@Frank – total scam. Young people almost never get kidney stones and medical treatment is free in most countries (the US is one of the few countries where you need money for health treatment). Education / University is also free – she probably lives with her mum (who is still alive) and doesn’t even pay rent. If she’s willing to do cam work then she has low morals and is lazy (quick money for no effort). Even if she really is a girl (and not a Nigerian scammer), she is a gold-digger and you will be funding her lifestyle forever.

So I would say she is most likely not a Russian scammer girl but a normal girl. However, that being said, with any girl or relationship I try to see if the person has values in accordance with my world view. If she cares about ideals and marriage for alway. Or does she believe in a higher power or attends church, what is the source of her morality and where does it lead her in life.

Maybe I am old fashion but this means something. Someone who takes their ideals or faith seriously and authentically is less likely to betray their own internal moral compass when times get hard.

I registered on a dating site a few months back. About 2 months ago I contacted this beautiful, blonde Swedish girl and we started talking via the on-site messaging service. It went really well and after about 20 replies between us our messages had grown from 1 line to small essays. She never brought up any alternative chat programs or email addresses as I hear scammers often do. I eventually brought up Facebook as I thought this would give me a glimpse into her life and help the over-cautious man inside me relax a bit. She friended me on Facebook without avoiding it at all and I couldn’t find anything out of the ordinary.

She had the idea that we should talk on Skype, which we did (with video) so it was immediately clear to me that this was the same person. We have done this plenty times over the last month and are also talking every day on a messaging program on our phones.

Up till now she has not even hinted at wanting money from me and I have also made sure that she knows that I am a poor student. We have become closer and affectionate towards each other and we are discussing me going to visit her. She has even mentioned paying half the plane ticket because it’s something we both want and of course I would be staying with her for free since she has her own place.

So there is really no reason, that I’m aware of, to not trust her. Could this still be a scam in some way or should my overly cautious inner persona take a break and accept that this could be one of those love stories that actually ends happily?

Regards
Wary

sympatia.onet.pl
znajomi.interia.pl/randki/
nk.pl – not a dating site but like a Polish Facebook

You could try these to start and let me know how you do.

If you want other countries in Eastern Europe let me know this too. There are many nice Russian and Ukrainian girls but Polish girls are sweet,the country is a normal EU and the chance of a scam is like zero to none, in fact the economy is pretty hot there with no crisis, even though wages are lower. The girls generally are religious if that is important to you and many have connections to the countryside and farming. Western Ukraine is another great place.

Please let me know more about what you have tried or what you are thinking and I can guide you better. I would explore myself site as I have listed a number of websites to try.

It does not sound like you are doing that, but even to introduce money into the relationship early clouds the truth. Love is love,energy from the Divine. Money is something else, it is a man-made tool which represents a store of our productive activities, that we use to achieve our dreams.

When a university studentka takes money from a man, there is an exchange of energy. All the universe is energy and when you accept money from someone it is an exchange of energy.

Imagine that we are just Divine beings made of a colorful energy pattern. Auras if you will. Now imagine one energy glob takes energy from another energy glob.Is this coming from the heart center or another center?

A Russian Studentka – this is the word for in Eastern Europe for a University student that is a girl, (note the an ending indicating it is female) – accepts money, accepts an offer from a man for money, even if there is nothing going on in the bedroom, this is called sponsoring.

If you look at classified ads in Eastern Europe you will see many Russian student girls looking for sponsors. Well, I nor any of my friends would accept such a thing. We would be offended and walk away with a little fear in us.

When Admin, writes girls and money are a dangerous game, I do not think he is writing that to be sexist, but rather that it messes up the energy exchange and dynamic between men and woman early on in a relationship.

If a studentka accepts money from a man, deep down she knows as a female, the relationship will never be the same. It does not matter if she is a scammer or not. I would say no, she is not a scammer. However, she did take money from you and it spoiled the energy exchange.

Look up the work sponsoring on any classified ad, ‘student looking for sponsor’, if you do not speak Russian or Romanian you can can look using a translate tool. When you scan through those classified ‘announcements’ then I think your eyes will be open and you will have your answer.

Look for girls that are not about money at all. That would rather drop out of school than accept money from a foreigner.