I am a totally foreigner (not from the US or UK). I am thinking of going to the US for graduate degree (a master’s degree) and maybe for a marriage. After reading all these, I now think that my country is much better. I will return back to my home country (or go to an Asian country: Korea or Japan) immediately for a marriage after taking the degree.

And I think any of you (I mean men) should really consider the other countries. It is really bad for the health that after working your life, you pick up wrong women to just listen to her whining.

Good luck to everyone. I hope everybody can find the girl/woman that will make you happy.

I don’t know perhaps you’re giving off the wrong vibes, I aways seem to attract the girls who want to be rescued from life – and most do in my opinion, and why not, it’s not to put women down but to recognise that life can be as simple as that sometimes (man protects woman).

My advice if you come across desperate for a relationship the wrong people will come to you.

Meditate on the quote below and really think about this in relation to the connections especially dating relationships you have. Watch the movie where this famous quote about greed and wealth is from and tell me what you think. And who gets the girl in the end of this movie by the way? The Rich man or the noble savage?

Before I get into my rebuttal to women and money and guys and relations did you ever see the movie Last of the Mohegans when Hawkeye’s translated soliloquy drives home of point of culturally relative values of security?

Would Magua use the ways of le Francais and the Yengeese?
Would you?
Would Huron have greed for more land than a man can use?
Yes – Would the Huron make his Algonquin brothers foolish, with brandy and steal his lands to sell them for gold to the white man?

Men are complex not base animals

I as a man can tell you I want someone who I can communicate with, be a spiritual partner, be a family, go to Disney and the whole nine yards. Humans are complex animals from our diet (we just do not graze on grass like cows) to our needs in life look up, Maslow’s hierarchy of needs.

Single men often focus on the physical relationships aspect not because married men’s libido decrease, on the contrary. Rather men are complex. Once you have your hot princess whom you are physically attracted to than you can focus on other things also. Imagine you are with your fantasy girl every night. That is marriage. Then you can read books and travel and do other things as well.

When you are single so much thought is put into achieving this physical connection., while in marriage it is given. Read about Maslow’s hierarchy.

I also think, that is why as a single man it is hard to really achieve wealth. I do not know too many captains of capital in that are not married. This point is echoed by Napoleon Hill.

Women seek emotional security not money security
About women wanting security, there are different types of security. Further material security is relative to a high degree would you not say so?

For example, in times of hunting and migration and famine women tended not to have their cycle during hard times because of this, it is nature. However, we do not live in conditions like that today. No one in the USA or the EU sees years of famine and migration. Those are extreme.

It is all relative. I lived in Poland for ten years and I am telling you, the poor in the UK or the USA are rich and spoiled. I am sorry. The -30 degree temperatures with no running water in Ukraine or the hard conditions people grew up on in post communist Poland, compared to someone in the USA crying poverty does not compute in my brain. My point is wealth is relative. Girls and expectations are relative.

My wife does not expect anything as she grew up with little and is spiritual.
I in contrast grew up in preppy New England. I did not expect much because I believe in the message of God. That is be thankful for whatever is given to you.

Further, many great people I know started poor and became rich. Many rich men ended in poverty. Women who go for money are foolish as the truth is seen not in the beginning or the end but always the whole (Hegal).

Many poor people I meet are happily married. I do taxes in an area that has rich and poor and I have to say the poor marriages are happier generally than the middle class marriages. In fact the only normal families that are happy and together and are all lovey dovey with happy kids seem to be poor religious families. Maybe it is just the people who come into my office, I do not know.

I now live on a semi tropical Island off the coast of Florida under nice standard. I am not rich, nor poor, but my wife is happy. She promised to marry me for richer or for poorer. As I did also. This is what marriage and love is about.

It takes a lot of courage to live with convictions like this, but would it not be great to find a girl who believes this?

I have no idea why guys waste their time dating girls who care about money. If the sickness of greed has infected a person, it is best to move on.

If you think American girls are materialistic do not date them.

I think women seek emotional security which ay man can give them, but if you are meeting girls that want cars and money in a bank account, walk away.

She gives you space to share. She loves to hear from you about your day, everyday. She is patient and kind.
Your life will be blessed. you will be happy all the days of your life. You can live life to the fullest.

Most of the american woman are very selfish. They are not true to any relationship. Even before marriage they have slept with 1000 men. So they infact do not know the meaning of faithfulness. Changing a man is like changing her clothes.

But most of the asian woman stay virgin until marriage and their friendship with the other sex has limitations. They stay true to you until their death. They are brought up with these values.

All too often on dating sites you see attitudes like ‘I’ve got tats and piercings so get over it’ … aggressive attitudes that are just really unappealing.

That being said, I need to be forgiven in life 7 times 70 + as we are all human. Arguing with your partner, sure I argue with my best of friends from time to time, not a big deal as we are all human and it is emotion that governs are consciousness. I am moody and have ups and downs and why would I not ague or affect people around me, as long as it does not get out of control. I am only human.