The purpose of this post is to give you the real story about Indian girls in the USA for marriage. I am kind of an expert at these things, therefore, the following is more a personal explanation based on experience. Let me explain.
Although I have travelled to Asia extensively, I myself am not Indian but American. I have had a lot of contact with girls from Delhi to Kerala in a unique way. Because I am a white guy in the USA I think they never took me seriously for dating because of the pressure from their parents to marry in their own culture and I am not Hindu. Therefore they confided in me. I lived in Connecticut and the Boston where there are south Asians everywhere employed in the IT and medical fields as well as other professions that I was connected to.
Can you believe my consulting company was at least 40% Indians on work visa’s and aspiring US green card holders, I kid you not. A lot brainy people. Therefore, I had the unique opportunity to interact and chat with these women without the weird dating dynamic coming into play, because I was ‘safe’, like a guy who they would not take seriously.
What I surmised about Indian girls in the USA for marriage
- These princesses want to marry someone in their culture if possible, but European-Americans do stand a chance if you play your cards right. However the odds are stacked against you in dating because of parental pressure. In India love has the idea of Romantic love like in Europe, but it also is influenced by the idea of honor and dignity for the family, maybe a Asian cultural concept.
- Indian girls are cordial. No debate there.
- Girls from India who live in America – Do not depart from traditional ways of waiting for marriage until the second or third generation when they become Americanized. Some guys say it is much better going to India, but why if there is a girl who lives next door. I have meet scores of desirable females in the United States and you would both have a commonality because you are living as expats or abroad.
- Romanic love – Indian ladies are looking for a guy who will woe them in a traditional poetic cultural way. Do not try the direct approach, take a cue from Bollywood movies these girls like a little flirtation and drama. Women love drama and nothing is straight and easy when in comes to love. This is the theme of every romantic movie. Boy meets girl, all is good then something goes wrong with family or life and it seems hopeless but somehow in the end through persistence of the man or belief in true love by the woman they are married and live happily ever after. They are not some forward American business girl from NYC like Samantha on the popular TV show. Talk with them and leave them wondering. Do not sms or call girls several times a day. Some of my friends have not a two-day rule but a two-week rule. That is do not call girls for two weeks after they give you their mobile number. I know it sounds radical but what is the rush. Girls like to make you wait, they will not smile at you anyway so put it out of your mind. You need to satisfy your urges do not do it in the serious dating field. It will pollute a good pool of women and you will be scordial down anyway. I do not know how you can control this, but use your imagination. Also read about Indian girls mobile phone numbers for friendship on my post about such things.
- Indian damsels are hard to win – Just because they scorn you does not mean anything. Maybe in the future they will like you and you will not like them. Take a lesson from an Indian Businessman like Lakshmi Mittal. Do you think closed every deal perfectly? I know he has lost some business dealings, many. He just brushes himself off and tries again. This is the Dharma of men in dating and business. They have to try and try until they succeed. Do not take the game so seriously.
Where to look for an Indian lady friend in the USA?
Where Indian girls live in the USA:
Here are the raw population stats and I imagine that if anything they are slightly deflated. I mean everywhere I look I see people from Pubjab to West Bengal.
- NYC area including long Island and NJ 600,000 infant in Jersey city there is a little India.
- Chicago 171,00
- Washington 127,000
- San Fransisco 121,000
- LA 120,000
- Dallas 100,000
- Huston 91,00
- Philadelphia 90,00
- Atlanta 68,000
- Boston 54,000
- Millbourne, PA – 29.3% Yes, can you imagine a town which is basically 1/3 Hindu in the USA. It must be an interesting place, but I think the size of the population distorts the statistics.
- Plainsboro Center, NJ – 21.1%
- Iselin, NJ – 13.2%
- South Yuba City, CA – 13.2%
- Edison, NJ – 12.9%
- Princeton Meadows, NJ – 12.6%
- Society Hill, NJ – 11.4%
- Dayton, NJ – 11.1%
- Avenel, NJ – 10.5%
- Livingston, – CA 9.3%