you might have interest in. Then arrange a meeting at a coffee shop or go for a walk with them. Give them time and o not write them for about three days. Then ask them out again. This is the way you date girls. Not looking for the numbers online or calling them too often. You have to have a stomach for this type of dating but this is where you will find you highest quality women.

    When you are on the date bring a book from the library to read from, or poetry or a non monetary gift, like a home-made card. Let them walk with you arm in arm even. Girl need something tangible and real to dream about. They need something concrete not digital messages on a screen. This is nothing. They need three dimensional and real prince charming. That will chase the girl even though she does not call him or return your calls or give you any hint that she is interested. If you are a normal guy, she is.

    1. You say: “As a girl, you need to let the guy chase you. You need to let the guy get frustrated and dream of the unobtainable. If something is too easy including a girl than no one will respect that.”

      If you act like that, how is the guy to know he should even bother?

      1. The girls are always interested. It is the man’s role to try to the girls role to say ‘yes’ or ‘no’. Lucky for men, sometimes ‘yes’ means ‘no’ and ‘no’ means ‘yes’ and ‘maybe’ says try a little harder.
        You have to try. If I did not try to win my wife’s heart even if it took a lot of time and patience I would not be so happy today. If a girl says ‘no’, come back another day and be charming and flirtatious and it might turn to a maybe. This is the way girls operate. They make you wait and wonder.

        So many girls hopelessly in love have said when I first met my husband I did not like him.

        Go for the girl you want, play to win.

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