Why are American girls are not for everyone? I guess people reading this might say I am stating the obvious. Maybe I am, but my question still is why? Why do guys think they have no other option but to marry the girl next door. I did not. Why do so few American guys see this? Why do our guys marry an American girl?
Basically many Americans have been programmed to believe the world begins and ends in continental 48 states when it comes to dating. This is not true. There are beautiful girls all over the world who will treat you like their hero.
Why our guys marry an American girl and do not consider girls from around the world.
(some) American girls use guilt to get married
American guy: Some American guys get married out of guilt. What happens is they have been dating a girl for a while and feel its the least they could do for her. They know her family and years have gone by and they feel some obligation.
My answer: You have only one life. I believe in God, but here on this earth you have one chance. Life is so sweet because we will never be here again. Live your life. Go for the hot young chick you want. Marry the beautiful girl of your dreams.
A few of my American guy friends have all kinds marital problems and escape from their problems in work. They become workaholics. They dread the hour when they have to return home to thier wives who are bossy and demanding. Man where is your courage? I would rather be poor and married to a hot young foreign model who cooks for our family, than a carrer women who does battle three nights out of seven with me. I think many guys do not realise that American culture is not the world. Most girls where I live do not care about career, only about their family and making their husband happy.
No princesses left in the world to marry except in fairy-tales
American guy thinking: They feel it is not possible to marry a model looking girl that will be their princess and will see you as their hero.
My answer: This knight in shining armor is a the proper male-female dynamic that exists outside the USA. Girls want a prince to rescue them. Women want a man to serve and obey. Does this shock you? That is because you have been programmed to believe this is not true. Even I have to fight my American culture programming. Girls want to be rescued.
Foreign brides marry for money
American guy thinking: I will marry a foreign girl and she will take you money.
My reply: Foreign bride marry for love. In fact, if you have an online honey, that is a say, a Russian girl who you think is trying to scam you, well hold onto your hat, I have news for you, most likely you have been chatting with a dude. Real life Russian girls are very nice.
And American women? In American it is about a 50% chance you will get divorce. In Poland it is about 15% for example, in Italy 10%. One of my lawyer friends said, instead of marrying an American girl, why not just find a girl you despises and give her your house and half you money and save your self all the hassles. I disagree as many American women are wonderful and loyal and good humans. I just want guys to know that you do not have to worry about losing money to a foreign girl, the risk might be lower than a domestic USA girl based on divorce statistics.
Why get married? my message is do not unless
I am very against the idea of marriage unless it is your fantasy come true. Unless you have found your other half. Unless you do , forget it, and enjoy your life as a man.
Unless a girl will submit her ego and serve you as her prince, do not get married. Of course will summit your pride and fight for her and rescue her and serve her also because she is your princess.
American girls see service to their master as good, but to their husbands as bad
Most American girls work harder to serve their boss (their master who they serve most with all their energy and time) than their husbands. Me I am an American guy and work means nothing to me. Family means everything. I recommend you find a woman who believes the same. Do not date a career woman if your family comes first. It would be like oil and water mixing. Two different personalies.
I often ask girls that are argumentative types if they talk and argue with their boss (that is their master who they serve) at work like they treat their husbands or boyfriens? They treat their boss (their master who they humble themselves to and basically kiss his feet) with more respect than their husbands or boyfriends.
I know guys who also treat their wives worse than their bosses. I believe in family first and work and carrer second.
Again, do not even think of getting married, unless you find your princess.
Marry a princess
You can find a good bride
That being said I am a family guy. I am very pro family and not a feminist. I ultimately am a romantic. I feel that in love it is two people and the rest of the world. All or nothing.
Why marry an American girl? Why not marry a beautiful young foreign bride?
American girls who do not want to submit their ego and life for the greater good of love, my reply to them is ‘have a good life’. For American guys I say why not marry a model? Marry a model who has a PhD and will cook and clean and see you as a hero. This is the CIS, this is Europe, this is Asia, this is Africa, this is South America.
I guess ultimately American guys feel they must settle for something in their heart they know is messed up? Maybe you will find a wonderful American girl, as many are nice but also look in other countries please before you feel you have to settle.
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41 responses to Why marry an American girl?
Admin,
I agree with you on the age issue. Most failed marriages are because the age between the man and womn are TOO CLOSE. Best is a difference from 5-15 years where he man is older as long as he is in decent physical (shape (not fat a dirty slob)
and stable financially.
Any man that is in decent shape mentally and physically and stable financially, deserves a super hot young woman. It’s just a fact.
Bravo, if a girls older than you or the same age she will try to rule over you. She will try to dominate you. No one will be happy. She will age faster ( skin wise it is about 10 years) and at 50 you could be looking like George Clooney and she will look like …
Its best is the man is about ten years older. Everyone is happy. I laugh when American women are looking for younger guys on match.com and other dating sites. Good luck with all that.
Hear, hear.
It’s not the bossy issue as much as you can’t do much. Any woman no matter the age can be bossy.
Now I had my share of cougars when I was a teen, but fact is once a guy gets older, he doesn’t want to be with a woman that will get all wrinkly. Even a woman two years younger than me I would not want for the long run because as time goes, she will start looking very wrinkly.
Excellent article admin.. By the way, I never did get your name..
Why marry an American girl? She is 99 years old, has a heart condition, has $10,000,000 in the bank and has agreed to put you on her will.
AH ok, well unless that is your situation, or unless you just love being abused, attacked and ridiculed by some ungrateful, gold-digging, dominating witch who will unleash all of her anguish on you, then I would not marry an AMerican girl.
I really am hoping those Eastern European girls are all you say. Seeing, that I never been there, its all speculation, but I am very eager to give it a try.
RIght now work is hard, I am working 13-15 hours a day, cooking, cleaning and doinng chores. American women are slobs, I am amazed at how much cleaner my house is than the average American woman. Its hard to get an American woman to do anything productive for you, I have to bring home the bread and bake it too. LOL
The girls here in Eastern Europe are those that give me suggestion for this blog, so I am telling it like it is. In America if you are a man, you have to work like crazy, do the cooking, cleaning and put up with a girl who dreams about ‘girls night out’.
Sounds great Admin.. I wish I could have your setup, where I can live overseas and still make a living. I have the potential but it will take some time; no guarantees I can pull it off.
Admin, where do you think the best place for me to start my search? In a year or two when I have some breathing room from my job, I have a goal of escaping USA and heading east. Since, I live in a cold, cloudy rainy place, I was kind of thinking of Sardinia or SIcily Italy for the scenery and better weather. Although I know Italian women are much more westernized.
Many times I have considered celibacy, because of the bad situation here. I seem to be more happy and live a more productive life not worrying about women. Its hard pleasing the unpleasable American woman, who believes the solar system revolves around her, rather than her being just a small part of it.
I am a Messianic Jew and I have to take into consideration, Eastern Europe can pose some problems, due to ethnic issues. Being Messianic, I can adapt well with Christians and have much in common. Actually, one reason I didn’t marry a traditional orthodox Jewish woman, is because of my Messianic beliefs. It would have been very easy for me to find a very traditional kind of lady, but due to doctrinal differences, I am not accepted into the Orthodoxy. Nobody will bless my marriage and no father will give me his daughter.
I feel I would be happier with a Christian woman and we would have more in common , although there is differences. I guess the one fear I have is being in place like Ukraine, Poland or Russia, I fear a bit of my security, due to my ethnicity. I know Romania is much more neutral in this regard and doesn’t have any longstanding animosity against my ethnicity. Italy is another option, as I know I’d probably be more welcomed there as well.
I guess to be blunt, I don’t know what some Russian, Ukrainan or even Polish (gasp) father would think of his daughter marrying a Jewish man. Even though I believe in Christ, I have differences from Orthodox or Catholic believer in Eastern Europe. We do have similarities, but doctrinal differences as well. I am more a Hebraic Christian, you can say. I would hate to have a marriage where the family would hate me, because of this issue. Would you say most of these people are accepting, regardless of your ethnicity, or even religion?
As I said, I am rather Russian looking and most my family comes from Eastern bloc. However, some of them don’t consider me their own.
Sorry, I know I am getting bit personal, but you seem like a genuine and good indivdual and I would appreciate your advice.
Seeing that you know some of my background, what place do you think would be best for me? My grandmother told me scary stories about how Poles treated her, but I know that was 70 years ago. If I am going wife hunting, perhaps the young girls don’t care so much about all this political and ethnic nonsense?
You will always find some freak somewhere that has prejudices, but most people today in Europe are not like that, including Poland. There are people like that yes. However, with the new generation that is the exception not the norm. Ukraine is not bad in this regard and Russia is a mix. But it is only an issue if you make it and issue.
I have found in Krakow people are really into Jewish studies and major in this. It is very well respected here. People are really into it in a good way.
You can always teach English where ever you go.
One issue is the visa thing.
Marriage is about you and the other person not the family. You have to have to courage of your convictions. I do not care what my family or my wife’s family thinks, it is more important about us.
How do E European women feel about age differences? I’m 38, is that too old to date really young women?
I wasted too much of my life with American women. I regret it so much. They will try anything to trap you with them.
What does age matter? No one knows how long you will live. Do no assume that you will get your four score and seven years on this earth. You could meet someone older or younger, it does not matter. Why focus on really young women? Why not just focus on finding your other half. If you do in Europe age is not an issue, its a more romantic place than America.
Admin has much wisdom.. 38 is a bad age in India, great age in Asia, decent age in East Europe. Lot of divorces in East Europe, so lot of older single women. However, in this day and age, in the western world, 38 is not too old marry.
I am 32 years old and prefer women in the 18-25 year old age range. But, depends on the lady.
Elvis: 38 is young, period. Why? Because you’re a man and with age comes status and wisdom. Most young foreign girls don’t want an immature 20-something year old guy anyway. I’m a bi-racial American and I dated too many American girls and was in a 7 year relationship with an American girl (same age as me) that was smoking hot when she was younger and then mysteriously started to get fat. She was bitchy, nagged a lot and withheld making love when she wanted to get her way (how come American girls think they can use their ___ as leverage?). My Japanese girlfriend is awesome. S_xy body, always follows my lead, shows me constant respect and kindness, enjoys making love every night, considers me youthful and energetic (I’m 32) and she brags to her friends what a good catch I am (I’m not even rich!). She loves cooking! I also recently hired a 24 year old Japanese cleaning girl who only charges 15 bucks an hour (she’s super cute) and she told me when she was 21 her American boyfriend was 40. She told me that she preferred older men (as do most Asian women). They only lasted 2 years though. She broke up with him because he didn’t want to marry her. That guy must have been on ___, or he found an even hotter foreign girl. I like this Article. It is completely true!
I have an idea why should American women marry American men? All they do is watch football, baseball, and hockey while sitting on the couch with a big bag of potato chips in here hands sipping a tasting beer.
Lets face it.
Get yourself a man preferably one from another country who knows how to treat a woman and forget these lazy Americans. You’ll be better off.
I’m engaged to a Brazilian man and its the best thing that has ever happened to me after years of dealing with American men and its so refreshing to be treated like a lady.
oh yeah.. Men from other countries know how to treat women. Lets see Brazilian men spend all day playing football (soccer) , watching soccer and going to soccer games. Yes, they do also drink a lot and have multiple lovers. Hey, its latin culture! Lot of European men drink, smoke and most get a majority of exercise by walking around with a cigarette in their mouth.
AMerican men are the best.. THey go out of their way to spoil little whiny brats like you. You probably want a man from a porrer country so you can have someone who is desperate that you can boss around and enslave. This is very typical of American women.
More and more American women are going overseas now to find a man who can be their indentured sex slave and house servant.
BTW.. Majority of the fat people in USA are women! Women in USA spend all day shoving down multiple McDonald hamburgers. They spend all day at mall draining the money from their husbands bank account, that he worked for day and night.
You couldn’t be more wrong about me or him if you tried. I don’t want to boss anyone around nor do I, and I don’t whine, I am a women who wants no one waiting on me or dotting on me or anything like that, my man is my best friend, that’s it, its that simple. Nothing more nothing less. I can be myself, I can turn to him, He is there for me, we live an authentic life.
No BS, no baubles, no greed, no fakeness, no trying to change him or me, nothing like the American culture whatsoever, and also, we don’t drink either one us, and in fact we have not had cable tv for over year so we have not been watching sports. Shocked yet?
Oh and by they way I don’t eat fast food, and I cook all my own food as does he we take turns no processed, no trans fats or hydrogenation, all home cooked with natural ingredients, and I work out and run, and he plays tennis!
BTW I could go on and on how wrong you are, and I am an American woman, and I am one in million apparently and so isn’t he, I guess some of us just get lucky
See not all American girls are trouble. Many, are good hearted, sincere and interesting people and relationships, countless. It is just that the culture in America has made you more the exception than the norm.
“Why our guys marry the American girl?”
Well you forgot to mention something very important:cultural difference.While I’m American myself,most people in the US are narrow minded.We don’t take the time to educate ourselves about other cultures,religion,beliefs,rituals,etc.Anything we find different,we are quick to oppose.
Your argument can be compared to why people within the same social class marry/date their own people.A very rich person is not going to marry a poor person.
“Foreign brides marry for money”
Well actually this might be true.Ever heard of the mail ordered bride syndrome.It happens.At lot of them come from impoverished families/countries.Most are desperate to get out of there.If not money,then a green card.
“American girls use guilt to get married”
Not necessary.Getting married is not an “American tradition.”People want to get married for the same reasons reguarless what culture you are.
Thanks for the comments Karen. In the end of course not all American women are all that bad. However, there is a huge culture problem. I think I can count on one hand I had a normal conversation about anything cultural with an American woman. Something about the world and other cultures and literature. I was living Boston a supposed cultural hub in the USA and it was a desert.I am sorry but it is true. When I moved to Europe it was like everyone was the opposite.
The problem with American girls from a guy’s perspective and do not take offense please is the woman will marry you, but to stay married is very optional. The commitment does not run too deep. Being a family guy I know that to raise a family you have to be 110% (I know that is a very American expression) committed for to your marriage, a child need love from both parents. Most of my friends in the USA are either divorced or do not look forward to getting home at night because their American wife will be on them and do not see them as their hero.
Where I live wives see their husbands as their champion and are married to them no matter what. And men treat their wives as princesses. Maybe not in all cases, but all the people I know and I know a lot of people as I am a teacher. My friend Mariusz just told me the other day how his wife after many years of marriage is his fantasy come true. I know women who feel their man is their hero and they rescued them. I can not see this happening too often in an American girl’s marriage. Maybe if someone was spiritual and really special.
My recommendation is American guys be open to the possibility that their other half is not the girl next door.
I am a young American man that is finishing college. I have a substantial but not huge bank account and I own my own house. I am going into the accounting field and I am ambitious about my career and future. I put that out so that you know even though I am young I am stable. I have not found so far in my life any of the traits I desire in American women. I am thinking of marrying outside the US preferably Ukraine from what I see. But I have a wierd feeling about marrying outside. I have scoured the internet and found no reason other than fraud that marrying outside the US is bad. If I could get some pros and cons for marriage or someone could give me a website to go to it would help me alot.
Thanks for the comment. You have a degree and an a little money and house now to make your life complete a beautiful girl. Life may be like that but love is not. Love is a chaotic unplanned messy thing that is never as you expect.
Pros and cons your looking at it like a F_ing business decision that someone wants to do the Ben Franklin sales close on.
If you are worried about money you are better off living your life alone. Or giving 100% of what you have to charity and then search you look for love.
Look if my wife wants all my money she can have it. Really.
If you are that worried, if you have enough confidence in yourself you can always make more and love is never ever about money despite what you hear in the USA.
I also think there is ten times more risk of marrying an American girl. They are materialistic, generally and will divorce you, generally.
I live in Poland and people here lived with nothing. 2 families living in one or two rooms and no food under communism, except eight-hour bread lines. Now it is different but people had love then and now. Love is independent of money. It is about a spiritual relationship and it is always about all or nothing. No limits.
If you live in Ukraine for a few years in a small cold flat with no water and little money, I can almost guarantee you find the love of your life.
If you sit back like some business strategist and contemplate this love thing like it’s a business decision, I have no answer for you. A princess needs a hero and champion not some guy from a rich country.
Sorry for all this, but your a young guy and you need to hear the truth. Really again sorry. Ask me any specific questions if you have any.
What is more important your money or your life?
You meet a girl tell her you own nothing and are in debt or say nothing (but better is be honest and not say anything even if she asks). Or wear old clothes with holes in it like grundge style, clean but nothing special. Do not ever mention money. If after a year she is in love with you anyway, then you have no problem. When you take her out do not spend money on her. Take her to a old cafeteria or make peanut butter sandwiches and sit on a bench for your dates. You think I am joking. Win her heart not by being anything but who you are. Not rich, not American, not educated, just you. Or you are better off marrying some American girl, it will the same. It is always about love, nothing else.
Dave, Remember that your college degree is what a bachelors degree? This is like a high school degree in Europe or Lycée. So do not think European girls who have master’s degrees and PhD. and speak three languages will be impressed with some guy from the USA with a high school degree and is fluent in only one language.
I wanted to put it in perspective.
I think the reverse is true of your opinion, some European girl might think you are marrying them because of their EU or CIS passport and you want to marry above your social class.
I am not being a b_itch but rather, this American rich grin_go stuff does not fly. Maybe if you tell me you speak four languages and are interested in Russian literature a girl would be impressed. Then you for sure would get girls inerested in you.
Maybe I was a little hard, I think basically if you find a girl and date her for a while in Ukraine you will have no worries or certainly less worries than an American girl.
Interesting comments
It’s curious how some women and men tend to get engaged with foreigners abroad. Like how the one mentioned above that engaged with a Brazilian guy.
I’m Brazilian and I was sick on how I couldn’t find decent woman in Brazil. Now I’m living in New Zealand and it seems that women here are more open minded and laid back. I’m decent looking and mature minded down to earth but I find difficult to get in a relationship because I’m just 25. Maybe I’ll have to wait to get older to deserve a princess? My problem is that I tend to not have any relationship with non-good looking girls, and maybe because of that I’m losing part of the fun of my life.
Maybe I should go try Eastern Europe some day.
Skarrlette, how old are you (the couple)? Just curious.
Cheers
Looks has nothing to do with it, I think if you are can have an attractive girl as a mate, in fact I recommend it. I think you have to define what your core set of values are. And within that set of values, if they are really what you believe in your heart you will find countless good looking women anywhere you are, except America maybe. I think New Zealand is not the place for women. My experience with New Zealand women is they are very out of control arrogant. New Zealand is like America for women.
Intersting your point of view about women in NZ. I felt like the women here is way more polited, smiling and easier than (southern euro) Brazilians. And (southern euro) Brazilian women is very like the Americans in many ways. Maybe for you is something like you came here in NZ but you’re an English speaker, so it’s not exciting for them (and you).
I agree there are many other places for women besides NZ but it’s defintely a good thing here: more women available and few men. And also if you have been in certain places of NZ you can find diferent kinds of girls, it changes so badly over the contry.. I believe that in the countryside (where I live) they are lovely. But I still want to know other countries of course. BTW, it’s an awesome blog, thanks for sharing information. I tried to access some dating sites you mentioned here (vkontakte) but I don’t have any clue about Russian language yet (even with the English pages, you cannot understand russian profiles
Can’t wait the day I’ll visit eastern euro
Cheers
With foreign language websites try to use a translate tool. If you put just the url in translate the whole page is translated and all other pages.
Interesting you say that about Brazilian women. Maybe as an American going to Brazil it is a different playing field than if you were born in that country. Foreigners always seem to have an edge because it is something different and new. But for American women, many are hopeless because feminist thinking is so ingrained in society that normal girls have been programmed with these ideas.
I posted a little while back and it has been awhile since I checked it but I feel I need to defend myself now from some pretty rude comments. First to admin, I appreciate what you said about not looking at it like a business decision. I am really not trying to do that but I am just worried about it because dating outside the US is new to me and we fear what we do not know. So it is easier to think of it that way even if it isn’t helpful to me finding a good person to date or marry. Well I do have some things to learn. Your post was not rude I appreciate your help.
Next to Katya,
who the hell are you. I only put that stuff about myself so you had a baseline of who I am. Rich gringo stuff. What are you talking about? I don’t think I am rich and I damn well know that a lot of CIS women are highly educated. I don’t think I am the catch of the century I think I am a normal person that might find another normal person somewhere I wouldn’t expect. You shouldn’t be so judgemental of people especially people that are trying to do something new. If all CIS women jumped to conclusions and were as blatantly RUDE as yourself I wouldn’t touch one with a ten foot pole. I have plenty more to say to you but it wont help anyway.
Oh and when it comes to money. I have no problem spending every dime I have on a woman who loves me. I dont care at all. I only hope that I dont get screwed and spend it all on someone who doesnt really care. That would be sad. Not really a life changing loss just sad.
oh and Katya for your information I am fluent in Spanish and speak good Pashto and am trying to learn Russian. Sorry if I am not like every other American that only speaks one language. Once again jumping to conclusions only makes you look ignorant and rude.
Sorry – if I offended you in any way, I have had some really bad days lately Look I know where you are coming from, but do not worry. It is not an either or. Just be open to the fact that there is more to the world than the USA only. The world is a big place and there are very decent beautiful women everywhere. I have travelled a lot so maybe that is why I do not have that fear.
I recommend you do not send money of a girl. If you start it off like that then this is an element in the relationship. Maybe if your married than you can spend money, but before marriage win her with personality.
No I would never send money to her I was just saying that I really am not concerned about just protecting my money. I appreciate your time and dont take offense to what you said. It was blunt but you only see a name when you reply so you cant know much about me. Some people need to be told how things are. Really the only thing that offended me was the other person who replied to my post, but it is not a big deal. I hope I can use this site and your knowledge in the future if I have questions. Thank you again for your time.
You really are a bunch of superficial , egoistic men. All you seem to care about is the looks of a woman. What about intelligence, wit , humor ? Would you like to be judged only by your looks? I guess you would fail misserably.
I don’t know what kind of “western” females you have met but you sure picked the wrong ones. In fact I am in a long term relashionship and we get along famously. Know why ? Mutual respect.
I just expect to be treated just like he would want to be treated and I will do the same for him. That also includes that I am not his cleaning lady, his maid or his momma. I work just like he does and we put equal amounts of money into everything since I never was comfortable with being fínanced by my boyfriend.
What exactly is it you expect your “wife” to be like ? I’m talking about the inner values not how tall skinny and vain she is. Plus it’s ridiculous to stereotype , I also travelled alot and I have seen beautiful women in every country I visited so far – who weren’t bitchy or aggressive but had a very respectable character.
It seems to be a common theme that American men with a good heart and sincere intentions get burned by materialistic women who put their energies into being right or proving they are equal rather than focusing on how to make their man happy. How to please their husband. This is what a wife should do.
How can I say this? I am married and I want to make my wife happy. I do not care about being equal or right or money being split, or work. I care about my wife’s happiness.
American women (not all – but its a society thing), do not want to cook and clean and make their husband happy, but rather try to prove something. You do not have to prove anything. Love is about surrendering yourself to another.
Gosh. You guys are exactly right about American women.
You know what I do all day?
Just sit around painting my nails. Watching television and having Mcdonald’s delivered to my door.
I barely graduated High school. and University? forget it. Can not be bothered.
But hey? What do I care? i have beautiful nails and go out with my girls about every other night.
I also have a cleaning lady. b/c how else would my hamburger wrappers get cleaned up?
oh yeah… I am living the American dream!
American woman, after cleaning up your numerous grammatical errors, I think your point is taken. You are saying that is not how you live at all. No all American women are this way at all. However, you are very sarcastic and this is again, like many American women I have met. That is sassy and sarcastic. I prefer sincere and articulate.
As for ‘Katya’s’ comment about degrees. How dare you put yourself on a platform. How superficial you are! As for your degree or that of any other eastern european. You may think of an undergraduate degree or non at all as being less than. However, given the state and utter cr_p of eastern european universities. I would say an american highschool degree carries more clout than one from trash no name eastern europe university. To hell with you and all of these women who wear their degree on their sleeve. I see it all of the time. Women start conversations off with their degree. A degree only shows what level of control a society has over you and complacent you are in it. It tells me that you lack an identity or talent. People who obsess over academia are often the most lacking of all. That is truly all that you have. Its pathetic. I do not define myself by a degree or what I have. Western Academia is the seat of all of this corruption and female superiority and hate that is being exported into society. Katya comes from a position of superiority. The tone of her post bleeds hatred and resentment towards men. It doesn’t take a stretch of the ear to hear it. Another thing katya, I know Phd’s who are unemployed. I also know some who are severely lacking in their field and don’t really know a lot. I also know linguist, just like you, who are over 45 and alone, unmarried. Because they ‘couldn’t find a man. Well, as long as the value of a man is based on degree’s and how many languages he speaks and other meaningless tripe I guess not.
Cheers.
Gentlemen, this is an interesting conversation as one who has been there and done that, I feel qualified to offer my two cents. I married at 19 to an American girl for 11 years, she took my decade of hard work and trashed it, which I probably could have live with, but then she also poured poison into my son’s ears to cover her choice to look for the next better deal. We were the same age and she was average looking.
My next Wife was an American who was 9 years older, she was bi-polar which meant 70% of the time she was great, but my God look out for the other 30%, I wasted another 11 years of hard work trying to make this relationship work.
I decided that a different culture would provide me the opportunity to have a long term relationship. I went to Vietnam and married a school teacher who was 9 years younger than myself. No question the Vietnamese have very strong family values, just not with their American Family. She lied and stole as much as she could for the sake of Vietnamese family to the tune of tens of thousands of dollars and in the end I had to defend myself against a false charge of assault (women get a Green Card automatically if a charge of abuse is made, proved or not) The man hating DA and Judge could hardly wait to make an example of me, but then the Jury decided I was not guilty in a time frame that set a record in that county, less than 20 minutes to decide the case. I got a good son out of the deal however and he lives with me, so all is well. By the way, she was not pretty.
My forth wife is Ukrainian and life with her was great…..so long as I was making money. When my business partner decide to take 10’s of thousands of dollars from the company and left me holding the bag, somehow the 1carat diamond ear rings I bought for mother’s day no longer mattered, nor the black pearl necklace or expensive photography equipment or all the stuff for her daughter including the dental work seemed to matter. She is younger by 7 years but already looks older than me. I haven’t had s_x for more than two months.
The bottom line gentlemen is this, a woman is only interested in what you can do for her now and what she estimates your future earning potential may be, the whole love thing is a joke and lasts for two minutes anyway. My advice…..live your life, don’t marry, show yourself a good time you only get one shot at life on this tiny planet, in the end we only have two choices, live your life and have women take all the juice from your decades of hard work, or spend your money on yourself, if I had it to do all over again I would choose the latter.
Best of Luck
Old guy, there is no way you can convince me of your argument because myself (who I think is younger) and many of my friends and family who are older than you are living a very different life. I understand you had hard times with women and marriage, but I disagree.
Here is a metaphor: I had the same with the stock market. I could not understand it. I keep on picking the wrong stocks. Why? Maybe my selection criteria was wrong.
I change my attitude and selection criteria and sure enough I started winning.
Sorry for equating love and marriage with stocks but I thought it might be something you could related to.
I think marriage is about finding your one and only other half. Money never ever has anything to do with love. Love comes from God.
In fact everything we have comes from God and in the end God will ask us what did we do with the ‘talents’ he lent us? Our talents here on this earth are on loan from God.
If I did not find my other half, and I am thankful I did, I would live a humble life of prayer and perhaps service to others.
So I think our choice in mates are often mirrors of our own inner world.
If you attract women who value money it might be something you value yourself.
Your comment was great and very interesting. You are wiser than me in many ways, but I just do not see the world the way you do. I hope you are not offended.
Thank you for the comment and your shared wisdom.
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