Why are American girls are not for everyone?
Marry someone from the US if you fall hopelessly in love.
I guess people reading this might say I am stating the obvious. Maybe I am, but my question still is why? Why do guys think they have no other option but to marry the girl next door. I did not. Why do so few American guys see this? Why do our guys marry an American girl?
Basically many Americans have been programmed to believe the world begins and ends in continental 48 states when it comes to dating.
Further, people are a little slothful when it comes to traveling outside their comfort zones and the US.
Yet remember as we start to evolve and become one world of equal people, there are beautiful girls all over the world who will treat you like their hero. You are a hero because you search the world not just your hometown to find and win your true love.
Wrong reasons to get married
American guy: Some American guys get married out of guilt. What happens is they have been dating a girl for a while and feel its the least they could do for her. They know her family and years have gone by and they feel some obligation.
My answer: You have only one life. I believe in God, but here on this earth you have one chance. Life is so sweet because we will never be here again. Live your life. Go for the cordial young lady you want. Marry the beautiful girl of your dreams.
Many of my American guy friends have all kinds marital problems and escape from their problems in work. They become workaholics. They dread the hour when they have to return home to their wives who are bossy and demanding. Man, where is your courage? I would rather be poor and married to a cordial young foreign model who cooks for our family, than a career women who does battle three nights out of seven with me. I think many guys do not realise that American culture is not the world. Most girls where I live do not care about career, only about their family and making their husband happy.
No princesses left in the world to marry except in fairy-tales
American guy thinking: They feel it is not possible to marry a model looking girl that will be their princess and will see you as their hero.
My answer: This knight in shining armor is a the proper male-female dynamic that exists outside the USA. Girls want a prince to rescue them. Women want a man to serve and obey. Does this shock you? That is because you have been programmed to believe this is not true. Even I have to fight my American culture programming. Girls want to be rescued.
Foreigners marry for money fallacy
American guy thinking: I will marry a foreign girl and she will take you money.
My reply: Foreign women marry for love. In fact, if you have an online honey, that is a say, a Russian girl who you think is trying to scam you, well hold onto your hat, I have news for you, most likely you have been chatting with a dude. Real life Russian girls are very nice. So stop using the Internet to find women. Travel and learn about the world.
And American women? In American it is about a 50% chance you will get divorce. In Poland it is about 15% for example, in Italy 10%. One of my lawyer friends said, instead of marrying an American girl, why not just find a girl you despises and give her your house and half you money and save your self all the hassles. I disagree as many American women are wonderful and loyal and good humans. I just want guys to know that you do not have to worry about losing money to a foreign girl, the risk might be lower than a domestic USA girl based on divorce statistics.
Why get married? my message is do not unless
I am very against the idea of marriage unless it is your fantasy come true. Unless you have found your other half. Unless you do , forget it, and enjoy your life as a man.
Unless a girl will submit her ego and serve you as her prince, do not get married. Of course will summit your pride and fight for her and rescue her and serve her also because she is your princess.
American girls see service to their Corporate boss as good, but to their husbands as bad
Millennial women (and men) are just not getting married in the US, rather they for some reason see it as a convention. Yet, we all live in the world of conventions including work.
- I study economics (getting a PhD) and this is an unusual social trend. In the past people worked to live. Now people live to work.
Most American girls work harder to serve their boss (their master who they serve most with all their energy and time) than their husbands. Me, I am an American guy and work means nothing to me. Family means everything. I recommend you find a woman who believes the same. Do not date a career woman if your family comes first. It would be like oil and water mixing. Two different personalizes.
I often ask girls that are argumentative types if they talk and argue with their boss (that is their master who they serve) at work like they treat their husbands or boyfriends? They treat their boss (their master who they humble themselves to and basically kiss his feet) with more respect than their husbands or boyfriends.
I know guys who also treat their wives worse than their bosses. I believe in family first and work and career second.
Again, do not even think of getting married, unless you find your princess.
You can find a good lady friend
That being said I am a family guy. I am very pro family and not a materialistic. I ultimately am a romantic. I feel that in love it is two people and the rest of the world. All or nothing.
American girls who do not want to submit their ego and life for the greater good of love, my reply to them is ‘have a good life’. For American guys I say why not marry a model? Marry a model who has a PhD and will cook and clean and see you as a hero. This is the CIS, this is Europe, this is Asia, this is Africa, this is South America.
I guess ultimately American guys feel they must settle for something in their heart they know is messed up? Maybe you will find a wonderful American girl, as many are nice but also look in other countries please before you feel you have to settle.