Meeting and dating a Russian girls for love
This is the only guide to meeting a Russian girl you will ever need for American or Western European men. Newsflash: The heady days right after the break up of the Soviet Union are over. In the 1990s you could fly to Eastern Europe wearing cargo shorts and American t-shirt, not speak a word of Russian and a big innocent American smile on your face and women would flock to you like you are a movie star.
However, times have changed. If you want to chat up a Russian girl you need to know what you are doing. You do not need money that is for sure. I outlined in my other post about women and money, cash might get some girls excited, but does not create magic for the type of girls I recommend. If you want to win a Russian girls heart for love you need to enchant them, put a spell on them and spin them around.
Dramatic looking Russian girls who could be models or at least actresses, but most likely just having some fun.
Basics for charming a Russian lady
- Have a purpose other than picking up woman in Russia – Men are too direct and straight, too much cream not enough milk. Everything about woman is about the dance. If you are going to Russia you can not tell the girls, I am here to meet a wife. It might work, but I think would turn more women off than it would work on. The ones it might work on are desperate for some reason. Nobody wants to join a club that would have them as a member that easy. Think about it. Therefore, have a secondary purpose that will shine as your primary purpose for traveling to Russia. Your purpose might be to learn some Russian for a couple of weeks. It might be a cultural interest in the country. You could go to Russia as you love Russian caviar, going to a chess camp, visit Russian churches or simply just a tourist. I think learning the Russian language, even at the basic level is a very good reason. You do not even need to enroll in a school, just learn a few phases before you go and practice on the street. This is how I did and do it.
- Learn Russian – a few words- At this point, everyone is usually rolling their eyes and telling me they are bad with languages. They have not the gift for languages is what I hear ad nauseum. I have taught 100s and 100s of students languages and they all say they stink with languages. Further they will tell me some fable about someone they know who is a language genius, that just picked up Russian or English because it was in the air. This is a myth. I teach and learn languages in Europe. I only know people who learned Russian or any languages because they did one step at a time. Learn a few verbs and phrases and then practice them with some pretty Russian Studentka. They will be happy to help you in all cases. I have never been turned down that I can remember. When it comes to languages Eastern European girls are really helpful and will want to practice their English with you. Remember Russian girls and Eastern European girls have a lot of intellectual curiosity, especially in high-minded things like languages, culture, music and literature. This is not Anytown, USA.
- Try a different style to catch the eye of a Russian girl - I am not saying wearing a suit to a disco, which would be interesting and attract girls, but dress well. Americans, which I am one, tend to dress with less style. A crew cut and sneakers will not turn heads in Moscow. Further, the American treehugger look will not fly with a devetchka from Moskva. You can wear sneakers if they are cool and clean. But do not be the average Johnny. Have a nice stylish hair cut. Americans cut their hair close their head. Remember hair is a secondary sex characteristic and an expression, if you have it, flaunt it. I spike my hear up a little. Wear a nice white designer t-shirt or stylish button down or one of those black mountain climbing shirts. Lose weight. You do not have to be some guy with big arms and a tight silk shirt with white pants and skinny legs and sandals on a cell phone, but try to look cool.
- Be Apple pie for a Russian girl to like you – Life is hard. I do have to tell you that. Everyone has family, money, health and existential issues in life that weights them down. If you can be an easy-going cool sunny American, Russian girls will love you as long as you accent it with some seriousness and intellectual curiosity. Many Russian girls see America from the movies or on some trip they took once to the USA. These were vacation memories where everything shines. Play up some of that mythology that American is the land of dreams and fun, not by talking about it but by being a light a breezy guy. Does this sound superficial? It is not. We all know life is hard but the less we dwell on life’s sores the better.
- If you want a princess be a prince - Class and charm will always win over money or anything base or primative. Moscow or St. Petersburg or village girls want a real prince. Read to them, kiss their hand go to church with them. Be a prince.
Princesses are everywhere on the streets of Russian waiting to be rescued.
If all else fails trick a Russian girl
This comes under the category of all is fair in love and war. My story of my Moscow adventure started like this. When I first went to Moscow my world (after I did all the sight-seeing) consisted of McDonald’s (food), Starbucks (checking e-mails) and the Metro (getting from point A to B). Now I was riding the metro in Moscow and not married and I noticed that girls where not checking me out. There were 40 something devetchki looking down but not at me. I was like what is going on here. Even in anti-male Boston on the red line though Cambridge I might get a glance. I am not a movie star just an average guy, but this is nature forces more powerful are at work. I meditated on the situation.
I realised that I was not marriage material for these leggy Russian girls. I was just another tourist passing though or some business consultant on a gig that would be gone in a week or two. I stuck out like a sore thumb. Russian girls want guys for marriage and home not some guy blowing through town to break their hearts or use them.
I changed my style and attitude. I did not do the typical tourist, expat thing but rather sat on a bench and tried to read a Russian newspaper, even a few words and fed the pigeons with old bread. I went to bookshops and places that expats and tourists would not go. I ate in cafeteria style greasy spoon dinners with eating Russian borsch. I dressed less like a tourist and more like a person living here for the longer term. I paid for some day passes at a gym, not at the Sheraton hotel but a local pumping iron free weight place. I took some aerobics classes in the evening after ‘work’ when it was packed with office girls. When I left my apartment in the morning I left at the same time and took the same train and look as if I was going to work. I also did the same around rush hour on the way back. I would get my coffee at the same shop every morning at the same time. After about two weeks of this routine, Russian girls started to notice me. I was no longer a one-off guy but someone who might live there for the longer term and with a purpose.
Zag to get girls to notice you
You do not have to go to the same extreme I did but the rule in life is when people zig you have to zag. When every guy off the plane from the land of Apple pie are doing the same thing, do the opposite.
This gets your foot in the door. That is all. The rest is you have to sell yourself.
What to talk about with a Russian woman
Anything that you are passionate about. If you are passionate about the stock market, talk about it. I personally thing trading stocks are the most fun you can have with your clothes on. If you love something classical like literature, even better. I actually do. I read Russian fairy-tales, literature and a real Russian history buff. I used to know by heart all the Russian rulers starting with Kievan Rus and the Primary chronicle in the 800s. You know stuff like that, it is better than having money in Moscow. Smile and be a flirt. Learn some Russian love phases for Russian girls. Even if you never master Russian learn about Slavic language and culture in general. I have a lot of interesting things on the root of this site.
One sensitive topic – I am a religious guy. So much so my bed room use to look like a medieval church with Icons and crosses. I also recommend a spiritual girl for a mate as if you are going for your soul mate then they have to believe in a soul. However, when you talk to girls be a flirt, do not start off with the heavy serious stuff. Be light. Angels fly because they take themselves lightly. Be light not heavy, if it is in your nature to be spiritual than this will come up anyway in conversation and you can talk to her about it, but do not start with this (I actually use to and it was OK but not magic).
What about Internet dating before you go to Russia?
Sure have some back up Russian girls mobile numbers in your black book, but once you get there, more often than not, the girl working at the flower kiosk or you meet on the street will more to your liking than a girl off a Russian dating site, unless it is a real Russian dating site like from rambler.ru. Here is a real one:
- Russian girls dating – I recommend you try this site or at least browse it for a specific location. For nothing else to see how different Russian ladies are than our Western gals. Use a translate tool if you need it. Or just to Top-100 to see some models who are really nothing more than the girl next door living in some block of flats and would love to meet you.
- Look on my website for other websites where you can find Russian princesses, I have mentioned them a lot, no need to duplicate anything.
Capture the bride. Go to Russia, find her, slay her dragons and fears and rescue her. Every Russian girl wants to be rescued and be a bride. Trust me they dream of it.
Women from Russian – I am your resource
My whole website is jam-packed with info so explore it and put the pieces together about CIS ladies. The CIS is candyland if your intentions are pure and honorable. Even if you did not find everything you need in this post, then I will be your resource. You do not have to be an American guy, peace and love I believe your other half could come from any nationality or culture.
If you have any questions about women from Eastern Europe, or how to travel there or get a visa for Russia or information that might help you I would be more than happy to reply. This site is not about picking up women for fun and to satiate your appetite for pleasure, so keep it real. I am an American that has lived in Eastern Europe for a long while and I have a perspective on the culture of the Slavic world and dating and romance within. It is not America, that is for sure. Ask any question you like in the comment section. I will tell it to you straight, no sales and no alternative motives other than to get you to find your princess. I did and I live a fair-tale everyday.
31 responses to Russian girls – Your guide from Moscow to Siberia for women
I like the style of your writing. You lead in with something like ‘the heady days of the Soviet Union’. Did you always have such an interest in Russia or was it just the girls that attracted you?
I loved Russian culture since I was a kid. I am America and my grandparents came from Ukraine and Poland. But I am interested in all things Slavic. I use to love reading Russian stories when I was a child, even if they were in translation. I grew up in snowy New England and I would imagine myself living in some deep Russian pine forest in the a wooden house. Kind of silly I know but I have always like Eastern European history and things, my interest in girls followed.
I used a dating website. This is not the one I use but they offer very useful advise.
ladyfromrussia.com/secret-of-success.shtml
I especially like the statistics part. It says out of 10, expect to meet one!
Here is my statistics (out of 10)
- Meeting (1)
- I am out of country. Call me when I return (1)
- You are not my type (1)
- No Email (1)
- Awaiting Reply (6)
I’ll update the statistics as I get more replies
Very well written article and very useful tips!
What have you seen in term of men-women age difference that Russian ladies are comfortable with? I’m 45 year old guy and I would like to know what could be my realistic target in terms of the age segment of the Russian population… Thanks.
If you want to have kids, I would say 30 to 35 should be OK but if you do not, which I can not imagine why not, older or younger would work.
Not always, but if the man and woman are around the same age, often there is too much competition. Ten years is good but 15 in your case for kids is also fine if you take lots of vitamins, no bad habits and eat moderate etc.
Is it normal for big age differences in dating and marriage in Russia? My husband is Russian, and he’s quite a bit older than me. I’m 23, and he’s much, much older than that. Is that a normal thing in Russia?
It is not uncommon at all. Look up this girl. Alexandra Kosteniuk, she is the world chess champion and model and she is 23 and her husband is like 40 or more. So I think it all depends on the couple. My wife is 13 years younger than I. For us this is great for us, I am healthy and take care of myself. No one knows how long they will live, all you have is one day at a time.
How big of a difference in age?
It depends on you and your happiness and what you want out of life.
My husband and I have a huge age difference. We’re talking decades here. I’m 23, he’s 56. We’re happy and work well together, I was just wondering if it was normal in Russia. (It’s normal here in America as long as the man is rich, which my husband is not.)
I think it is more common than in the USA.
Do you live in Russia or the USA. How is your Russian coming along. Russian is a hard language so be very patient, if you do not speak it yet.
We live in the US at the moment, but I want to live in Russia someday. My Russian is coming along slowly but surely. You’re definitely right, it’s a hard language. I’m thinking of taking classes to help move it along a little quicker.
It is a magical place. You could teach English there of course. I know it seems cold and foreign, but it really is not. I have lived in Eastern Europe many years, it is a very interesting place. But you know I love the USA for the weather and often times contemplate a move back right about now on a dark winters night.
If you learned Russian it would be invaluable to you.
Look the words are really hard. Break them down and make mnemonics, learn how to make pneumonia. When you get up to lets say 5000 words than you can get more serious about the grammar. The grammar is a case based system like other Slavic languages or most languages in the world. This makes it impossible at first. Only forming basic grammar less sentences are what works, then slowly learn one case at a time and drill it.
Russian food is great, I love borscht.
If you ever did live there it would take about 7 years and you would be a Russian girl.
My only concern about living there is that I’ve heard life can be hard there. My husband moved here because he was making very little money and lived in a tiny apartment and he wanted something better. (His words, not mine.)
Life is hard there. But more as a Russian not as a foreigner. What this means is this. As a Russian if he is not an owner of a business, even a Kiosk or a Kebab stand he will be working for a wage which is not that great. Even if he is a smart man, which I am sure he is, he will not get paid what he is worth.
So his options are to try to develop his intellect in a way that would help him on his own or develop his own business. This is easier said than done.
For you, you could do anything. Translations from Russian to English with him or Teach English and you can live an upper middle class life if you teach to businesses or work with business.
Also as an American and Russian girl now, you could import and export, but I do not advise this. As it is complicated but possible. I have done it all. I prefer intellectual selling than physical goods.
But if you are talking basic economics, you are right the USA is much easier than Russia. But that is for the worker. For someone starting a business anything is possible. Many of my friends in Eastern Europe got rich owning a business. Immigrants start basic things like clothes from China or anything. But when you own you win, when you work it is hard.
But maybe you guys are better off in the USA and you can save money and if you ever do go to Russia your capital will go further. Or just stay in the USA, the weather is nicer and travel to Russia for vacation.
Plus if you are in the USA you are closer to your parents and friends and have a network of support which is more important for girls than guys. Guys are like cavemen and we can live like this. Girls need community. Sure you can connect with Russian girls but it will take a while for you to make friends. More likely you would meet expats.
This is why I think the USA is a good choice for now.
Apartments in Europe are small. That means nothing by the way. I mean it is nice to have a large apartment but small is cozy. I lived in a 180 square foot apartment for a while. It was just a bed and washed my clothes in the shower. I guess wealth is relative.
If you want to get some interesting views of Russian watch the films or read the books by Serei Lukyanenko. Watch or read them in order. They are in English.
Russian girls – Your guide from Moscow to Siberia for women
On the other hand, if he or you can do a business yourself, you will be relatively richer than in the USA because of if you are frugal your purchasing power should in theory be more in Russia.
It is not really a matter of wages but lifestyle, experience and weather in my opinion.
I agree. Wages shouldn’t be important. Teaching English sounds like fun to me. I would be able to meet new people and share knowledge. On the other hand, like you said, moving halfway across the world would keep me away from my friends and family, and again, like you said, girls need community. I’m willing to make sacrifices, though.
If you did teach English you can teach in a school at first but private lessons are always better, just FYI or even setting up your own school. It all depends on you. I like living on the other side of the world and keep in touch with Skype.
I still think the USA has nicer weather though.
If you were to move to Russia do you think you would move to Moscow? Or St. Petersburg or the countryside. I have always liked St. Petersburg as it is a Russian city with a very European feel. A lot of culture and not overwhelming.
When my husband and I visited, we went to Moscow, as that was where he lived for most of his life. If we live there, I want to live in the countryside. I’ve always wanted to live out in the country, I think it would be an amazing way to live.
The Russian countryside is very beautiful,it really is like out of a fairy-tale. The issue is what you do for work out there. As I said you are a team of native speaking Russian and English. There is a lot of potential to make money and live in anywhere. Russia has such beautiful deep forests, when you are there it is like the outside world does not exist.
Building a small house in the Russian country-side in the forest is about 70,000 dollars, a wooden Russian house complete with everything.
Are you serious? That’s incredible! If we did that here in America, the price would be outrageous!
It all depends what you want. If you want to build a huge Hollywood size house it can cost a lot. But in a Russian village you can build a wooden style home with Russian lumber from Siberia and it is not that pricey at all and it looks very nice in my opinion.
I think life in Russia can be as expensive or cheap as you want it to be.
The problem is what source of income do you have if you live in a Russian village. I think there are many options. You do not need to work at a traditional job to make money. The world is global.
We wouldn’t want a big Hollywood style house. The house we have now is small and simple, and we like it that way. If we were to live in Russia, I would still be able to do voice overs, as I can do that from home and work for companies all over the world through the Internet. And I would definitely teach English, because like I said, that sounds like tons of fun.
When living out in the country, is it completely remote, or is it a short drive to town? (Do you know what I mean? Am I making sense?)
You make perfect sense. It depends where you live. Me I might live about 1:15 minutes from Krakow (1 million people) and 2:15 south of Warsaw. (2.5 million people). However, 5 minutes from a town of 25,000 people.
This means on a train (or car) I can be at an airport, major shopping malls museums etc in a little over an hour. And in a 5 minute range there is a Walmart type store. But it is total countryside. My wife’s family has a farm and there are huge forests and wild animals everywhere even. Dirt roads, horses and carts and total Appalachia. In the USA there is more suberbia and civilization is even in the countryside in many place.
I prefer this type of remote, that is living in the country but not feeling totally out there. I mean with Skype and the Internet not matter where you are in Russia you would be OK to an extent. But I also like the idea of an Airport close so I can go to warm sunny Greece if I want, many Russians do by the way.
Or at least a train stration, so I can take a train to Crimea (A few years ago we took a 26 hour train there and it was cheap and beautiful).
So I think you want to be near some transportation point.
If you get too close to a major city than land is ridculous in price.
If you are talking Moscow I think 4 hours or more away is more realistic and acceptable by my standards because it is the largest city in all of Europe. So it all depends.
Also there are many small cities that are near things like lakes mountains which makes life nice in Russia.
I love Crimea, but that is Ukraine. Crimea is warm and sunny.
Russia is the world. If you live there you will see there is the world and there is Russia. It is not a country but it is like half the world. It is so large and the culture is independent of Western Media and thinking. It is like there are two planets on earth. Russia and the rest of the world.
You have a lot of choices if you were to do this.
Utilities can be very cheap. For example, natural gas is cheap in Russia and so are other things. If you use a local company to build a house and organize it yourself it is even cheaper in terms of labor.
Like I said it is as cheap or expensive as you like. If you ever wanted to build cozy wooden house in a Russian forest I do not think you would be alone at all, if you are a few house from the city by train.
You are a young girl. I think in life the most important thing is to accrue experiences when you are young so you can take them with you no matter where you are in life. Experiences like speaking Russian and living in Russia could lead to you writing a book someday ‘An American girl in a Russian forest’ or something. Or you could teach at a University if you moved back to the USA. Of course by the time you did you would have become a Russian girl. In fact after many years in Russia you will see the shinny, freckled American faces with big smiles of tourists in Russia, and you will ask yourself, did I look like that once? I mean this in a nice way, of course I just mean the Russian experience will have an impact on your if you ever did this.
Russian girls – Your guide from Moscow to Siberia for women
If you build a house in the Russian countryside the top choices are:
Log or rectangular wood blocks. Of course you can do stone, brick or exactly like an American home with a frame. But check out photos of modern Russian countryside homes, the styles are different than the USA but very interesting. Wood is a very warm material and brightens things up.
I like the idea of writing a book. The thing I don’t think I will be able to get used to is the way a young Russian girl is “supposed” to look. A lot of girls that I saw there that were my age wore fancy clothes, tons of make-up, some of them looked like they just stepped out of a fashion magazine. That’s not me. I wear natural make-up, I wear jeans and nice tops, I don’t like the made-up look. I like the natural look. I don’t want to look out of place there, but I don’t want to try to be something that I’m not comfortable with. I guess what I’m saying is, if I stay there long enough and eventually become a Russian girl, I hope it’s not expected of me to try to look like a supermodel.
My friend wrote a book, actually several of my ex pat friends have. You can see his website Amishamerica.com – he lives in Eastern Europe down the street almost from me.
Forget stereotypes about Russian girls. I think your style is great. It is the same style as my wife (and she is Eastern European). I tell my wife better than caking on cosmetics, use natural skin care creams and take vitamins. A much better investment in the long run. Her skin glows without the need for make up. Maybe she puts on some natural lip stick from time to time, but more skin protection cream and night cream, anything from the body shop or L’Occtaine or Burts Bees or Whole foods, whatever, but natural creams to nourish your skin or protect it is the way to go. But at 23 you do not need to much foofy stuff unless it is fun for you.
I always had the philosophy that it is better to be in good health than spend money on covering things up.
I have a number of Russian friends and not all of them have this style. In fact, a lot of Ukrainian girls I know can not afford cosmetics but they look great naturally.
My wife from the countryside for fun made her own masks etc.
You can make a honey mask you know and it does better than any thick expensive cream to remove impurities.
Natural style is the best. Keep it.
Oh and if you ever did move across the seas, there is nothing you can not get in Europe that is in the USA.
Today I just got a shipment of herbs from Germany, the other day books from the UK (free shipping). So if you are set up than you are all set.
That being said, it is not for the faint in heart. It is really hard for about thee years emotionally. After about five years you feel at home and really do not want to go back, except in the winter. I am complaining all winter as this is the first year we did not go somewhere sunny. Last year we went to Florida and Greece for example, in the winter.
But you know you do not have to move to Russia to learn Russian. It is really all about you personally where you would be happier. If you are set up in the USA and all is fine, stay in the USA and enjoy the warm weather.
If you want to experience something new, like I did, I would do it. But things never turn out the way you expect. Often better but never as you expect.
And Russian girls, they will love you if you came over. Why? You would be a totally new experience for them. Wow an American girl in Russia. Again, it could be the title of a book.
Russian girls – Your guide from Moscow to Siberia for women
I hope Russian girls would love me. From what I experienced, Russian girls are a little more demure. That’s not to say they don’t have personalities, but here in America, it’s normal for a girl to be cheery and smiling all the time. I didn’t see that much at first glance in Russia. Maybe I didn’t meet the right girls.
Your are right. Americans are smiley and cheery. But that does not mean anything. It is more about the weather and communism I think. When you get to know Eastern European girls they are very nice.
They are more reserved, but not all. I know some more perky than any Americans. Also times are changing and as things get better people are so less serious and hard.
What about Ukraine and where to live
I want to ask you something about Ukraine and living. I, like you, have loved Slavic culture since I was a child. Now I’m learning Russian and everything you said about it is true.
My problem is that I may not have enough time to learn Ukrainian, that is, let’s say, more sophisticated.
How do you see living in Mariupol or Kiev, for example? Maia nebietskaya is a lovely Ukrainian. We are going to live in Mexico, but I do not want to lose the chance of living partially in Eastern Europe. Thanks so much.
Jorge
My rant about Ukraine and its beauty
Ukraine is a wonderful place. I think some Russians and Ukrainians look at me odd when I say that sometimes, but most understand how unique a country it is. But it is true. Eastern Europe, where I have lived a good part of my life is very interesting for someone who has lived elsewhere. Everything becomes a magical fascination from the grey buildings, grey skies and grey eyes to the beautiful architecture and deep subtle feelings of people who are so introverted and restrained like a Jane Austen novel.
Ukrainian food is the best. I have never tasted such rich food, maybe because of the black soil it grows in.
Russian or Ukrainian is fine. Ukrainian is better in the West of course but as a foreigner Russian is OK and certainly English is good. You can teach Spanish as a second language and make a lot of money if you want as you are a native speaker.
I would say once you learn one Slavic language and understand the vocabulary and cases a bit other languages are not that hard. To learn Ukrainian focus on words not grammar. Words are the basis of any language and grammar only slows you down at first, unless you are a real natural linguist. Learn as much of Ukrainian as you can before you go.
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