To be beautiful is one of the strongest drives for people. It is connected to our deep longing to reproduce. Our DNA wants to spread so it sends messages to our subconscious to develop a
strategy for mating. Beauty and allure is one of the what our bodies want. Let your conscious brain yield to its wisdom.
Skinny girls – how to be thin and beautiful
Skinny girls are not born they are made. Who is this post for? This post is for girls who want to be thin and beautiful but do not know how. I received a lot of comments on my skinny girls posts. That post was more for guys telling them why to date slender girls. Well this post is to give ideas to women how to be thin.
This post is how be slim and beautiful which is almost synonymous. My thesis is thin and beautiful is all in the mind but also one key ingredient most diet and exercises books and websites do not tell you. Being a slender is all about your mental attitude and one thing. If you want to have more allure you can be. Here is how.
I am writing to tell you what others will not
Like in the fairly-tale ‘The Emperors new clothes’ I have no reason not to be honest about this. I am not going to shower you in false socially acceptable praise. I am a guy and will tell you like it is. I am also a compassionate person and not writing this to be hurtful, rather, to make you aware so you can take positive action.
I am writing this from a man’s point of view. I hope to give you insights that pop culture and women’s magazines do not. Therefore be of real value, not just recycled information of little value, as it is too watered down and will not change your life.
Here is my story, I have been a tall thin, lanky guy a good part of my life. I personally was somewhat tortured by my weight, being thin and male, whereas, American women I thought women prefer meaty, husky guys guys. Therefore, I struggled with weight issues too. I did not like the way I looked (I know, I know guys should be super confident alphas and only eat grilled meat and watch football on the weekends).
I tried to distort my natural genetics, I even once became a gym rat and was super pumped at over 220 lbs or 100 kgs plus. That became a lifestyle. I could study languages and travel the world or be a slave to the gym. I decided on the former. My point is:
Let go of the fight and start to enjoy my life and be in shape at the same time .
I will tell you how.
I have been in shape and out of shape, and it feels better to be in shape. Why not look good? Why not enjoy your life?
I am very athletic. I tried every vitamin you could imagine, read every book on cooking as I was a cook for many years. I used to work in a bookstore and read every book there was on fitness on many a late Saturday nights when I had to close the store. So I could talk all your want from a technical well-informed perspective about how to be a thin girl. But that is not the secret to how to be a thin girl.
Therefore, I want to talk to you in a simply way about being slender from a guy’s perspective. Being thin and beautiful is very easy. No need to read too much on it or think about it. The less you think about it the better. Just read my post on how to be a skinny girl.
After all is said and done, ‘the truth reveal itself after the complex has been exhausted’. Here is the simple truth of being a skinny girl.
Evolution has already made you beautiful
The first thing and most important thing is to realize that you are already beautiful and thin, no matter what you look like. I am a guy, I know what I am talking about in this regard. I have never seen a woman who was not beautiful. Every girl has her own beauty. No matter what you look like, tell yourself you are beautiful and do not need to change. This is right from a guy, not from one of your girlfriends trying to make you feel better. I am a guy and I have guy friends who mostly agree on me with this point.
Women are way too critical of their looks. I have seen girls with no make up and do nothing with their hair and do nothing with their body and you know what? If you look close enough, you will see how beautiful they are. It is instinct and evolution, you have been honed to look good and it is encoded in your genes. There is now way you are not attractive.
In contrast I have seen legions of over done women, a modern phenomenon of people who fall prey to the image marketing specialist in women’s cosmetics and clothing have sold you. Women living in the wild in the forest five thousand years ago where very attractive with little clothes or cosmetics etc. These ancient girls were so sensual a modern metro man would not know how to handle this primitive rustic beauty.
There will always be a guy that will fall in love with you no matter what you look like, why? Because every girl is a beautiful princess. Why would I lie? Who ever told you, you are not beautiful? I mean this from all my heart.
Second thing you have to do is stop thinking about losing weight and diet. If someone tells you ‘do not think of a pink elephant’, the first thing that comes to your mind is a pink elephant. If someone tells you can not have some type of food you will want it. Therefore I do not believe in diets. Diets do not work. What has to change is the way you perceive yourself.
Here comes the hard part. Be honest with yourself. What in your heart of hearts do you really want to look like? Try to imagine yourself as you would really like to be. Be honest, remove all the clutter and mixed messages from your brain. Remove expectations of other people and just try to create a mental picture of yourself as you really would like. If you would like to look like a model, see yourself this way. If you want to look like a Romanesque baroque angel, see yourself as this. I recommend visualization and running through scripts in your mind. See yourself in various places doing things as you want to be. Do this as you fall asleep for example a couple of nights a week when you want to. If you really want to be a thin girl, than see yourself as a slender, lithe girl in various situations.
Visualization was popular a few years back and now it is a little out of vogue because self-help books over did it. However, it is effective.
An example of visualization – think yourself thin
There was a guy who was a prisoner for three years. He had no choice to but to eat less as they feed him little. So he visualized everyday that the small amount he ate was a huge meal. He did this in so much detail that be was actually full on basically bread and water.
My point is the mind does not know the difference between real and imaginary. If you eat an apple and tell yourself you are full you will start to believe it. The good news is to be a slim female you do not have to do this, nor do I recommend it.
I recommend visualization for simply seeing in your mind’s eye the image you want to look like. This is a much easier way. Your body will start to respond on a subconscious 3D holographic level and in some way start to conform to your image that you see in your imagination.
My way to be thin and why you are not – secrete ingredient
What is the most effective for losing weight? Only eat organic unprocessed food and your body will naturally balance itself out.
Me, I only eat organic food and do not eat out except on a rare occasion. I only shop in the organic produce section of WholeFoods. If you did that and that alone you would lose weight. When I came back from Europe after living for ten years and started eating ‘healthy’ American food, I gained 30 lbs. I figured out even the best American food has been stripped of their micro-nutrients because of poor soil using fertilizers like that add macro-nutrients but not the micro-nutrients. Fertilizers add 10-10-10 NPK but not all the trace minerals. The soil is depleted and the result is you are fat.
It does not cost much if you cook. If you can not cook and eat packaged foods and dine out, quit your job and career and take the time to learn. Ditch your girlfriends who like to eat all the latest causal dining place. Get new friends. Connect with permaculture people. I am sorry life is about choices. You want to be fat and slothful or you want to learn to provide and cook and take care of yourself. If you can not do that, you kids will be eating processed package foods too. Look do you want to get married and be happy or have a trouble internal dialogue your whole life. Here is a way out. Just eat organic veggies and home cooked meals.
Men instinctively are attracted to thin girls because they know that after kids and marriage they will gain a few pounds but still look good. But if you are starting from a base of obesity or overweight, even a little than you will inflate like a balloon after marriage. So learn the reason and cause of your weigh problem now, it is you are a packaged food person.
Stop being a packaged food person and having people cook for you. Live off Organic produce and free range protein and you will see the difference.
When I switched to organic I lost all the weight I gained. If you do not believe me comment below, and we can dialogue about it.
I now grow a lot of my food organically in my backyard. It is my yoga and aerobics class in one.
You can watch channels like:
John Collier from Grow your Greens
Jean-Martin Fortier the Market Gardner
If you want to get inspired and learn how to grow your own food.
But read my lips, only eat Organic food and you will be thin.
What old movies from say the WWII time, people did not have skin problems and were not overweight because this obesity is a modern plague cause my the food industries greed to make you eat packaged food and big agribusiness to give you food grow with pesticides and chemicals that will destroy you hormonal balance. I mean there are girls in their 20s that are already ten pounds overweight. It is tragic.
Diets do not work. Really this was studied. So forget about food. Therefore, do not get to complicated about your diet just be normal but eat organic make your own bread and drink organic milk. It is different. My daughter can tell immediately if based on taste and she is a kid. If your taste buds are that insensitive, then you have to make the switch now. If you can not do it for yourself do it for a higher ideal like religious reason. Eat the things that are in the Bible, or that Jesus would eat, and make sure they are Organic as that is all there was back then. I am not trying to make you feel bad about your lifestyle, rather I want you do look good and feel good so you can actualize your potential intellectually and spiritually rather than obsessing about food and weight.
What about exercise?
Actually just exercises will do it also but I do not want to be a slave to exercise, I would rather be active. Every body is different, however, there are some universal rules that can be applied.
If you eat less you will lose weight and exercise more, but it is what you eat, is most important.
Story about Danish Island and very thin people
There was an Island cut off during the second war. This was a small Danish community. They survived on potatoes seaweed and herring. At the end of the war they were examined for their health. They are in beautiful physical condition. Living a simply diet reversed plaque build up in their arteries they lived long happy lives.
The biggest easiest way to tell how long you will live is your hip to waist ratio. Hip to waist is not only very attractive when your waist is thinner than your hips but it will tell you basically how long you will live. People who eat less live longer. As long as you do not become anorexic or anything extreme you will live longer and be happier.
My point is you do not have to get to complicated about diet. Eat natural.
You know what to eat. All the vegetables you want in a rainbow of colors, also fruit until you can not eat any more. Then you need protein. I like fish but many people are vegetarians or meat eaters, whatever, as long as you eat a natural balanced diet. You do not have to get too technical into things like the glycemic index or anything, as if you have a mixed diet this will smooth it all out. Forget food combining or anything fancy. Eat normal food that is not processed. I like international cuisine. See if you can eat a different dish every night if you like.
This old Doctor I once knew from the bookstore once told me all you need is one good meal a day. I guess have light meals to supplement but I think he was right. I basically eat one meal.
Now here is my disclaimer. I am not a doctor and do not recommend anything to anyone. Anything on skinny girls is just my personal observations.
I take a very good multiple vitamins I get at Wholefoods, Alive energy is the one I take.
Exercises I do
I simply walk. I work in my garden. I transformed my backyard into a food forest. I do not have a car as I live in the old town of a European city and walk everywhere. (Moved to Florida and have a car now). You think this is too hard? The biggest correlation between obesity and anything else is how much time you spend in your car. Really, more than diet or exercises or genetics what will determine your if you will be a slender lady is if you walk instead of use a car.
I do not work out go to the gym or anything else, I guess gyms are boring for me. I just walk. That is it.
If you are into working out, the best looking girls do yoga. They are the ones that are the most balanced and beautiful.
Summary of the skinny girls strategy
- Know you are already a beautiful women.
- Visualizes yourself as you want to be.
- Do not worry about diet. Just eat an organic self prepared natural diet. The less you think about food the better. I make soup and Pizza from scratch and it will last.
- One good meal a day from an international cook book and maybe light meals or snack. Take the best multi-vitamin you can find. I pay about 50 dollars a month for one.
- Walk everywhere and always. Or get into yoga class.
- Enjoy your life and focus on your life not your body.
- If this does not work move to Europe and enjoy your life, it will come off naturally as you will be around women who live a good lifestyle (not the UK).
There is a huge industry formed around weight loss and fitness for women to become skinny. Forget it, change your mind and your life will change. The weight will come off if you change your mind. Food is not that important.
Read literature and travel around the world and stop thinking about body image, or only in a positive way. Then it will happen. be humble and peaceful and positive toward others and enjoy your life and the weight will come off. Learn a language and travel to counties or regions where you think guys are the hottest. Enjoy your life and want to be sexy.
After all when you die and get up to the pearly gates St. Peter will ask you how was the party? If you spend your life being unhappy with yourself thinking about food, you will say, what party? My point is enjoy your life and take your mind off yourself and get over yourself, and you will take it off and take off. Pun intended again, but it is true. Live with your mind focused on ideals and high things and enjoying the best things in life, rather than obsessing about yourself.
I want to create a post on how to be a thin girl or to look like skinny girls that is of value, so I need your feedback. Tell me what you think and how I should revise this post and I will consider it.