I am a corn feed American boy born and raised. I was born on flag day and JFK was President in Philadelphia a stones through away from the Liberty bell. I am in fact a Libertarian because I believe in the US constitution. I love America. However, that does not mean I have to marry an American woman. Patriotism is not synonymous with the obligation to marry someone from your own country.
Never confuse woman’s liberation with the genuine liberation of women.
I believe in Family and Traditional values. Women in the US who are against this are not my cup of tea.
Feminism has told women up is down and down is up. The affect on American girls and society is divorce, single motherhood and an endless supply of women that will give it up easy only to find themselves middle ages and trying to find their last chance guy, who rarely materializes.
- I guess my main complaint about the culture of American dating is its obsession with materialism and superficial things that do not matter. What matters is love. Not career or ego or even friends. Family and love.
Read some Thomas Kempis and contrast it with Maureen Dowd. Maureen Dowd is in her 60s and still single by way, I am not. I am just saying be aware and make your own choice rather than just accept the society you have been born into.
Example of an American female nightmare and home wrecker
A co-worker of mine name Jane has five young kids and ran off with another man because her husband would not change. Her husband has no bad habits loves her and bends over backwards. She just got pumped up by her friends and found some home wrecker to shack up with and is now suing the husband for the money her father-in-law game them.
Good wife – my Mom
In in traditional marriage countries like Poland, husbands wives truly love each other and have a happy family and live a fairy-tale. I know I am also Polish. My parents have been together over 60 years in marriage and five children.
So the question out there to you American girls is what life do you want?
Do you want the life of every one of my neighbors who are going through boyfriends like carousels at a theme park before their juice has run dry and they are old alone and bitter? Or a fairy-tale romance?
Flight and flake out factor with American singles women
For American guys, I think the flight factor and flake out factor too high to risk marrying an American girl. I live in the Bible belt and even here girls swap husbands like clothes in a dressing room at Marshall’s or TJ max.
Ironically divorce in America, is least in North Eastern States like Massachusetts and New Jersey because of the higher percentage of Catholics and Muslims.
My recommendation is: marry a foreign lady friend. My wife loves me with all her heart as I love her and we will not ever leave each other. That I know for a fact. We are committed above our own personal happiness.
The world is large. You do not expect to marry a girl from your apartment complex. The why put boundaries on yourself. My blog contains specific concrete advice and dating tips on finding a foreign lady friend, from dating sites to choose to how to get a visa to help your sweetheart to the States.
True American manifest destiny is to expand reaches of your dating search
I am an American and I am married in Europe. I can see objectively that American girls can be beautiful, but for me more like fine art or even a type of horse. That is they have beauty, but I am in no way attracted to American girls. I can see objectively they are beautiful, however, they do not appeal to me in a man woman type of way. I know this sounds hard but it is just the way it is, what can I do. There is not sparkle or magic. What happened? I moved to Europe, that is what happened, actually Eastern Europe and the women I meet here opened my eyes about a few things. Once I started meeting Polish or Russian or Ukrainian girls. I just lost my interest totally in American girls. Again why?
This is a huge generalization, but many, but not all, American girls are materialistic and play games in dating, they have lost their way in terms of what understanding what love is about. In fact the American girls who take love and marriage seriously, are annoyed by the ones who do, that is the ones who take their cues from pop culture, Sex in the City and Cosmo magazine.
The modern American girl often, put career first and marriage and love and family second. I have always believed love is first and career means nothing. Family is everything.
If you are an American guy
Run, do not walk away from the idea that you need to marry the girl next door. The world is full of beautiful women and if you are open-minded about other cultures and people, then why not date a beautiful Russian girl who will cook and take care of you and wants to have children? I mean this. Why would I lie? I and many of my friends married girls from other countries and are happy we did. Think about your relationships in America and if they really were a fairy-tale or something that you had to work at? I am sorry I do not have to work in my relationship. It is just peace and harmony.
Please consider that the world is full of opportunities.
I need to put these qualifying statements here as of course, America is a big country, I am just talking about a social trend. There are many good conservatives, nonmaterialistic American girls, this post is not about these girls. More about the average liberal quasi materialistic American girls. American girls often do not respect men in dating and love (maybe the same could be said for American guys, but this is more written for guys looking for a wife).
If you marry an American girl you will have a 60% chance of divorce, a foreign girl less then 20%. American girls do not make great wives for many reasons. I think if I was an American guy, I would consider, Russian girls, Spanish girls, Romanian girls or Japanese girls for a lady friend.
Where to look for non-American girls
- I give you many specific websites on this site where you will find foreign girls for free. These are international mail servers in the girls language. Many girls speak American English but with others you will need to learn a little of the language.
- If you can not use mail servers, try an online dating site.
American girls demand equality but do not play fair
This is the biggest problem. The women from American who demand equality, which I agree with, are the ones themselves who often do not treat men as equal. They are more superficial than guys.
Look at the lame ads American girls put on sites like match.com. They want, but will not say it, a guy who is 6’4″ dark hair, blue eyes, making over 100,000 dollars a year, will cook and clean and play with their cats and accept the fact that they will spend girls night out at bars dancing with other men etc, and still they will not like you.
I am a good-looking guy and do well professionally but to an American girl, you will never be anything special. My American friends basically conveyed the same thing. Further, American females focus on their jobs until 35 want some guy to have their kids, after being in love 5 times before. Who wants a lady who has not been able to commit to marriage before they prove themselves in their career. Therefore, American girls are the bottom of the barrel relationship-wise if you meet a career gal who does not want a family. They are at the top is they want a family.
I left America and American girls to meet the princess of my dreams and I am living happily ever after. My wife cares more about my spiritual soul, then my money and my job or what I look like. She loves my and I adore her as my princess. If you are an American guy you can have this dream. You can have a princess from a fairy-tale. But I think not in America. Why? American girls are often spoiled, and into their careers rather than family centered. Please comment if you want to know more where to look or if you feel the same about American girls.