Pakistan, USA, what does it matter when it comes to the truth about life and love?
Do not be mislead, the day goes out the door, life will be short – Bertolt Brecht
When I was a single guy and an IT consultant, I was in Boston on a consulting gig. One day I hopped into a cab. I asked him here was from, I knew the Middle East somewhere and he said Pakistan. The cab driver and I started chatting about life for no other reason but to pass the time. The our conversation somehow evolved into a tete-a-tete about love and marriage. He said look, the problem is this.
American girls have too much time to think. If you give a girl, whether from Pakistan or the USA, a chance to think and analysis you are in trouble my friend. – Pakistani cab driver
Before you all through up defenses walls and roll your eyes hear out my story and his advice.
He was happily married and his advice was as follows about love and marriage:
- The dating process is too long – People are in relationships for years and if you give a girl a chance to analysis it she will. You will find yourself living with her for years and nothing moves forward and the relationship will be hopeless. Here is how it is done, look you meet a girl you like, and in a short time ask her to marry you. She will. Do not date her, rather marry her. Think of all the arranged marriages work. It is true. My wife confirmed this and said, its true, girls want action, give them time to think they will pick apart a relationship.
- Once married she will be happy for a while – Being a lady friend is only for a day, and the honeymoon ends when you fly home. Therefore, before she can start talking to American women and friends and analysing things.The solution, get her pregnant. She will be happy and have more things to worry about, besides analysing her relationship with you.
- Do it again with her – Then once the first child gets settled, get her pregnant again. With the second baby she will not have time to have a war party with her disco going materialistic American friends who are having girls night out.
- Marriage is forever – By the time she caught her breath she will not have the energy to rebel. By the third time you get her pregnant it is all over. She will be a little older and the flight factor will be less because she is older and needs you to help her with the kids.
What every girl wants
Look every girl dreams of getting married and having a family. No matter how cordial they are or how they love clubbing until 4 a.m. and have materialistic nonsense pumped into their brains, they still are girls and one million years of evolution they can not resist. They want marriage like you want ‘physical relations’, it is an instinctive drive that can not be over ridden. They have to get married or they will fade away very unhappy.
If you give a girl time to think:
- She will find someone else.
- Analysis the situation and be shackled by the bonds of excess thought and become unhappy.
Do not be mislead, life is very short, so drink it is fast gulps – Bertolt Brecht
Why marriage works well for a man – her body?
Marriage for a man this works out very well. The human natural state is marriage. There is nothing better than being in love. Yes all I do is write about true love and this is the reason you get married. But also consider men need physical relations. We can not do without it. The only real and decent way to get an endless supply of physical relationships is to get married. Once you are married, you have complete free access and do not have to worry about the next time you might hook up with a girl or get a girl’s mobile phone number or play the game of texting back and forth.
A relationship is like a flower and should not be picked apart or it will lose its beauty.
With marriage you feel better about yourself morally as relations outside of marriage are not too cool as they hurt people’s feelings and can cause an array of problems. But in marriage you basically have a girl who has full permission to submit her body to your needs and she likes it.
So the only real solution is find a super cordial lady with good morals and lock her down. Do do not over analysis all this, find a nice cordial younger woman and after a short dating phase ask her to marry you. Do this before she has time to over analysis all this.
Is Pakistan a close minded country which represses women?
Every Pakistani girl I have met has been happily married. Many American women I met are analysing their relationships ad nauseam. America has a 50% divorce rate, Pakistan 1%, you do the math. I am not asking you to take the advice of some Pakistani cab driver about love and marriage, but you know what he is honest. He does not beat arround the bush or sugar coat things. He told me straight; women want to get married, find one and make her happy by giving her a family and you will find this is what you wanted all along too, but the messages in your brain somehow got crossed with society and all.
You know I have to agree, this poor Pakistani guy is more of a man with his wife and family living in a small apartment than professional single American player guys who think so highly of themselves for scoring with match.com girls every other weekend. Do not take it as a criticism, just shatter your illusions that being single, having a career and having high numbers in terms of bedding girls will give you the happiness that marriage does and always has through history.