Relationships succeed for two very simple reasons.
- The people are similar.
- The each person humbles and submits themselves to the other, this is love.
Do not listen to every advice column on the web. Do not even listen to psychologists or your girlfriends. You do not need to take compatibility tests all over the web or check each others signs.
Why relationships succeed
The reason relationships fail is because ego
Ego is the opposite of love. Pride always comes before the fall and ego is what causes pride. People are not willing for be submissive. Women today think being a submissive girl is a bad thing. I believe anyone who can not humble themselves and drop their pride everyday can not love and certainly not forgive.
People with pride can not see their own faults and only find faults in others. Why would I ever want to be in a relationship with a prideful, egotistical girl? Any guy that does not see this does not have wisdom and will be in for a very painful life.
The converse is also true. If a guy does not put love above job, other girls and friends, it is better this guy stays single. I think if a guy is in a relationship he should ideally not even look at other girls. Yes casting your eyes on other girls beside your wife is not the way to live your life.
I believe in all or nothing.
If you think I am old fashion, I am not, look at my blog and what I write about. I love girls and think women and love make the world go around. Girls are just pure fun.
Why relationships succeed
Relationships succeed because of the similarity of world views. Many people think opposites attract. Maybe physical opposites attract for a while ,but moral similarities and general character is what keeps a relationship happy. In fact, you should be two peas in a pod. So similar that you might even look similar. See psychologists have studied this and I believe it. The best relationships are relationships that have the same social, religious, ethnic and educational background.
I am American married to a Polish girl. But I am also Polish, catholic and we both have master’s degrees. We have similar world views and interests. We have a lot in common, and I am talking about world views and ideals more than a list of interests you might find on a dating site.
In fact, I spend 24/7 with my wife. I work at home as she does and we like to be around each other 24 hours a day.
Some people say, ‘wow’, that is strange. However, my reply is, I think that is they way it always was in history. Man’s evolutionary history was as follows: man and women were be together all the time. It was only in the modern corporate world people are gone 14 hours a day from each other because of work and friends.
How to live happily ever after
If you want a happy relationship find a humble person. Then find someone who you could spend everyday all day and night with.
Of course be hopelessly attracted to this person.
If you ignore the above then good luck. If you have consider the above than your relationship will succeed.
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