So I would say she is most likely not a Russian scammer girl but a normal girl. However, that being said, with any girl or relationship I try to see if the person has values in accordance with my world view. If she cares about ideals and marriage for alway. Or does she believe in a higher power or attends church, what is the source of her morality and where does it lead her in life.

Maybe I am old fashion but this means something. Someone who takes their ideals or faith seriously and authentically is less likely to betray their own internal moral compass when times get hard.

I registered on a dating site a few months back. About 2 months ago I contacted this beautiful, blonde Swedish girl and we started talking via the on-site messaging service. It went really well and after about 20 replies between us our messages had grown from 1 line to small essays. She never brought up any alternative chat programs or email addresses as I hear scammers often do. I eventually brought up Facebook as I thought this would give me a glimpse into her life and help the over-cautious man inside me relax a bit. She friended me on Facebook without avoiding it at all and I couldn’t find anything out of the ordinary.

She had the idea that we should talk on Skype, which we did (with video) so it was immediately clear to me that this was the same person. We have done this plenty times over the last month and are also talking every day on a messaging program on our phones.

Up till now she has not even hinted at wanting money from me and I have also made sure that she knows that I am a poor student. We have become closer and affectionate towards each other and we are discussing me going to visit her. She has even mentioned paying half the plane ticket because it’s something we both want and of course I would be staying with her for free since she has her own place.

So there is really no reason, that I’m aware of, to not trust her. Could this still be a scam in some way or should my overly cautious inner persona take a break and accept that this could be one of those love stories that actually ends happily?

Regards
Wary

sympatia.onet.pl
znajomi.interia.pl/randki/
nk.pl – not a dating site but like a Polish Facebook

You could try these to start and let me know how you do.

If you want other countries in Eastern Europe let me know this too. There are many nice Russian and Ukrainian girls but Polish girls are sweet,the country is a normal EU and the chance of a scam is like zero to none, in fact the economy is pretty hot there with no crisis, even though wages are lower. The girls generally are religious if that is important to you and many have connections to the countryside and farming. Western Ukraine is another great place.

Please let me know more about what you have tried or what you are thinking and I can guide you better. I would explore myself site as I have listed a number of websites to try.

It does not sound like you are doing that, but even to introduce money into the relationship early clouds the truth. Love is love,energy from the Divine. Money is something else, it is a man-made tool which represents a store of our productive activities, that we use to achieve our dreams.

When a university studentka takes money from a man, there is an exchange of energy. All the universe is energy and when you accept money from someone it is an exchange of energy.

Imagine that we are just Divine beings made of a colorful energy pattern. Auras if you will. Now imagine one energy glob takes energy from another energy glob.Is this coming from the heart center or another center?

A Russian Studentka – this is the word for in Eastern Europe for a University student that is a girl, (note the an ending indicating it is female) – accepts money, accepts an offer from a man for money, even if there is nothing going on in the bedroom, this is called sponsoring.

If you look at classified ads in Eastern Europe you will see many Russian student girls looking for sponsors. Well, I nor any of my friends would accept such a thing. We would be offended and walk away with a little fear in us.

When Admin, writes girls and money are a dangerous game, I do not think he is writing that to be sexist, but rather that it messes up the energy exchange and dynamic between men and woman early on in a relationship.

If a studentka accepts money from a man, deep down she knows as a female, the relationship will never be the same. It does not matter if she is a scammer or not. I would say no, she is not a scammer. However, she did take money from you and it spoiled the energy exchange.

Look up the work sponsoring on any classified ad, ‘student looking for sponsor’, if you do not speak Russian or Romanian you can can look using a translate tool. When you scan through those classified ‘announcements’ then I think your eyes will be open and you will have your answer.

Look for girls that are not about money at all. That would rather drop out of school than accept money from a foreigner.

Some girls would take it, but I personally would not want to go out with those girls, but everyone has to make their own choices. It is not the money because if you have a good job 300 dollars is not a lot of money. It is the idea of taking money from a foreign man who you are not engaged to or in a serious one on one relationship with. Ask yourself if you were in that situation would you do it? Maybe I am wrong here but when you start to enter situational ethics and conditional maybe I would, this is an indicator if someone would pursue that type of thinking in more important relationship issues, such as divorce.

If you find a girl who would never take money even if in need, but still wants to be with you, this is a girl who would be loyal and true. There are too many girls out there, there are plenty of fish in the sea. I know I sound hard. I am not. I do not think she is scamming you, I just question a girl who would take cash from a foreigner without service or work in exchange. I mean respectable work. If you offered her basic work like, writing or webs design or selling things online for you in exchange for money. This would be different.

Also the type of job a girl has done tells you a lot about them. I know a guy who married a pole dancer of the less respectable kind and it was a horrible marriage. If a girl does a questionable job in my mind she has crossed the line and it could be an indication of character.

Further, Romanians, or Polish girls or Russian girls that tell you they are poor do not believe it. I lived in Poland for about ten years. Yes it is poorer than the West but this is the EU or Europe. Free medical care, free education, right to work and travel in a market that is bigger than the USA. My wife when she was in school was working at a diagnostic laboratory and made about 300 dollars a month, and this was in a time of 20% unemployment. She survived fine, because people in Eastern Europe know how to survive on little money. So I do not believe any sob stories coming from Eastern Europe because I lived there, I am a citizen of Poland, I think many people who play victim are better off than I.

When a girl says a relationship is based on trust, she loses my trust. Trust is like faith, it is not something that is talked about openly too much but is just lived. When you start using it as a word of behavior modification in a relationship that is not matured and real life, it is Machiavellian.

Again I am not saying she is a scammer at all. I am not saying she is a bad girl and I might be wrong, but I personally see the world different.

Why do you not just go to Romania and visit her unexpected. You could do it on a general trip to meet girls, and stop by her place also. I am telling your there are a zillion nice good girls in Eastern Europe, I would be careful before I lasso my wagon to her star or any girl for a long-term relationship until I trust her from my heart and the word is not mentioned.

In my experience in life if I am unsure about a person, my intuitive doubt is usually right. If you are not sure you trust a girl, then you do not trust them, and for a reason.

We have done a lot of web cam chat, she no longer works at the cam site, since I told her not to. The thing is , she just needed money for rent and food, I told her I could care for her and if she wanted she could come to live with me, no strings attached, she told me she was currently studying and needed to finish the semester, so in the mean time we could get to know each other better.

I help her with 300 dollars for rent and food, she show me her id card and bank account info on webcam and send me in email I do have front and back of her card, she even gave me password to her email account.

At least one of them I just found out she has another one, anyhow, all was ok till she had a big stomach and back pain issue and she went to doctor and it was kidney stones, she took treatment and ask for help.

I did to a certain point and well its all back to normal, now she tells me she checked passport and she can have everything ready to come to my place in January (its end of November now) but she need to finish this semester and get papers ready for transfer.

That is one of the thing her mother had wanted ( she pass away recently , also she doesnt really likes talking about it) anyway, she is now requesting more money to do this, and I told her I could help her if i could go see her, and she got upset, telling me if I could not trust her, that how could a new relationship start without trust.

She told me I could go on Jan instead of Dec, but thing is she needs the money before Dec. 20th. In conclusion, I don’t know if its good to continue helping or just let it be. She does look legal, but that thing of not wanting me to go on Dec trip me off, any advice?