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I am not religious like many other swedes, as you say in the text. And i don’t believe in anything like that really, not fate, any other religion, woodoo (if that counts) and i´m not superstitious.

What i am trying to say is that i don´t believe in finding “the one”. I do think you can find that someone that many calls “the one”, just that i don´t think it´s only one you can find. I think there is many people who fit you more or less.
Some people can´t find any of those in their whole life and some finds many and some finds one. it is just that after you have find one perfect partner (at least almost perfect) you stop looking for another.
In some cases you may be in the wrong place and/or peoples circuit to find someone you can spend your rest of your life with.

I don’t think there is any ideal relationship, some need space others need that someone to be close all the time, some need something else and others need the opposite. It is always different.
In my case i need to really feel like i matter. I don’t really wan´t to say anything more specific because i have some personal issues (dysthymia) and may be a bit paranoid in my relationships. But that’s just me..

You have clearly a better picture of Sweden and swedes than many others but i think it is hard to get a totally clear picture of a country without living in it.

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Hi!
I am a guy in Sweden and I wonder if you Dave have been on Gotland too? If you haven’t I think you should. There are many cute girls is in Visby at least from my observations.

Yes we want true real love that last forever and i dont know why our swedish men has lost the desire to make us feel loved or secure. They certainly dont sweep a girl of her feet as you put it, but that is what we girls really want. Maybe you are right that its our lack of religion that make us behave/act like this. Everywhere i look i only see young women with broken hearts that has lost faith in true love because of what men has done to them. Its really hard for us to even believe that a man would want to sweep a girl of her feet and love her forever. It feels like that only happens in movies and in fairy tales and not in real life. Im not saying that swedish girls are perfect because we can be very hard to live with, we know most of the time what we want and how to get it. Maybe we are hard because no one has ever made us feel really loved or secure, and when love comes we are to scared to take a new chance. Please do more research, it would be very interesting to hear what you find out.

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First of all: Kapp Ahl is considered a great store… by women in ages 30-65+, so please don’t say that like it’s the average swedish style for women Sure, some younger women like it but not so many.. I highly recommend you to look at stores such as Bik Bok(more popular teenstore), H&M, Carlings or nelly.com. Many swedish women shop online, and many of us like forever21 and onlinestores like that. Every swedish girl is UNIQUE and there is no “universal code” that will guarantee anything for you, I am really sorry if anyone thought so and now feel sad. Don’t worry, the world is not about to end!

Also, not every swedish guy drink as much as you describe, and certainly are not that “horrible”.

Second: blocket.se is SO NOT a dating site haha It is a site for selling and purchasing old stuff that you want to get rid of, anything from cars to furniture to kittens and bathtubs. I think the risk that a Swedish woman will think you are a crazy person is pretty high if you try to hook up there Try edarling.se or something like that instead!

Some swedish girls get offended if you call the feminists. Yes, it’s true. Most of us feel that we are all equal, and that you should get paid based on the work you do, not your gender, BUT “feminism” has a bit of a bad sound for some since it is starting to be some kind of word of abuse. Some people here say feminist and mean it in a bad way, like an ugly girl that is pissed of since she wasn’t able to get a good job or a husband that loves her. I think you get the picture..

Many swedish girls are abused in their relationships. S_xually or “just” getting beat up by their husband/boyfriend. I think this is a very important thing to have in mind when you look at the bad statistics. At least, in Sweden, it is not OK to beat your wife, or to force her to do things she doesn’t want to in any way, therefore you rather get a divorce than continuing to live with a bad man. Not all marriages end because of this, but many do. Please keep that in mind!

Some end because either the husband or wife realise that they are gay/lesbian. I don’t know how common it is but I know a few that has been there and done that so to speak.

Hahahahha… I’m sorry, I can’t help myself. I got a big smile on my face when I read that. FANTASY is not the greatest thing to talk about. It is considered a teeninterest by many “adult women” (20-30 depending on how grown up they are/what interests them) and thanks to Twilight it is considered that more than ever. Many of us did read all the Harry Potter books when they came out – but many of us was 10-13 when they did too

I would like to add that I wrote an essay on the topic of love when I was in high school. It brought up the issue of lack of communication in relationships nowadays. I mean, there is no way to “know the limits” anymore. I think this is the major problem in any relationship, no matter if it is marriage or not. Lack of communication means that you don’t get to know eachother well enough wich leads to misunderstandings wich, in the long run, can lead to divorce since you never really talk about how you feel. It is the most important thing in the world! Many Swedish men have a really hard time talking about feelings and love in general. They also use to have a hard time listening to their girl if she wants to talk about HER feelings and rather try to change subject than listen to her. I don’t know if this is common in every country, but I have a feeling that italian men don’t really have this kind of problem Since I know a few and one of my best male friends live in Sardinia.

Sorry if i don’t have a red line through my text, and sorry if my english is a little bit rusty, but I hope you can get anything useful out of what I have written here.

And please, rewrite the article, it would really make me feel alot better. We are loving, caring, trusting and faithful. We are funny, kind and adventurous too. Maybe Swedish women (or many of us, not all) is just a little bit harder to get. It takes a while before someone gets under my skin if you know what I mean. You really have to spend alot of time with me and talk about really many subjects. I have to feel I know you before I let you know me since I want to know I am in good hands before I open up and reveal who I am, especially if you’re a man. I have met too many men that only wanted sex. Some swedish guys even DO THE EFFORT to pretend for a really long time just to get laid. I think this makes any girl suspicious

I’d like to add some things now before I go. This is only MY experiences and can not be thought of as a
general behaviour (since I don’t know if it is) BUT:

I am 21 years old. I have not been searching for love, but I have always believed that true love exist.

My first boyfriend was italian. He was a romantic dream. We met in Sweden for some time, then he had to get back home. He was so romantic and wonderful, called me on my birthday and when I picked up there was like 40 italian sweethearts singing “Happy Birthday” to me haha. He also sent me seashells and a flower he picked out on the fields. SEE, we can appreciate stuff that costs nothing as long as it’s given with love Unfortunately the distance of like 10000000 miles forced us to split up. He found a new girl and I had to accept it.

My second boyfriend was 1 year older than me. I wanted it to be special and my idea of it all was that we would spend eternity together. As I always think, stupid as I am haha. I dumped him later on, since he was cheating on me. No healthy woman keeps a man that is unfaithful.

My third boyfriend really convinced me that he was serious. We talked about getting engaged, we got 2 cats together, I got pregnant. He forced me to have an ab_rtion, if I did not he threatened to leave me. I was terrifyed. After this he got violent. I held on to our relationship for a very long time but one day I had enough, on top of that he had also started seeing his ex-GF behind my back. I left.

Now I live with a man that I have been with for about 2 years. I am very glad I met him, he is very kind and caring. But I have a hard time trusting men after my bad experiences.

I don’t know if it is common in the whole country, but many of my friends have had a very similar past in their “lovelife” as I do.

There is so much more to a story than the statistics that meets the eye. Don’t judge before you get the whole picture.. it can be very different from what you believe. If I instead of writing all of this wrote “I have been in 4 different relationships and I am only 21 years old” you would have very different thoughts right now huh? And I don’t blame you. What and how you say things matters alot!

Feel free to question. This is just my point of view Take care and be openminded!

xoxo “Maria”

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Swedish girls and personality

You people are ridiculous! I can’t believe you are generalizing about Swedish girls like this. Any Swedish girl who stumbles across this would presumably be upset. Marriages don’t break up because someone doesn’t try, it has to do with personalities. If people do not understand each other or quarrel on a consistent basis or are both bad with money- these are the things that lead to break ups. Study MBTI and you’ll get the picture. Also, if you are fat and old and don’t take care of yourself, don’t expect a pretty young thing unless she is extremely desperate or there is something wrong with her brain. Religion is usually associated with lower IQ’s. The lower the IQ, the more religious people tend to get. Maybe Swedish girls are just too intelligent to fall for man-made religions. I do think the people there are genetically blessed in looks and perhaps brains as well. Of course, there are some personalities that are simply drawn to this way of thinking. That would be fore example, the ENFJ and the ISTJ. Also the ISFJ. This is not always the case, however because I do have friends who are based in other beliefs because they are native american. I do not believe he believes in a “personal God” as some people do.

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I was born and raised up in Kenya, I lived in Sweden for four years and I’m now residing in America. It is wrong to stereo type Swedish women as cold and uncaring . My personal experience is totally different to the all points raised in this forum . Personally I found most if not all Swedish women have both outer and inner beauty one thing that strike me more most about Swedish women is their honesty in relationship something that is hard to come by here in America. There are not religious but are very open minded just because someone attends the church does not mean that is a green light to happiness. I’ve dated several American women but no comparison to swedes in fact I’m planning to visit Sweden this summer . If you want to know about Swedish women go to Sweden do not judge book by its cover. Live long Swedish women

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Oh i’d like to add. I also like the self confidence they bring along. Nothing is sexier than a self confident woman.

Swedish girls are romantic and nice

I am both amused and insulted after reading this article and the comments.

My family is split in two, so to speak.

My dad’s relatives are all highly religious (except for grandpa and one of my uncles, but the rest sure are) and they go to church every Sunday. They are nice, polite, fun and very kind. I adore them very much. They are intelligent, too, and love science. You can have both religion and science in your life, people.
And one more thing; most of them are girls! And most of them work as doctors, teachers, mechanics, musicians, etc. They aren’t stiff. They are soft. But while they love their families, that doesn’t mean they will stay home. They share that duty with their men. I only know of one that has divorced, and that was because of abuse.

My mother’s side are spiritual. They believe in spirits, ghosts, creatures from the past. They are a bit rougher, more head-strong and more eager to jump into situations. And yes, they know what they want. But they are all, once more, fun, nice, polite and very kind. While they are spiritual, not many believe in god, but neither are many interested in science. Instead, many on my mother’s side are far more focused on life itself. They live. It’s as simple as that. If they find something interesting, they dig deeper to understand more.

Here is the thing; my dad isn’t my biological father. My mom lived in USA for three years; she met a guy, fell in love… and she became pregnant with me.
But she didn’t want to raise a child there. She didn’t like the health-care system, or the way USA treats weapons. The week she found out she was pregnant, was also the week where some students at a school killed their own classmates. So she told the guy that she wanted to move back to Sweden. That she wanted to raise her child where there were, at least, stricter rules about weapons.
He said no. She asked him if he wanted to sign on the child being his, so she would get money to support us, and she asked if he would want to at the very least visit, to know more about me. He said no. When I was 15, he called for the first time, apologized and said he wanted to meet me. He was also very drunk, and when mom found out he was alcoholic, she imediately told him to not contact us before he had been five years sober. There has been no answer since then, and my dad adopted me.

So anyway, she moved back to Sweden; when I was nine months old, my dad, the one who raised and loved me, came, fell in love my mom and adored me as soon as he saw me… and since then, they’ve been together. Two children, many hardships later, and they’re still here. They married late, but they became engaged early. They simply didn’t feel any need to become married until pushed by my dad’s parents.
And as mom puts it; Dad got everything but money.
Not all Swedish men are horrible. Many of my friends have been unlucky, but just as many have been lucky. And the lucky ones who can’t keep the relationship alive often end it as friends.

What I want to say is, everyone have their own opinions and experiences. Mine is that true love is possible, that marriage is not a must. That there are bad women and men, just as there are good.

And the reason my mom didn’t want to live in USA was because she feared for her child. And I have yet to meet a Swedish woman who choose her husband over her child. If you try to push a woman, any woman I hope, to do this, she will most likely rip your head off. Or at the very least make you suffer through a nasty divorce.

My mom is wonderful. My dad is amazing. I have met false women and men, but the good ones I know… they outweigh the rest.

Which is why I find the article and comments so very amusing and insulting. They are all opinions, conclusions. One women does not represent all. Those I know want equal rights, not superior power over the men. I hope that all of you can compare the women you know, and realize that Sweden is as varied as those. If you haven’t met many different women, then I can only say that you haven’t tried or had bad luck.

That’s all. I hope I sounded smart enough to be taken seriously in this strange article.

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Observations from a man who had a Swedish wife

My grandmother always said ‘Your last shirt has no pockets’. Meaning whatever you own in material values, wont matter when you make your final journey.

The human mind always seeks for something to believe in, some higher power that gives you strength and a ‘purpose’. My wife from Sweden) told me that where she used to live, people are not religious whatsoever and the only time most people go to church or anything would be for the Lucia crowning. Instead, they are huge fans of spiritual things.

When she first introduced me to it, I tried to understand it. But there was one thing I still remember from my time at the military: Cold Reading.

I found a book about the so-called Cold Reading technique, gave it to her. She read it, laughed and then basically on purpose went to those seances and all that to do some analyzing herself.

The book also contains several blocking techniques to help you shield yourself off from being ‘read’.
Needless to say, none of those so-called psychics ever got anything out of her again that was valid. She knew how to block herself, how to correctly talk to make them run dry quickly.
Saved them thousands of kronors and lots of disappointment.

I am not saying things like these do not exist, but the amount of so-called psychics there is downright ridiculous. Every second person in her area seems to be some ‘medial’ person. Another tragic case is the fact that people get so brainwashed into it that they simply follow everything their so-called “mentor” tells them. One case would be a friend of my wife who dumped a perfectly stable relationship that went well for a long time because her ‘medium’ said she would very shortly afterwards meet someone new who would be so much better.

Know what?
She is alone to this day and drinks away her despair while her ex-guy is now happily married to a girl from Finland. 2 Years later. I don’t believe that she ever really loved her boyfriend if she was that easy to throw things into the abyss.

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Oh and it seems I made a mistake there, when speaking of mediums, psychics and all that I referred to as “spiritual”, I of course meant what you call supernatural. I apologize if this caused any confusion.

Exceptions to the rule with Swedish wives

Could not agree more with you, my Swedish Wife was and is different from that, and was of course always the outsider while she still lived in Sweden. Mocked to have feelings, mocked to be a weakling, mocked to care about others. Mocked that she didnt want to drown her head in alcohol every weekend in some cheap and ugly bars. Her own mother (and my so called “Mother in law”) told her “you shouldnt get involved in that!” when we remembered my brother who passed away as a baby, do I need to say more?

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Swedish women will make themselves irrelevant

“If I was a Swedish guy who hope for love and marriage. I would stop looking for the girl next door in Stockholm,Goteborg, Malmoe, Uppsala, ista, Vasteras, Orebro, Linkoping, Helsingborg or wherever.”

Do not forget to add Fränsta, Sundsvall and Ange. Biggest swamp of delusional r-tards I have ever seen in my entire life.

My mother in law has a daughter with another, previous boyfriend, my father in law has 2 children with a previous wife, both best described as “social trash” who themselves are most likely not even his, but “pushed under his belt”. They look nothing like him, but a lot like the guy his ex wife cheated with while they were together. And its like that there everywhere, broken families, patchwork relationships that are dominated by pure financial motivation than anything else.

I take a lot of solace in the fact that a) Sweden has only 9 million people, and b) they opened the gates far too wide.
In 2-3 generations the problem will have solved itself. How? Think a little and you’ll get the answer.
Sweden always took itself way too seriously in this world, with over 6 (or 7 by now?) Billion people on this world, what do they think that anyone would give the “hiney” of a rat about what they are thinking? Swedish females are simply irrelevant, for any feminist Swedish female there is at least a thousand other alternatives. They don’t matter, they never will.

Want a tall, blonde, beautiful girl? Go to Finland, Poland, Estonia, Russia etc. and let the Swedes live in their dream world like they always have and always will.
They are a drop of water in a Volcano, and in time they will realize that themselves.

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Families world wide are broken

Not a Sweden problem, fellas.. more and more the “libertines” wave is taking care if people´s mind.. we live in the era of decadence of morality and failure of all institutions that used to provide it, churches/religions, family, school*..

I do think it was very important and made justice the advance of women, in mostly cultures, in top of work market, but it also brought some consequences like the crack of the base of families. Its a fact this happened at first in Scandinavian countries, in Sweden. But now we can start seeing exactly the same happening in other countries, like in Brazil for example.

In social life it also has consequences, women started to believe they don’t need a happy wedding to find their happiness; it means they are not standing men yelling to them or ruling how they should dress or being physically agressive; they are just having more decision in their own life and caring on with or without a man. Also, they got more opened to casual sex and not long relationships (ah, bad news, they are also cheating more :~~/ ) . Still fascinates me how we want to create some image about people that come from different places and, such like on cake´s recipe we want to follow the instructions.

In my insignificant opinion John Donne committed a mistake by saying ” no man is an island..”; Nowadays I wouldn’t be afraid to say the extreme opposite that “every person is an uncharted continent”.

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Dating online and foreign girls

Wow I posted on here quite awhile ago. I guess only know I’m getting all the things you were talking about on this website. Who would have know, seriously you sounded like a genius and I finally got it. I guess even my father figured it out before me he dates women from overseas. Anyway i just got out of an over 2 year relationship. She pretty much left me for another guy in Canada and no she doesn’t live in Canada. I was finally really happy in my relationship. But I decided to try internet dating for the hay of it as I had bad luck with finding women to date who don’t have low self-esteem. That was a disaster everyone on there is a jerk and the only people who would message me were grossly overweight. Not to be shallow but I’m not attractive to overweight people. Besides that all my messages would be ignored and last night I guess I had epiphany.

Another thing I figured out is many girls here will not take anyone. Like the girl I work with she talks about wanting to have a family at some point and likes all these guys but never dates one of them. At 21 I figure she still has time but as I guy I will at least trying something out, the risk is worth it. I will not be the next one. Sure I like her but it’s not worth it.

I was actually planning to travel to Europe sometime this summer sounds like a perfect opportunity. I guess I’m young to be thinking about all this (19) but I figure start sooner than later. For now I’m just gonna do my own thing and build myself more spiritually ( I really liked the yoga article). I’ve never been a religious person (can’t stand the dogma) but I do have belief while not traditional are well grounded unlike some of the things you talk about in these comment and the psychic stuff.

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