I am trying to help you here, I am not heartless, just give you some general ideas from a guy’s perspective on beauty.

I mean, I really wish some girl had written an honest view of how to be attractive for a guy. Instead I was wearing the wrong fashions trying to bulk up with weights, doing the things I thought girls would like based on incorrect information perpetuated by the media and other guys. This whole alpha male macho idea has got way out of hand, just like feminism or the opposite that idea that girls have to be ‘done’ – that is nails, hair, makeup, plastic surgery etc. Both ideas are not hot.

Shakespeare wrote “summer’s lease is all too short” he was not talking about summer but beauty of a girl. It fades fast.

Women’s time is limited to attract a man for reproductive purposes and instead of spending your time building an ego defense mechanism of why you have the right to be size 12 (not attractive), why not just do yoga or go jogging on the beach?

You have to determine if your current style is you or more a phase. I respect your view and style but from a guy’s perspective consider some of my guidelines and focus on changing your mind and intellect more than your looks. Study philosphy or literature or travel to Europe and learn a language, and this will attract more guys than a change of hair color, just a guys point of view.

While I agree beauty is determined by “how fit a girl is ” because of today’s society. Im not “attractive” in your standards. Ive dyed my hair so many times I dont even remember what my natural hair color is. I love wearing black eye liner because it brings out my green eyes. Im 5’6 and curvy… If you think a size 8 is fat, than I suggest you take a look at a height and weigh chart. Size makes no difference, skinny girls can be a size 8 but if they have hips, not everyone likes plain, hairy, european chicks with the body of a skate board.

I do enjoy reading your articles, I respect highly opinionated writers and I happen to like your writing style.

I also have a dozen tattoos, trust me sir. Im no sailor.

That being said, with the excepton of me wanted to get down to maybe 150/146 ( which is a NORMAL weight dor my weight and height according to my DICTOR ) im happy with everything else.

I do like tattoos, sometimes. I do like coloured hair, sometimes. I do like perfume, sometimes. I do like a girl that speaks in profanities, sometimes. Mostly: I don’t.

I don’t have any problem with what the Admin is saying. The only point is that he should note (in a clearer manner, because it is basically there) that these are HIS opinions, maybe also the opinions of his friends – but that he is ONE style of person, and that there are many others which like different things.

Oh, and Anastasia – hi

I myself am a “size 14 plus” woman and since I seem to fit so well to your stereotype I felt I should reply.

I am 20 something, I am at university studying to develop a successful career in Journalism and I am engaged.

I am not floral or particularly feminine, nor did I drop out of a Jane Austin novel. If I had the money I would very much like a tattoo of a flower of butterfly on my left shoulder and I also have a shoulder length bob.

This article is very misleadingly titled as it is a very personal opinion as if it were a true representation of the entire male gender then how would I have come across my future husband?

If he were to conform to your definition of beauty I would be left on the shelves to fester. Luckily he sees a beauty in me and proposed earlier this month. While he is by no means an overweight man he sees beauty in my curves, a major part of what makes a woman feminine in my opinion, and while be with me through my career and beyond. As a Journalist, a wife, and a mother.