The idea is simple. If you want to get high quality women you need to be idealistic not realistic in any way shape or form. Player and cynics might get women for the short-term but their women are not the who I would personally go for.

The high road is the the easy road if you are authentic. If you really believe in knights in shining armour and damsels in distress, and that this world means something beyond the next Netflix binge or the next provocative insta photo, then you are in luck. The highest quality women are idealistic and they might not be doing something society deems as important but they believe in something greater than themselves in act, word and deed.

If you want to understand something, ask yourself what is its nature?

Marcus Aurelius – Meditations

What is their reason for being?

Most women have forgotten their true nature. Just like you. You may have forgotten who you really are. That you are not just some guy, trying to find a succulent wife, rather, you are a great powerful spiritual being who has passed through Ameles Potamos, the river of unmindfulness (Plato).

This is why you need to remind yourself and tell yourself, ‘the whole world might go to heck in a hand basket’, but you will not. You will aspire to this dreamy notion of romantic love, faith and hope, even if you get burned on every date. You need to be the lonely romantic rebel.

Simple things like being polite and not swearing and opening doors are a start but better is to attend weekly service. I know these seem old fashion but do you not want manner and refinement in the girl that will raise your children?

Be the prince that rescues her. Find a reason to buck the trend even if it causes you years of painful loneliness in the process. Because if you believes this idealism in your heart I promise you there is a beautiful girl who does also.

Find your reason to be idealistic. Not just for her, but for the redemption of your own eternal soul. It is this process of discovery will open your eyes. Not being a hermit philosopher that we all are before marriage. You need to be a little bit touched in the head to have the guts today to turn off the noise and live with the gods. But if you are, you will find your way. I promise.

Your lucky to find a woman like this, who really deep down believes. Many women today do not think in these terms.

Kate : I’m not very good with men.
Leopold : Perhaps you haven’t found the right one.
Kate : Maybe. Or, uh… maybe that whole love thing is just a grown-up version of Santa Claus; just a myth we’ve been fed since childhood. So, we keep buying magazines, joining clubs, and doing therapy and watching movies with hit pop songs played over love montages all in a pathetic attempt to explain why our love Santa keeps getting caught in the chimney.

Kate and Leopold

Why/rationale?

Idealism is not borne from sloth or naivety. Rather be an idealist you need to think just a little harder to be aware of the world around you. Anyone can just get up in the morning, take a shower (or not) and be reactive. Even if you create short and long term plans about your life and have goals this is not idealism. Anyone can search for the answer to life on the internet. However, to live the life of idealism, to believe in something more than yourself and really care about the poor suffering souls of this world and see people as equal to you, this takes some meditation. To believe in love and the struggles and suffering of life and rise above that is idealism.

This is what I am talking about:

Leopold : You require a chaperone. His intentions are obvious.
Kate : I’m alone with you, do I need a chaperone?
Leopold : We are not courting, Kate. If we were, as a man of honour, I would have informed you of my intentions in writing.
Kate : Are you for real?
Leopold : I believe so.

Kate and Leopold

Sound silly? Well you can ditch the self help advice of this time and all the ideas of how men and women should be or need to be, and take a cure from the time of romanticism. How did men behave then? What were they dressed like? If someone really did teleport from that time, I promise you women would flock to him. I mean if you meet a women from the 1800s dressed and refined would this not peak your curiosity a bit, especially if it was not an act, but real. This is who she really is.

To want, to have the will and desire, to live beyond the ordinary with your life, beyond making money, getting the girl and relaxing, takes effort. To study philosophy, theology, read the classics, learn a language, listens to classical music, plays chess, goes to art museums or if nothing else, is a sweet person. Yes, focus on eternal ideas like classic philosophy, rather than the sophistry of today. You should be proud you are a classic romantic philosopher and modern women dis you, wear it as a red badge of courage. Your battle scars of life will make you only stronger.

Some women put forth this effort also. Find that girl even if she lives in Asia, Europe,Appalachian Mountains, Siberia or a village somewhere unconnected to this would as you are to reality.

I am not talking about women who are well dressed or detailed oriented with their careers or house, or hobbies. All women gravitate towards this. I am talking about a girl who is high quality.

Traits of a high quality woman

  • Goes to Church or Service – If I was single, this would be at the top. In the end, only hypocrites go to church. Church the hospital for sinners. That is why I go because I am a hypocrite. Perfect people do not go to church. I do not want to date a perfect person. Marry a weekly churchgoer.
  • Grows things – Growing up on a farm, growing plants and food or any strong connection to nature. If a girl is not all about nature, then you are not going to convert her to be a grower. Maybe she will honor your interest. However, I can not see a shopping mall girl embracing soil. If a girl does not want to get her hands dirty and is more about ‘mani-pedi’ then, I would take a step back and reflect who you are inviting in your life. Growing and nature is not a hobby on par with an interest in cricket or social media. Rather, a strong connection to nature and growing is transcendent. You need this transcendence in your life. If you are not a service goer than you need to at least transcend in another way. When you are in the garden, growing potatoes or hemp or flowers you ground yourself. You are rooted in the energy of the earth and this allows you to grow wings. I do not know too many chaotic, moody farm girls. Marry a village girl.
  • Prudent in her demeanor – This includes, being a good listener, puts her napkin on her lap during meals and elbows off the table, not swearing or being too opinionated or wrapped too much into politics, but rather lives with the gods, focuses on things eternal. Marry an idealist.

OK, sorry for all that. You get the point. I am telling you this not for you to be dissatisfied with your current relationship or judge your girlfriend based on ridiculously high standards, rather, be the romantic dreamer and maybe you will meet one too. How to get high quality woman naturally? Be the person you want to attract and that starts with a romantic vision for your life.

Published by Mark Biernat

I live in with family between two worlds, US and Europe where I create tools for language learning. If you found my site you probability share my passion to be a life long learner. Please explore my site and comment.

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  1. My issue is that I am distrustful of people, and I have a time control issue, further I am always looking for an escape route.

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