I think that everyone makes mistakes in life and that you had some bad experiences have little to do with your current situation. I know people will disagree, but sometime life fates you with some challenges you did not expect or could not see.

Sometimes you can make all the wrong choices and life turns out OK and sometimes you make all the right choices with the given information you have and life does not turn out OK. So to learn from past experiences is a good thing but I try not to learn that much as often time our experiences happen to US, and it is not our goal in life to learn from them as much as work our way out of them.

See we are all set up with something in our lives. And people say, Oh nobody has seen the trouble I have seen. But we all have our troubles that often were put on us by life, not even our choices, although they sure seem like our choices. But rather, rather, the real thing in life is to work your way out of the problems life has given you. This is your role as a spiritual person.

In other words, it does not matter what happened in the past to you. All that matters is how you live your life today and where you are going. Many of my friends say I wish I could go back and do things all over again. It does not matter. What you do today counts and what you do with the rest of your life.

Therefore, if you love him and he loves you and he feels the same about high ideals and he would never leave you even if he was unhappy for the rest of his days, why not. I think I would. But that is just me. But I do not have wisdom.

Now I have found my prince charming, we both live for each other and my kids. We truly enjoy each others company. He has also been married before.

If it wasn’t for us being married before we would already be at the alter. We have been together over 2 yrs. I still believe in true love, until death, sickness and in health and I am in it no matter what, no exception as you would say. I wonder should we just leave it as is, if it ain’t broke don’t fix it. Yet I have this strong desire to marry him, we are each others other half I don’t want a big wedding. Just him and my kids. It’s not to prove it to everyone else, I just want to be his wife and him my husband. I said I would never trust again, yet I trust him with my life.

I have mix emotions on this one

Just because your wh0re of a wife has filled your head up with sweetness and stuffing does not mean the rest of us are obliged to believe your fantasies. You clearly know nothing about women. Your idea of love and romance and marriage, and what women really want is the stuff of little children’s masturbatory fantasies. I wish I could be there with a camera to grab a quick snapshot of your face the day you walk into your house to catch your girlfriend working over a couple of construction workers.

No one beats the system, buddy. You’re entitled to believe what you will…hell you were born entitled, a white man in America, and you’ve had to move to a place where you can retain your sense of entitlement without having anything.

One more thing: I’ve known a lot of polish people and they’ve all universally agreed that polish women and eastern european women have terrible, bitchy personalities. I haven’t personally found that to be true but I’m a dark and handsome man, so I don’t have those kinds of issues. My point is, most men of little significance think such things about the women in their home countries.

If you don’t believe me get a DNA test to figure out who really is the father of your second kid. And try listening to women for a change…sounds like you have a lot of learning to do!

It was love the very first day we met and we have been together ever since. I knew what I wanted and so did he but achieving it took a lot of work and sacrifice to say the least.

It has not been easy being pressured, bullied and criticized by peers for being a stay-at-home wife. I love the happiness of our peaceful family life too much to listen to others giving their two cents. I prefer to work for my husband whose noble ideals I hold dear rather than be under another man’s mind in the outside competitive workforce. What has been the root of our relationship is the spiritual path. No one in the world do I feel closer to spiritually than my husband for we share the same cherished ideals and nurture our values together each and every day.

Before I met my husband I knew I would not meet him in local areas thus I took to traveling around the country and found my prince. I thought I would have to leave the U.S. to find him but I got lucky. The poor fellow had been living in this country for years, having dated the ‘cream of the crop’ and ended up disappointed.

He was surprised when he met me, saying I was the first sweet girl he had dated since coming to this country so many years ago. That was what he fell in love with, sweetness. I was not his type outwardly but inwardly I was what he was looking for. Now, these years later I am his type. Though I am older(not old, I am still young) I am better looking to him than nearly 10 years ago. As he put it, this is because we have grown together. After meeting me my husband said he felt balanced and I felt the same. I am so thankful I did not fall into the trap nearly every woman I know has…of feeling like she had to be a masculine woman. I did have a couple good role models growing up who were intelligent, industrious and lovingly gentle stay-at-home wives who adored their husbands. These women I looked up to are still the same: Still married. Still happy 30-40 years later.

I always knew I needed a man I could feel proud to follow and who would enjoy my serving him. Of course, he serves me too. We both love and give to each other. I am not a feminist and gladly so. He can lead and be the man and I will be the woman.

My husband’s family says they are happy he picked me. They were worried because U.S. women do not have a good reputation. They have said I am a nice girl and I am glad they are pleased.

A couple basic rules of thumb from my experience are: the spiritual path is our glue. It is what binds us and builds our marriage into a beautiful experience. Have compassion for one another because we are not perfect and need loving understanding to grow. Support one another in the quest for attaining spiritual ideals/goals.
And…Do not let outside folks boss or criticize your spouse or marriage. If this happens gradually distance yourself from the outside influence so you two can grow together. Make your spouse #1.

I liked this post because marriage is under-rated in western countries(and increasingly elsewhere) these days when the nurturing of it is essential to personal fulfillment and society as a whole.