Perfect age difference husband and wife
My argument is why get married unless you are going to enjoy yourself?
Statistically most people marry within a couple of years of their spouse. There is a problem with that, and a big problem.
Once women hit menopause, their juice is down and they become round.
If you are a male with any sort of drive for physical intimacy on a regular basis, you are in trouble if you marry a woman close to your age.
I guess you could start to eat frozen TV dinners and processed food and let your health degrade so it does not matter. However, a better solution would be, marry a younger woman. Science shows you will love longer and be happier.
I was never looking for companionship when I was single and neither should you. A lot of women will try to sell you on the idea that they are good companions. Wrong. False.
Maybe if you have chronic low testosterone. However, better is be full of vitality, a fifty year old teenager. If you are seeking a companion, a friend with shared interests in a partner, I would check your hormone levels or make sure you do not have too many phytoestrogens in your diet. Look I know you have been told by our society to search for a nice girl. No, I do not want a nice girl. I want an attractive young woman who gets my blood going, I always did.
Let me give you an example, my ninety-seven year old uncle won a dance contrast with his younger Swedish girlfriend. He was driving a pick-up truck and having fun. The reason he lived so long and healthy was just that. His life force, his chi, his prana was flowing and always in the game. You want to be in the game. Choose a woman at least ten years younger. You want to think like a teenager when it comes to dating and choose a woman in her 20s and early thirties if you are in your forties and fifties.
If you have resigned yourself to complacency at middle age, you have a long road of decline ahead of you. You need to think young to be young and that includes being wise in your mate selection. If you marry a woman around your age, where is the excitement?
What happens if you marry a woman close to your age?
In colonial America you would have been fine as life expectancies where different, and women and men were educated to be humble. However, today, when you will spend fifty years with the same woman, a woman from modern western society, marry a young lady. If you are less then ten years year difference women will try to control you. You will be hen pecked to submission.
Instead of giving up on yourself and your dreams, Better is to take up Astanga yoga and get a young cordial lady, lock her down in marriage and enjoy yourself. After a few years the excitement will not wear off if she is into fitness, and you will not have a wandering eye. Further, you might even develop a friendship if your world views are the same but this is icing on the cake of the physical side. What if you do not like to work out or do yoga? If you do not like yoga, think of it this way, you can suffer for 90 minutes a day in yoga class or for the next 90 years of your life your choice.
I am not taking about marrying a twenty one year old or someone twenty plus years younger (although I have seen happy marriages at this age gap), rather I am talking about a healthy ten to fifteen year difference. Basing it on two principles: The female has to be cordial for you, and have a similar world view so you can engage in inquisitive exploitation of the world around you together, rather than compete and try to convert life philosophies.
Therefore, advocate getting a cordial slim lady who does not hassle you. Someone whose juices are flowing and even slightly perverse, as long as they are have morals. You want someone who has good morals to maintain the longevity of the relationship, but irresistible. You are not going to find that in the long term with a woman who is your age, unless you are a man who does not take care of themselves. The reason again is men and women age different.
I recommend a foreign woman because they are more open to age difference. You could get a domestic hen, but she would have to be open minded and uncorrupted by Western thinking.
What is marriage anyway?
Marriage is everyday life. Most of it is having good meals (not in-front of the TV), weekend trips, dreaming about a Thomas Kinkade home and watching Netflix together. When you do this, do do it with a total babe. If not, I recommend taking up a hobby like a library book club to channel your libidinal drives.
Guilt of the media
The politically correct media in the dating field is dominated by women writers. They try to sell you on the idea that age closeness is the way to go. It is not. It goes against nature. As long as a woman is in her 20s she is datable (often women in their early 20s their brains are still developing which has a good and a bad aspect to this). Think of all the scandals and men that are cheaters, this happens because their wives are not cordial enough. I am not one of those guys. There is zero percent chance I would ever cheat, because I married a cutie and so can you.
If you think my advice is off base than let me put it to you this way. In pop culture the media and blogs will advise is to marry someone your age. The scandal happens affair, than a divorce. The media accepts this and even recommends divorce. I say no. I say marry a youthful woman and ride that wave and do not look elsewhere. Get over the guilt and social pressures.
What is the ideal age
I think a great age to find a woman is when she is about 27. If you are older you can bump it up a few years. If you are in your late twenties and you meet a girl in her early 20s this could work as long as you screen her for loyalty. With young women who have not crystallized a coherent unified world view there is a high flight risk latter in the relationship. Forget half your age plus seven years., marry 10 to 15 years younger.
Some women will say I look much younger for my age
This is more female speak nonsense. They do not. A 35 year old does not look like a 21 or 27 year old, period. Similarly women speak is they are wiser. They are not wiser, simply their hormones have calmed down and they are not doing things like having relations with random guys. It is not that they are wiser, it is their hormones do not give them this urge or opportunity. So if you hear a woman say this chances her sensuality is going down the hill.
I know several of my friend that married women older. It looks unnatural. The women look like old ladies and the men look like they are polished and attractive. Women that think they look younger do not and even if they did, it is not the same. Women that say they look younger are lying to themselves. I know some tragic cases of women in their 30s not married. It is very sad. I would say they should be chasing men at that point not giving a lame excuse that ‘they are too picky’ or ‘there are no good guys’. There are good guys all over my website.
For example, I will be 53 this year. Can you image me, someone who is fit and goes surfing and travels the world, being married to a grey hair round lady who is into lunch dates with her friends and cats? No, I am married to a beautiful fit younger woman who I love with all my heart.
I told my wife you do not have to worry about me having a mid-life crisis, because you are my mid-life crisis.
In contrast my friend the same age married a woman eight years older than him. She is in her sixties, wow. Can you image me, a man of the world, dating some sixty year old?
When you marry for lust the whole world can not help but smile on you
Love is about honesty and I am pleading with you to be honest with yourself and free yourself from societal expectations. Feel free to marry for a younger woman ten to fifteen years younger (adult of course).
A woman for the long-run
Men age different than women. That is a fact because the estrogen makes their skin wrinkle faster. A woman’s skin is more delicate. Women age 10+ years faster than men because nature, wants it this way. Their hormones decline all at once. Nature wants women to reproduce when they are younger. Women like mature men instinctively because they want to be taken care of for evolutionary reasons. Women have so much power in the mating game. They tend to have multi suitors, and can have physical relationships with anyone at any time. However, they have a short window from 21 to 40. Men are good their whole life for dating. Further, we live so much longer. You will live well over eighty while in the old days people checked out at sixty. Be real when you are sixty do you want to be married to a sixty year old?
- People say, women live longer. No one knows how long anyone lives. Do not play that statistics game in your head, live one day at a time.
Younger men can not understand how to deal with women’s mood swings. If you are metaphorically Capitan of your ship than the rough seas of a monthly storm can be ridden out.
If your wife is younger you have more experience and wisdom to understand the ebb and flow of female emotions and are better equipt to handle them in a a peaceful calm way, instead of a reactive way
This is why women are so rude and difficult when they are younger because they know instinctively their time is limited and must find the best mate, they do not have time to mess around. I can respect that.
Another common problem is if the ages are too close women in American try to dominate. Come on guys how many women have tried to assert their strong will in a relationship?
What if you are married to an older woman?
That is great. As a religious person it ultimately does not matter. Enjoy your life and stay committed to your soul mate. If you married young you will have years of happiness others will not understand. I am writing this to guys before they have pulled the proverbial trigger (the point of no return).
Bottom line if you ever are asking is there too big of an age difference, I would day no. Statistically I think the optimal is 8 years for male and female happiness, but I recommend about 10 to 15 years as the world is changing. What was true a decade ago is not true today. Men are taking care of their health like women did.
Let me know if you have any questions on how to get a younger woman or the subtle dynamics of your relationship.