Do you want to know how to be attractive? This is a girls guide for looking good written by a man. I will do my best to give you a recipe for beauty.
Attraction is not a constant. At certain times in your life you will vary in attractiveness, depending on your ability to understand the ideals of beauty. Ugly in your teens or 20s often equates to being hot the rest of your life. The key idea about if you want to know how to be attractive is as follows. Take a deep breath and relax. I can assure you one-hundred percent you are drop-dead gorgeous. I know this for a fact. You are a stunning dream in terms of physical look. I promise.
- Evolution has brought your DNA this far.
- God does not make mistakes.
- I am a man of the world and I have never in my whole life seen a woman that was not beautiful. I mean that with all my heart.
If you have read my blog on love you already know what I have to say. However, in this post I will try to spell it out more clearly, from A to Z. If you do not like my opinion, tell me, but I am a guy, and I do not know you, therefore, I have no reason to lie. I do not promote any beauty products and I do not care if you listen to my advice, or believe it, I have no hidden agenda. I am sincere. I will tell you like it is. It is the way to be attractive to a man. Do not listen to all those lame beauty posts and claims by women magazine writers. They are wrong. Why they write such nonsense I have no idea. Here is how a girl can look good. I do not mean to shock you with my advice, but remember the fairy-tale about the ‘Emperors new clothes’? I will tell you how to look attractive.
How to have great looking hair
Let start from on the top. Do not color or fry, perm or treat your hair in any way, unless there is a real need, like you are seventy years old all gray, then maybe.
Do not cut your hair. Let it grow natural and long. The best is to the small of your back, but certainly past your shoulders. I do not want to hear lame excuses it is too much work, you are a career woman, do you want to be beautiful or do you want to look whatever? I do not even like shoulder length hair. There is no rush for a guy when he sees a girl in a hair bob.
A bob is for your girlfriends to tell you, ‘oh that looks cute’. Are you going to date your girlfriends or do you want to be a princess and attract a prince? Maybe you do not have your ideal guy has something to do with you listen to your girlfriends and poor style advice?
Listen to me, I am a guy and happily married in Europe. I have no reason to tell you something other than the take it or leave it truth.
No short and sassy look. Men like long hair with a natural texture. I can not tell you how many girls give their beautiful hair the fried look.
Buy natural conditioners or make your own, or just natural soap. Do not spend too much money on hair products and nothing if you can with perfume. Natural is better, less is more. You do not need to wash you hair that often as it strips it of its natural oils, just once in a while.
Of course stay out of the sun and some sun tanning etc. Almost let zero sun touch your skin, think yourself a vampire or a classic English lady from the 18th century, pale and lithe. The sun destroys your skin like smoking does. This is so unattractive.
Take vitamins and eat right. Instead of spending money on hairdressers, conditioners that treats the surface, spend it on essential fatty acids and vitamins. Do the research yourself or ask me a question.
What is attractive on a girl comes from within not from a topical application, take care of your body from the inside out.
What is the most attractive color for women’s hair? Blond, brunette or red-head? None of the above. Natural. How do I know? I live in Eastern Europe and a lot of these students do not have the money to do the things Western American girls do, yet for some reason they look ten times better. Respect your natural color, I have heard mousey brown and dirty blond hair, guys really like, I do.
Do not obsess about body hair either. Hair on your chest maybe pluck it out, but do not stress about it. If you are going to the beach sure shave your legs, but we are mammals and mammals have hair. Do not feel you have to look like a child or angel to look good. Just the opposite. Men like women, with all their strange mammal scents and hair and imperfections, does this sound gross? It is not, do not be ashamed being a sexual creature who wants to attract a mate for love and children.
If you want to look good, lay off the perfumes that are in ever product. I rarely use deodorant and I am an athletic guy. I simply use natural soap, eat tons of yogurt.
Skin care how to look good
Try to give your facial skin a break from all perfume and make up also, maybe use some natural cosmetics, like from L’Occitane.
Want a cheap beauty treatment, take a bath with a honey mask. Just buy honey and read a book in the bath. really coat that honey on your face.
Let your skin breathe. Nothing looks unhigh as a women with makeup caked on. If you have a little acne, so what. Let your skin breathe and be clean. Guys do not mind girls with acne in my experience. Sound radical? I am a guy, why would I lie? If you have any other problem with your skin or face it is most likely in your mind. Really, I have seen girls with all kinds of skin problems but it did not affect them when if they want to attract a guy.
Spend money at a place like Whole foods or Bodyshop vitamin c 10% cream, rather than your off the shelf cream from some cosmetic company, even the best ones. I do no think they do anything. I have tried them all. But when I came back from the states and used some stuff I bought at Whole foods, people I make comments how my skin had changed. With any product to date by a cosmetic company, nothing has done anything.
If you wan to get crazy just try some red lipstick. Men like it.
Beauty diet – diet to look beautiful
Do not eat in restaurants or things in boxes and cans and bags. I live in Europe and I only buy from local farmers market or at least nothing in packages. I can not believe in the USA everyone is eating at restaurants and food in packages. In Europe, I almost never go out to eat and my wife cooks soap from scratch almost everyday. Take vitamins and eat a natural diet. You do not have to be a vegetarian, not at all, just no instant, prepared food.
Do not read too may diet books. They all say the same. I know I used to work in a few bookstores and on Saturday night when there were no customers I read them all. They say, be moderate, eat vegetable and fruits. I try not to eat mammals and junk food and only drink water or 100% juice. Besides that I like French, Italian , Polish, Japanese cooking. It is whatever you like as long as it is not junk.
Since I am not a girl I will never full understand why girls obsess over sweet, sticky, sugary things. I know it is connected to estrogen etc. That being said do no deny yourself all day, just be cool about your sweet fixations. Once in a while Eat natural ice cream. My wife makes it for us, or the good stuff you get in a shop, not brand X. Do not obsess over cookies, cakes and pies and all the things girls feed themselves with because they do not have a hot guy around to rock their world and turn it upside down. Do not buy them or bring them in the house.
You want to eat junk, then do not blame me if you do not find your prince. Sweets are for your guy to buy you, not for you to buy for yourself. Do you understand that. If you have no guy, do not be chowing down on cakes alone. Wait until you have your prince and he takes you out for ice cream. A lot has been research about how to be enchanting and gorgeous based on scientific ratios for the body. For example this body of research suggests ratios for hip to waist and leg length, beautiful body. However, I think it comes down to being thin.
Fitness and beauty
It is simple, I do not have a car. When I was in the USA on vacation people said the store is very far away, like a 20 minute walk. Uh mm in Europe I walk like 45 one way to go to the shop I like and it is no big deal. I think you can either be a walker or an aerobics/gym slave, I prefer the former. And if you work out like 45 minutes on the treadmill or step class, it is nothing. Live an active lifestyle by walking.
The female body and attractiveness
Some guys like big chest and some like small, but most guys do not care. Noses some guys like little and small, but most guys like a little bigger, it looks ethnic. Do not worry what your body looks like. Look at Madonna, she has short legs but she made it one of her biggest assets.
Make your self perceived weakness and turn it into your trademark your point that guys will look at you and say, wow she does not look like every other girl on the street with a little nose that goes up. Dare to be yourself. You can look like whatever, as long as you are thin. If your fat, all bets are off. Keep your hip to waist ratio at about .8. If you have that, you will not look good you will be a beautiful woman. Guys like thin girls. Nothing more needs to be said.
What about meditation and all that for looking good
What about the mind-body thing and its affect on beauty and looking good? Yes it is true, after a certain age we are all responsible for the looks on our own face. But again, do not think about it, just live your life. I love yoga and it is a great workout. I have meditated on an off. However, I do not do these things now. You do not need to change your religion or read too many new age things to look good. Keep it simple. I am Catholic. I go to church and believe in the Bible and keep a positive attitude and smile. I forgive and forget. I thank God everyday for whatever God gives me. Keep it simple, be humble. If you have an issue with your faith in God, read Hans Kung’s book ‘Does God exist’. You do not have to change your life to be beautiful, just keep doing what you love to do, have faith and trust in the others and what you believed before all this neurotic existential doubt and worldly cynicism or political correctness, creeped in. Be a light for others in this world. Negativity makes you ugly.
Are you lonely and want to attract a guy
Travel to Europe or study languages. Your will go from a 4 to an 8 in terms of attractiveness. Men like girls who are smart and cultured. No money? No problem, work and save and go to Europe and rent a cheap flat. I did many times. One time I got a $100 dollar ticket to London, hitch hiked around Europe and lived on French bread, many months in Europe all-inclusive was about 500 dollars.
European guys like American girls. Would you not find it attractive is some French guy moved in next to you? Same goes for Europeans. I live in Eastern Europe, you do not have to go to over priced western Europe, Eastern Europe is more like Europe use to be.
What about clothes for looking good?
Tight jeans, designer white t-shirt sun glasses and long hair and a nice body (size 4 or 6 or maybe 8 at most). No guy will be able to resist you.
Dresses are always better than pants. Black clothes look great. Simple is better. If you do not like your legs because you are afraid you have spider veins, guys are not looking at your legs like this. If you are really worried wear black or white or orange stockings even fish net.
Simple clothe and thin body (not too thin, but lets say size 6, whatever your age is).
What attitude are men attracted to?
Humble and idealistic. Stop reading Jane Austen and live it. If you want a prince be a princess. Do not be sassy, aggressive or feminist. Boring, clichés. Be humble. Tell a guy you love to cook. Learn to cook. Say your sorry all the time and mean it. I do. Don’t you want your partner to be unconditional in love and understanding? Than be the same. Be humble. If guys use you, God sees everything, just move on. Remember your goal is to attract a made not be hip and cool. Be a sweet loving humble beautiful princess. This is what is hot.
If you like classical literature, travel and languages this increases your attractiveness. Brains is appealing. Women who are gossipy and hang out with the girls and talk about popular culture and small things is not appealing. Girls that are into classical things like art and ballet and literature are attractive to guys.
Girls night out is so unattractive for a man. A man wants a domestic girl just like a girl wants a man who is not partying with his buddies. Most, umm all the girls I know in Europe tell me straight out they are domestic. This is a big turn on for guys.
Humble, and idealistic religious but also slightly neurotic and artistic. I think the humble and idealistic part is the only important thing, everything else follows. Don’t you want a prince? Well get your nose out of those harlequin romances, because guys want a princess.
You can be slightly neurotic if you want, but if you start talking like you do not need a man or career is important to you than you have just turned off most guys. I am a guy, buzzing with testosterone and competitiveness, aggressiveness, intelligence and ambition, just buzzing with it, and I do not care about career. I love my family. I love my wife and daughter and just want to be with them and make them happy. Is there anything wrong with a woman wanting to make her husband happy. This should be your goal. This is attractive to a man.
How to look good
- Be a skinny and thin girl to be attractive.
- Wear tight jeans and designer t-shirts.
- Grow your hair long and do not color or perm it.
- Natural perfumes and cosmetics only and lightly,let your skin breath and your pheromones work.
- Walk everywhere.
- Do not eat prepared food.
- Study languages and travel the world, make yourself interesting, this is attractive.
- Do not be a corporate slave or worry about anything other than developing your mind and soul and finding your husband so you can have a family and stay with him and make him happy your whole life and never leave him. However, he must believe in love without limits like you and have saintly patience and humility also. Career women are so unattractive as are hopeless men who hang out with the guys. Be all or nothing with your love.
- Be thin. I know I said this but if you want to look good be a skinny girl.
- Have faith and trust in God.
If you take these to heart more or less you will be as attractive or more than any model or actress. Let me know what your reaction is to my post on how to be beautiful and attractive. It is more important to be attractive than beautiful. However with my ideas you will be both.