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  • What is a natural diet?

    Great article! I have been struggling with trying to not care about diet and researched ways naturally thin people eat in hopes of becoming like them.

    I read lots of things about eating ‘natural’ diet but how exactly do you define that except for the obvious fruits and veggies? For example, if a store makes their own gelatine ice cream than is that considered natural? Or if bread comes in pre-packaged-store-bought form does the bread become unnatural even though it is whole grain and ‘healthy’? And what about things like rice or milk that is technically processed? I’m sorry for asking lot of question but it has been plaguing my mind for awhile whenever people say that they eat natural diet. I obviously know things like junk food doesn’t go into that category but what about homemade cookies or high quality chocolates?

    • How to be slim? Educate yourself about nutrition, then make it a unconscious habit and enjoy your life

      How to be slim and what is natural? These are big questions for day to day practical life.

      There are a lot of definitions floating around out there with regards to what is natural. For me natural, I rarely buy anything is packages, or boxes or cans and rarely eat out. Of course rules are made to be broken, but I live in Europe and I am fairly frugal. I eat like the others around me to. That is, I have one of those hand blenders that are really easy to use and clean. I make my own tomato sauce or pesto or smoothies, nut butter or anything. Once you get in the habit of preparing food this way it is really easy.

      I buy lots of fruit as these do not require preparation. Often when I am lazy I buy frozen vegetables, but mostly at farmers markets. But frozen is not bad as it takes less time.

      I can recommend a website: www.101cookbooks.com tell me what you think? I think the author whose name is Heidi has a pretty good handle on what is natural.

      Eat anything you like but focus on more of a Paleolithic diet. Just do not go extreme or deny yourself too much. I certainly do not. There was a guy that just ran the best marathon time of his life only eating at McDonald’s, one of my favorite places.

      I buy bread but often my wife makes it. She makes Pizza from scratch. But we buy bread when we are lazy, this is fine. As is buying butter of course and olive oil and canned tuna and things like that.

      Regarding desert carbohydrates, I notice these tend to put weight on the most for me. If I eat carbohydrates they go right to my stomach. That being said, from time to time, I eat ice cream but not junky stuff, where I live you can buy natural ice cream fairly cheap. I have made my own but too much work. I also eat chocolate (I prefer white as I do not do caffeine as I think it tends to exacerbate blood sugar fluctuations), cookies I am not into. Carbohydrates like these tend to put weight on. If you crave them it is most likely you are a girl and estrogen makes you dream of these things. In contrast, Men tend to be excessive on fatty foods I have observed. So do not ban yourself for life from these but rather moderate. For example, maybe if it is Saturday night and I have been hiking all day and will watch Netflix I will have a box, yes a box of Ice cream. But then nothing for a week or two.

       Maybe consider taking a good multi vitamin and magnesium and even chromium to curb cravings. I think a lot can be done nutritionally to being harmony to your biochemistry and this will have an effect on your mentally and physically. I think fish oils or flax seed oil gives one a good supply of essential fatty acids, EPA and DHA, and this often increases mood and decreases the desire for sweets naturally. Combine this with walking or or yoga or whatever you are into you are on track for a lifetime of not worrying about your weight.

      I am 48 and to be honest in pretty good shape and do not work out. I am so lazy. I think we will be moving to the USA near the beach and I will do more there.

      The secret to being slim and looking good is really two things. Educating yourself on nutrition and exercises. Then forget all you learned and make the process a habit or subconscious. I do not think about food much, rather I just live my life. I read books, travel and have many adventures in my life I do not write about here. My life is full so my stomach does not have to be. If you can take this attitude then you do not have to worry to much about weight.

      Skinny girls – How to be a thin girl

    • Thumbs up for visualization

      Fantastic article and so refreshing that it is written from a man’s point of view. I agree with visualization it has always worked for me and when I am negative and hate who I am, I change somehow. Love yourself and don’t think about diets and skinniness will come, also reconnect with the earth by being in the sun and hearing nature sounds that heal your brain. Most people put weight on because of mental stress i.e. after a break up or work stress.

      Well done on this article I love it.

  • How to be skinny by a Polish girl

    If you are struggling to get skinny and have been torturing yourself with diets I got good news for you – there’s an easier way. Diets are not bad of course, but they only work temporarily. It’s ok to get on Duncan diet for a few weeks to look good on your wedding day, but can you imagine eating nothing but protein for the rest of your life? It can get old and dangerous pretty quick.

    First of all, you need to get your mind off of food, especially if you are a fan of sweets, and most girls are. My advice is be active. It doesn’t really matter what you do as long as you stay busy and enjoy what you do. Sports are great because they keep you busy and make you lose weight at the same time, but it can be anything. Avoid lazy days at home- boredom makes you want to eat. It’s natural that you want to eat junk while watching tv, so do something fun and absorbing. Stay away from any soda drinks as they can contain 50 tablespoons of sugar a bottle and stretch your stomach. Not to mention the chemicals in them. Your body will thank you for that.

    I’m not a health or skinny freak at all, however I had to give up a lot of things that I liked to eat such as sweets because of health reasons. It was hard because I was the biggest chocolate lover on the planet, but my choice was either eat it or feel good and I chose the second one. The good news is, once you get through the first few weeks, maybe even just two weeks, you don’t crave those things anymore, so don’t be afraid of fighting your chocolate hunger (or whatever it is you are addicted to) for the rest of your life.

    I still eat homemade yogurt based cakes with fruit or even a donut every now and then, but the important thing is if I could not eat them I would not get depressed nor would my world collapse. Eating little amounts and right stuff will make you feel good, once you know the difference you won’t ever want to go back to your old eating habits. I used to sleep 9 to 10 hours a day and still be tired and yawning all the time or getting migraines every week. All this went away. Now I only get 6 or 7 hours of sleep and I feel much better.

    Eat simple things. The less processed and simple, the better. If you feel like breaking some rules on that one, do it in the morning. Try new things, there are a lot that taste good and are good for you, you just have to find them. Do not starve yourself, eat all day if you feel like it but choose something that will not hurt you, like vegetables. Never leave the house if you’re hungry- you will end up picking up ten candy bars or stopping at McDonald’s and you don’t want that.

    And the last thing – do not drink while eating or just after your meal. This is not about losing or maintaining weight really, just a good eating habit that will keep you from stomach problems.

    Skinny girls – How to be a thin girl

  • That’s good advice, Kinga!!! I used to spend free time watching TV, which like you said, made me snack more. Now, instead of doing that, I draw or read or go for a walk, all things that are much more fun than sitting in front of the TV or eating junk food.

  • Thank you Abbey.
    TV and junk food just go together for some reason, this is why I rarely even turn mine on. Have you tried doing something else while watching tv though? Sometimes if there’s a movie I really want to see I will fold laundry or knit while I watch it, and that works too.

  • Yes, today, when my husband and I were watching a couple of movies, we did a jigsaw puzzle, which was fun. I used to knit, but I lost interest. Maybe I should take it up again for future movies. :-) I also draw while watching movies, but the problem there is that I get so focused on drawing that I hardly pay attention to the movie. :-)

  • Ideas about portion size and being thin

    I am a 19 year old female and love your article.
    I hope this doesn’t come off as sounding to personal but can you make a post giving a general idea of what your wife eats just ammount wise. I think so of us are so used to big portions we dont even know what a proper diet is anymore.
    Thanks

    • Food portions, calories and dieting is not a food issue but a life issue

      This is a good question, what is the portion size to stay thin? Here is my answer and you will not like it. She does not think about calories, weigh herself, we do not even own a scale and portion size is not something measured or counted. She focuses on other things in her life like travel and languages.

      Lets see why. She grew up in the Polish countryside. There was nothing to do except develop humanistic aspects of your life. She could afford nothing but potatoes but still took French lessons. This is the idea. If you had a choice to make your life happy would you buy junk food or take langauge lessons.

      She grew up on a farm and was not exposed to western culture like we have in the USA. For beverages she drinks water or tea, this is very European. She does not drink any soda or drinks that are loaded with calories, not because she is watching her calorie intake, but rather in the Polish countryside where she grew up they drank water and maybe Kompot or tea, which is basically the best for human. I mean we evolved on water.

      She saw her first real candy bar as a teenager and did not know what it was. It was a Mars bar and she picked it up and examined it and could not figure out what it was. There was no junk food at all.

      So when we came to the USA now and saw all the huge girls who are 22 and obese her conclusion was, besides sincerely feeling bad for them as they are condemned to live a life that could have potential problems, it is the diet in the USA. There is something to be said for the level of activity also, but mostly diet. The American diet for many is horrible and girls resent it if you tell them to eat healthy. Maybe it is an attitude.

      Polish girls can be lazy and lay around all day but for sure they are thin. They think about being beautiful to attract a mate so they can have children have a family and be a good mother and wife. This is how Polish women think. The hottest ones just want to make their husband’s happy and be a mother. American girls I have noticed postpone their instinct for marriage and reproduction and focus on their career. I think they channel a lot of their libido energies into eating. They feel they do not need to deny themselves and fall to the whims of their appetites and American junk food.

      So to make a long story short, we shop only on the outer aisle like fruits and vegetables and potatoes. Whatever she grew up with she buys. That is everything from a farm. No soda, chips processed food on a farm in Eastern Europe. If we have fries, she makes it. She eats moderate amounts and does not go hungry as we have so many other things in our lives. We ride bikes, read, travel, she learns languages, too many other interesting things to do that eat.

      If you eat natural things you will be think. You can eat celery and cucumbers and pickles and salad and apples until you are blue in the face and never gain and ounce. You can not get fat on vegetables.

      We do eat normal things like Pizza and every exotic dish you can imagine. She makes her own Sushi often. You can not get fat on Sushi.

      I am from Boston and make homemade Boston baked beans. You can not get fat on beans.

      Another example is, we know people who own a famous Pizza place, we got the recipes and she makes Pizza homemade from whole wheat. We eat Pizza a lot. But if it is homemade it is ten times better and healthier. She does not deny herself of anything but eats normal, and does other things in her life. If you read my posts on how to be thin, I recommend girls do this. Focus on travel, Italy, France, Europe, South America, languages, reading, finding a husband, but not food. Food is boring after a while. Portion size does not matter. If you start down the dark side of counting calories, portions and dieting, it is a bit of a torched life. Ask yourself what is missing in your life that you might be obsessing about these things? I think when I was obsessing about these things it was because I did not feel good about my life nor myself, mostly because I did not have a girlfriend. Once I started dating and have friends and traveling ans studying languages and reading food ment less to me.

      Food is not something you can give up. It is not a bad habit. You just have to change your relationship with food and that means first changing the way you see the world. Food is one of the first things young people have trouble with as their parents try to control people with food and intake of food is often the one thing teens can do to strike their independence. My message is there is not need to go though all that. know that everything in life will work out and focus on doing something like traveling to Italy and getting a hot Italian boyfriend who you know will be wrong for you but you can not help loving him anyway, a much better life experience solution.

      Skinny girls – How to be a thin girl

      • thanks for replying to me
        you are right
        I am currently a size 10 and would love to be a 6
        I am in law school and most people here are at least a size 14 to 16
        i think people here eat because of the stress
        thanks once again

      • Pizza made from scratch recipes

        Can you please pass us this healthy Pizza recipes that your wife makes?

        • Pizza recipe for a thin body

          I do not know if I am the world expert on being thin girl, nor if my pizza recipe will help, however, I am a girl in my 30s have had a child and my husband does not complain. For me that is all that matters.

          That being said, here is my best attempt to give you a pizza recipe for a thin body.

          I have tried different recipes for pizza, but because I like having fun while cooking and like to experiment and modify recipes.

          I can’t really speak about exact numbers and amounts of ingredients, but I’ll do my best. It is one of those ‘is is an art not a science things’.

          What I use to make pizza dough is:
          - 2 glasses of whole wheat flour
          - 2 glasses of white wheat flour
          -yeast (one package)
          -half of a tea-spoon of sugar (yeast grow better with it)
          - 1 glass of warm water
          - two tbsp of butter (makes the dough crispy)
          - salt

          Depending on how much dough I want to make I use less or more ingredients. When I make more, I store part of the dough for 2-3 days or freeze it.

          This recipe is for 2 large pizzas (flat or thin crust as we like it this way) or one if you prefer thick crust. However, deep dish or thick crust pizza just feels heavy.

          I dissolve yeast in water, add sugar and leave it for a while (about 15-20 minutes).

          Then I mix flour, sprinkle a little bit of salt, add butter and yeast. I work the dough – it shouldn’t be to watery, if so I add more flour, but if it’s too hard I add some water.

          I do not know if you have ever worked dough but it is a lot of exercises in itself. But it is a nice feeling, like you are doing a labor of love.

          It should be pretty solid. I worked it for about 3 minutes and then I live it in a bowl (glass, wooden) covered with clean cloth for about 40 minutes – 1 hour in room temperature.

          After this time I take it off the bowl, cut it in two, store one part in the fridge in a plastic bag, and use the other part to make my pizza.

          The dough or crust is really the secrete to good pizza. We use a pizza stone of course which you can get anywhere, we bought ours for 15 dollars.

          The flour has to be good quality. It could be a mix of whole wheat and white or whatever you like, but flour is cheap so do not cheap out. Get good flour as the dough is the real reason pizza taste good.

          If you have a good crust, not too heavy, then the rest is for your imagination.

          I usually put tomato sauce with herbs of Provence, favourite veggies (green pepper, onion, olives) and ham (or whatever meat we like).I put cheese on top, the good pizza shops use fresh mozzarella, but you can use any cheese, I have used every type of cheese.

          Tomato sauce can be made by blending some fresh tomatoes and adding a few things if you like. Or store-bought sauce is fine.

          The key is try not to be too American and put too much of everything. It should accent the crust not bloat it. My husband is very American and puts blocks of cheese and sausages regrets it as it way too much.

          Of course if you use fresh herbs it can taste even better. We use to grow herbs in our apartment by the window. But you can buy quality herbs but it all according to your budget. If you have a good crust and herbs then this goes a long way.

          I bake my pizza for about 15-20 minutes in 400 F, pre-heated oven.

          Really that is it. I do not know if that will keep you thin, but I think there is a lot to be said for satisfying your taste buds in a natural way. I have noticed with junk food or processed food I eat it and am hungry. However, homemade pizza or chicken soup with rustic ingredients satisfies me and I do not feel hungry. I grew up on a farm in Poland and there are strong healthy and fit Polish girls in the countryside. I think it is partially because the food is nutrient dense and you do can achieve the same nutrient saturation with less food.

          If you ever wonder if it is your fault you need to lose a little, I would say generally no. I think if you eat natural nutrient dense food, you feel full before you can finish.

          Skinny girls – How to be a thin girl

          • Cook at home to be a thin girl

            Home cooking vs. Eating out to lose weight well there is no comparison. Do not underestimate the power of home cooking. The other day we bought some chicken nuggets at a whole food store and after eating a few we throw them out. They do not taste the same and you feel not the same after eating them. The same goes with any food that is not homemade, Even Pizza it is not the same.

            If you do not cook you will put on weight and not feel as well. I do not know why, it can even be from a good quality company. If choose quality ingredients and cook yourself you will lose weight. It is very hard to get fat on homemade sushi or salad and homemade Pizza.

            If you buy processed food, or quick meals or eat in restaurants, you will have to pay the price and I do not mean, with cash. I mean the food is some how absorbed different and processed different in that great piece of marvel called your body. Where I am from in Eastern Europe most people, except students do not eat out at all, maybe once ever few years.

            If you want to be thin, learn to cook at home. We go out to eat maybe once or twice a year and rarely buy anything but commodities in the supermarket, that is the basic foods and do not venture too much into the aisles. In the Aisle is where you spend money and all this latent kinetic energy to but on weight resides.

            However, the out reaches of the supermarket where the produce is, from this area you can make the most wonderful culinary masterpieces that will warm your heart and soul.

            Another complaint is it takes too much time. What time? After you eat a chow bag of junk food or a plate of instant something, you feel sluggish and go into a food coma and lay on the sofa. After you eat pre-made meals you do not feel the same. Are you tired, think about why. Ill-health takes time.

            In contrast, you can make fast quick healthy meals at home in minutes. You can make some soup for a few days. It it is not that hard. I am thinking of making some videos on my cooking put it on the web for free.

            You might say to yourself ‘I do not know how to cook’. This is a lame excuse. All you need to do is boil water and through some vegetables into a pot to make soup.

            Who can not make brown rice? Not knowing how to cook is like saying I do not know how to ride a bike. Until you try a lot a fall and fail no progress will be made. If you cook your husband will appreciate it and if you are single you can win many guys hearts with a home cooked meal.

            I know in the USA it is a sign of servitude if a girl cooks for her boyfriend, by some, but it is not. Food is love. If you make something with your heart, your man will appreciate it. If you nourish yourself with processed article meals, you life will start to reflect this inwardly and out. Even in your relationships, you will see. So my recommendation is cook at home to be a thin girl rather than food from cans, packages and boxes. I write this because it is something I had to learn myself. Peace.

            Skinny girls – How to be a thin girl

      • Water and health

        I also want to state another thing that can make people sick is fluoride in the water. I never drink tap water anymore as it was giving me hypothyroid symptoms and thought I would add this to the post in case it benefited someone. As soon as stopped drinking the water, my normal health resumed within a few days. I read about about the water and saw that H_tler introduced fluoride to water in the concentration camps apparently to keep the prisoners docile. It made me angry that we would be subjected to this poison without our permission.

  • It is fun to be thin

    What is so wrong with being thin and smart? I mean in Russia girls are thin and doctors, lawyers and PhDs and it is no big deal. In fact if you think about it being obese is often correlated with poverty and lower education. In fact it is a signature in many parts of the US and the UK, while educated girls are doing Pilates and yoga and eating health food.

    You can do it as long as you are moderate and are easy on yourself. It is more fun to be thin. And thin in my mind is normal and healthy, I have more energy to do the things I like. Light and nimble like an elf girl.

    • Another thing, there is something so wrong with the American system: teachers in America is spoiling their kids by allowing the children to behave like 2nd or 3rd graders in “time out.” I think time out sounds fair, but only for something small, like running around, and it should be alone and away from attention, with a minimum of 1 minute*the child’s age. Otherwise, for not writing in the planner, the teacher should immediately call the parents without a warning. Just like in Russia.

  • Full of confidance about my body and attractivness

    Your article is awsome. I felt bad about myself as I have been brutially damaged by my ex-boyfriends calling me ugly and saying they love me when they did not. And my new boyfriend is better by I was judged by his friends because he is really skinny and I am not. I thought no one could love me anymore and i thought I would never like who I am. I thought the worst about me how I was fat, easy, and ugly. Your article has changed me for the better and I will read this whenever I feel down about myself. Thank you so much to helping me get my confidance back.

    • You, ugly? Far from it. I have never met a woman whom I did not think was beautiful. Your allure and radiance is a gift to us. You have just been sleeping beauty and the ex-boyfriend in your past were not poet enough to see your inner light. Cast them back into the pond.

      Rebecca, I recommend books by Louise Hayes if you want to explore this further. Really being thin or healthy is not about diet and exercise but about filling your life with things that are more important than being weight down by negative thoughts. When you can learn the habit of peaceful, accepting thoughts and focus your life on things like developing your mind, languages, travel, art, the old past patterns will gently fade away.

  • Coffee, girls and weight loss

    I know how some women or most women like to drink coffee. Well guess what coffee brings stress which will equal gaining weight. I used to love coffee and always have stress but now I drink orange juice and I have less stress and I lost a lot of weight. I hoped his helped

    • Coffee, which I personally love, initially helps weight loss because it mobilizes fat stores and give you energy. However, after about a week or two this effect wears off and you have to drink it just o stay even. It causes moods and stress in women and little lumpies in their chest tissue (I think harmless). So you are right, if you are trying to lose weight I think there are better ways to go about it then coffee, although I do love the taste.

  • You have a choice in life about health and body

    This is the most beautiful article I’ve ever read. I was a skinny girl earlier,I was a dancer and felt good about myself. In the last time many things happened. I lived so unhealthy and pitted on much weight. But this text woke me up and reminded me how important it is to fight, to stand up and get my life and my confidence back. Thank you so much.

  • Why be thin - eat like a pauper, live with passion

    It is strange how I came across your article as my partner and I recently had a major discussion about the subject of my endless chase to be skinny. And it turns out, he’s theory on being slim is almost identical to yours.

    My partner emphasized the basis of being slim is to simply enjoy life, travel, meet new people, be concerned with adding value to humankind & immersing oneself passionately in life’s many adventures. So it seems like your article came to me at the perfect time to reaffirm these thoughts in my head.

    I have been obsessed about my weight for almost a decade! I’ve skip from diet after diet and tried all kinds of exercises. And over the many years, although not overweight(I aim to be model thin) I still have yet to achieve my ideal size. I totally agree with you that when by thinking about what foods to eat and not eat I actually think about eating most of the time. So I am constantly yo-yoing. Meanwhile, I have lost many years that I could have spent focusing on doing work that could’ve taken me much farther. I want to come to my old age and be able to look back and say that I have lived a fantastic life filled with love, great conversations, doing great work and experienced many wild adventures. instead of saying “I have managed to look keep my weight down but I have loved and learned nothing else.”

    So from this week onwards, under the supervision of my partner I have reduced my grocery budget to half and carry the mentality of pauper when it comes to eating. That way I’ll have to ration my food over the week and be restricted to eating less. And it’s surprising to find that my body really doesn’t need as much food as i thought it would when my mind is focused on learning new things. Also, I am not drained from training so hard that i am zoned out all the time leaving no energy for my work or loved ones. I am now not a slave to a workout program that tells me to workout 2 hours a day and pay a monthly subscription DVD that adds up to hundreds of dollars just to stay thin.

    I now have more time, more, energy more money and a smaller tummy. Being slim is easy! Life should be fun.

    Thank you for writing this article. I will share it on my blog and hope that other women will read it too and free themselves from society’s image-imprisonment and actually live a wonderful life. The way it should be.

    Peace & love to you & your wife.

    Skinny girls – How to be a thin girl

    • Frugal diet more money and fun

      What can I say, you are right. Being thin and active a great way to live. I would way rather be healthy in body and mind than have all the money in the world. Health is wealth. I think a lot of being healthy is being frugal with your taste buds. Once they adapt they will find the other stuff disgusting. If you refine your taste buds to enjoy a rainbow of varieties of potatoes as opposed to a variety of junk food, your body will reward you.

      The main thing is not to make food your life. This means on the diet side nor the gluttony side. The main thing is to get your mind off food and focus on your life and then at some distant time in the future it can return to the pleasures of food at a different level.

      The problem with food it is not like music for example. You can give up music and have no adverse effects (questionable). But food is something we always need. You can not give it up or turn it off or do it to excess. So people have problems not with giving things up as much as moderation. This is why we have such excess and extreme.

      But as you correctly concluded, being thin will save you money and give you more time. You can take all the money you save on food and buy something cool like a new Kindle reader for example or DVDs or a trip somewhere. The amount most people spend on food is the biggest disposable income item in their budget.

  • I am a former fat girl

    This post is very good advice. I have read many of your blog posts and you write many interesting and intelligent things.
    When I was about 25 years old I was fat, unhappy, unhealthy and unattractive. I was unhappy with my life and decided to change it and to lose weight. I did’t stop eating or any thing crazy like that, I quit my job, moved back to my home town and got engaged with the love of my life. After a year or so I was no longer fat and I did never go on some diet. I started to live a happy life and not eating any processed food, just lots of natural home cooked food. No I’m 30 years old, married to the love of my life and even thou I have had a baby I have no problem keeping my BMI around 21. I’m not superskinny but I have a good waist/hip ratio (my doctor tells me that is more important than BMI).

    Just like the admin says, do not obsess over food, but eat natural food that you prepare yourself. I live in Europe and I walk everywhere or ride my bike. So does my husband. We have a car but we only use it for longer travels.
    I think fat people are out of balance, but it is very possible to find your balance again! I did and now I live a happy life with my family.

    I’m very sorry for my spelling and grammar mistakes, English is not my first language but I wanted to respond to your very true post.

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