The purpose of this post if to tell you what French girls are like and how to meet and chat with French girls on the web or in France. I will lay all the cards on the table up front, women of France are beautiful, however this begs another question, if you could date them would you want to? I am not talking about walking along the Seine hand in hand. I mean for a serious relationship or marriage are French dames marriage material?
I am an American living in Europe so I have a perspective on European girls that is unique. I studied French for seven years to a University level, so I am not the authority on French culture but am an expert in some ways.
What are girls from France are like?
Anything I write about French girls is a stereotype and a generalization. Rene Descartes was right, ‘all generalizations are distortions of the truth’. It is true, not all people from one culture are like what people say. However there are some cultural tendencies that being aware of helps if you visit Lyons or Champagne-Ardenne.
Are French girls easy to meet?
- Listen up, Do not listen to old stereotypes. On the contrary I repeatedly get on this blog many young French females that are idealistic and have visions of romantic love and marriage. Further, I have met many French couples that are loyal and happily married.
If you want to meet a French gal they are open and easy to talk to, but somehow to get them to marry you, I think they have high standards in terms of marriage and real love. At least this has been my personal experience.
Then why do they have a reputation?
Yes they have a reputation, that is French girls are easy. This comes from, people coming over from conservative America in the last fifty years and seeing the contrast between European and American women and culture. France is one of the most visited countries for Americans. So this is the American experience in Europe, not just French people.
I mean even us we come from Europe and women can not take their top off at beaches is strange for us. But in America it is a big no, no. I think the USA is strange in ways. A woman can be braless or have not top at the beach, it is seen as something bad, but she can have tattoos and engage in physical relations before marriage. So filles françaises are passionate and romantic and this sometimes include physical relations but I would not say they are different from their American counterparts when you are thinking about a roll in the hay, maybe I am wrong?
Further, somehow in the collective unconsciousness we Americans have Parisian girls kissing soldiers in the streets after the liberation of Paris. I do not know how this stereotype is perpetuated, maybe from old fashion hots or tales from grandpa but Parian girls are not different in terms than say New Orleans girls. So my conclusion is, culturally the French do not have the puritanical restriction that Americans have, but I would not say they are loose in morals at all.
Generally I think French women are not easy, but I need to make one qualification, do not take chastity before marriage seriously, unless they are Muslim French girls. Islamic French women are generally pure and come from Algeria and Morocco. It is a sub culture within the French Republic.
Are French girls are neurotic?
Well on this one I am not so kind, but neurotic is not a bad thing. Here is the deal. French women are not religious, and they also use the highest percentages of antidepressants medication in the world per capita. I wonder if there is a connection? They experience existential anxiety because they lack a connection with God. Voltaire, Denis Diderot, Camus and Sartre were wrong, you can not redefine your life on humanistic terms because God is part of being human. God is not above in the clouds or pantheistic but part of the human experience like the color of a candle wax. It is part of the candle. The French people took their thinkers too seriously and ignored Pierre Teilhard de Chardin type positive philosophers. The result is a post modern neurotic woman with out the grounding of faith and trust to help them in the storms of life.
But if I were to put a positive spin on this, I think if French girls are neurotic it is only in a positive way, that is they are quirky. I like geeky, slightly off girls. Think of the film, Amalie. Who would not love to date such a strange girl. However, they lack faith. This combined with a general existential anxiety resulting from French philosophy from Diderot to Françoise Sagan. The French have great literature, much I have read in the French language, but I think their thinkers were on the agnostic side and this influenced their culture. A culture’s hero’s and writers influence the way the common people think.
Agnostic girls from Western Europe, I think is a red flag is you are looking for a French girl for a wife and not just as a flirtatious adventure. I recommend guys choose girls who read romantic idealistic literature or spiritual books more than sit in a cafe reading Camus or Sartre or modern materialistic literature.
I knew this one Doctor from France that had all her kids under the age of 5 on psychiatric medication and ADD, but the kids all seemed normal to others. I think they are looking for happiness in new ways, like in ‘The Furutological Congress’ by Stanislaw Lem, without God and in the form of a pill.
French girls are beautiful
Third, French women have money to spend on fashion and clothes and make themselves look great. They are generally of Gaul or Celtic ancestry with a lot of Latin and now Arabic mixing so they have light features with some striking dark features mixed in and this does make French women beautiful.
I have seen perhaps the most unusual styles, crazy but interesting outfits on a French girl. I saw one French teenager dressed like a bumblebee, another one so Gothic she looked like a vampire. No question French ladies are cool and stylish. No debate here.
Why Francais women are so appealing? Because many guys dream of an easy, neurotic, beautiful girl. They are a little bit helpless and beautiful.
The downside of women from Normandy to Marseille
Some people say, France is a very rich snobbish country. If you are not from France you could have trouble making a connection. If you do not know the French language this could also be a problem. For me this is not the big disqualifier, as cultural barriers are easy to overcome if you learn a little of the language. What is? It is that French girls are also a bit materialistic and will not cook for you or take care of you in many cases. Screen them well if you are looking for a lady friend. This is a red flag if you are a man looking for a wife. I know this is a huge generalization and please rebut me if this is wrong. But I have not meet too many filles françaises who dream of being a traditional wife in either Quebec or Paris.
But the ones I have met personally were somewhat humble so they are not without hope for love and marriage.
Where to meet a princess in real life? France in my opinion is way over priced so I would not meet them in France, maybe in some resort where they go, like club med or Greek Island. However, I think the best place to meet girls from Paris or Lyons or Marseille Fr is online.
French girls online and on their cell phones – all you need is a number list
The top social networks French people use are:
- Facebook.com – No surprises here
- Skyrock.com – Popular in Western Europe.
If you want to text or sms a French girl on her mobile – cell phone use this site:
Mobile French dating
- orange.fr – You can sed free SMS text messages to French girls mobile phones from this website.
Dating sites in France are these:
These are some of my ideas for meeting a lady in France and Europe. If anyone has additional idea for meeting these romantic language Latin girls of Gaul let me know.