My name is Mark Biernat. I am an American living in Krakow, Poland. I am very happily married to the girl of my dreams.
I created this site to show other people around the world that the world is full of possibilities. Be open to the idea that just because you live in one place in the world does not mean that your princess does not waits for you on the other side of the world.
Finding your other half is the most important thing you do in your life. If you have love, nothing else matters.
If you find the girl or guy of your dreams it will make your life a fairy-tale. The fairy-tale princess from your childhood dreams and the unspoken prayers of your heart. Trust me, love makes the world go around.
True love does exist
26 responses to About girls for love
Hi Mark, I really agree with your opinions about courtship and marriage. I’m a traditional Roman Catholic in this Canadian wasteland. I’ve struggled with this issue for my entire adult life. Even now at 54, I still long for a traditional family life, the noise of a joyful home and the patter of little feet running to hug their papa. If you express these desires in this culture, you’re considered too needy and even the Catholic women flee like you had the plague. Who doesn’t need love? God created us for that, and the sacrificial marriage (the death of the ego) prepares us for our eternal union with God who is Love itself. The more I experience the poverty of the single life, the more I desire to lay down my life in providing and caring for my beloved and my family. I’m finally waking up to the possibility of meeting a woman from Eastern Europe. I am pretty cautious because I want to marry in the Church and share the fullness of the Catholic faith with my wife and family. I have been thinking of taking a trip this coming spring or early summer to western Ukraine, Belarus, or maybe Poland. I would appreciate any comments you would like to offer.
PS Unfortunately I only speak English at this time, so I’m not sure how well I could get around.
Is your language course available yet?
Thank you,
Ron
Ron, you are a good man. Only in the US and Canada is the world turned upside down. I love American but would not ever find a wife there. Do not think of a trip, just do it. Move to another country. Pull out all stops. Your time will run out. I know many girls in Europe who say the same thing. They are beautiful and want a family and are normal and treat men with respect. But at 54, your time will run out. Do not think about it just do it. I am catholic, I do not know if I am good or not, but my advice to you is. 1) Do not be so good you are good for nothing. 2) Do not get smart too late. Your a good man and you deserve love in your life.
Hi Mark, thanks for your reply, and thanks for the encouragement. I have two more questions to ask you, if I may. Is it possible for an expat to own property under a freehold title in Ukraine? I’m thinking particularly about farmland. Also I would like to ask if you and your wife have considered operating an introductory service yourselves? The reason I ask is because I’ve noticed the Tour sites have a very high percentage of divorced women on them. If they are representative of the society, how could a man hope to encounter single women without a third party intervenor? This is certainly a problem here in Canada where the vast majority of available women are either divorced or living commonlaw.
Mark, I have a nice quote for you, I think you’ll like it. Sorry I don’t know who the author is.
“To be loved deeply gives a man confidence, and to love deeply gives him courage.”
Thanks,
Ron
I know in Poland you need to be a Polish citizen to own land. However, foreigners own buildings and the land is owned in another way. I think there is a way to do it in Ukraine also. I thought of having a dating website, and I know a lot of Ukrainian and Russian girls personally who are free and educated and want to get married. However, I do not know if I would make a good match maker. I am more of a programmer guy and write language software and write about girls for fun. But also because I think who you marry is the most important choice you will ever make in your life. So I give guys a hint not to look in the USA or Canada. I would not marry a girl from Canada unless she is of a very different nature. – Nice quote by the way. I understand you want someone not divorced, but life is not about being perfect. Even our religion teaches that, it is not as important where you have been but where you are going. Everyone deserves a second chance in life.
If you want to win a woman, you need courage. If you really want to find your princess, travel the world do not sit at home and think about philosophy and life, go out and find her. Quit your job, its only money, live your life. I promise if you did this you would find your other half. If you want a princess you need to be a prince. One thing a knight has is courage and is fearless and a sense of adventure. No woman wants to be exported from her country to be a piece in a man’s lifestyle. You have to go out and find her and this means turn your life and her life upside down and start your own lives together. Do you understand this?
There is a recession going one. Quitting ones job even in a non-recession period is the worst thing to do. You as might as well tell someone to skydive without a parachute.
Besides if a guy is jobless no woman is going to like him whether in his country or abroad. This is a universal. Ok well maybe a fat woman in America will like him, but not a hot woman anywhere in the world.
You have to ask yourself what is more important to you, your money or your life?
Hello guys.
Well
The point is, without a job you won’t survive, let alone being able to find a good life partner!
Unless you are rich enough to afford living costs long enough to find a new job in the new country or long enough to find your future wife and bring her back to your hometown…
And frankly that’s not an easy decision to make, to quit your job you have earned experience and respect in for so many years.
That’s the first things we should worry about.
If that is the myth you want to live under, go ahead. If you make a connection between money and love then that is what you will be a prisoner of.
Love is not about money. For example, under communism in Poland (where I live now) there was nothing in the shops, only vinegar. No paper, no food, nothing, just vinegar. Many times it was several families live in a small apartment. People slept on the floor even with no water and no heat. People fell in love then and life had a different meaning and love was independent of money.
Now it is a sickness of the world today to think that you need money for love. But the irony is people today are more lonely than ever.
I left my job in Boston making over six figures and lived in a 18 meter apartment in Eastern Europe (that is about 180 square feet). I was living there with no job when I met my wife.
Later I was going to Ukraine to sell things in the market.
I now write software and do fine. Crisis or not I could go back to the States and get a job in a second. I believe in myself. This is more important to any girl than money. A man who has confidence and courage and a sense of adventure as well as gentleness and faith.
If you do not believe in your own God given abilities and are so scared of not having a job or what your boss might think, than I can not help you.
I know that no matter where I live I can survive.
I believe in myself and have courage.
What is life without love. All the money in the world can not buy true love. And when it is your time to go from this earth it can not buy you health. Read the holy books, whatever your faith is. It says put God and love first, not job and money.
“For example, under communism in Poland (where I live now) there was nothing in the shops, only vinegar. No paper, no food, nothing, just vinegar”
That is FALSE Admin. You know it. That happened towards THE END of communism. People were fed and able to buy western clothes throughout communism, but they had no rights or freedom of movement. If they protested, it meant jail-time or “dissapearance”.
“I know that no matter where I live I can survive.”
Well aren’t you some Rambo there. I guess you should try Somalia or Congo. hah.
Admin you had already lived your life making 6 figures as you claim, but other people even in their 30s are just starting to make their money. So they cannot just quit their jobs and move to another country.
It is true under communism it was like that. It does not matter when, people did live like that, they did. Love is found in all places, times and conditions. Its funny how the Hollywood and the rich and famous are hopeless with love, while simple folk from the villages stay in love their whole life.
Why not move to another country. You will learn languages and learn to survive doing non-traditional non cubical work. I know scores of people in Ukraine and Poland from the States doing this and all of them come back better for it. They learn languages and learn to think outside the box and live on less.
If you are a cubical slave and in your 30s and alone, why not?
articles.moneycentral.msn.com/Investing/SuperModels/markman-go-east-and-south-young-man.aspx
This guy is one of the smartest business writers in out time. In 07 he predicted the crisis. Read it.
I used to hire people, and nothing unimpressed me more was a person with degrees and experience. These people will make it to their 40s and 50s and find the job market a hard place as globalization will bump them, musical chairs the outsourcing version.
But again. Its not about money. Finding your girl is about being her hero and other half. Not some guy with money. Confidence and courage wins hearts not money. Make your own choices in life, but trust me, women want a champion not a meal ticket.
Admin,
The bread lines and limited food supply in every communist country came in the finaly days.This triggered the overthrow of communist regimes and acted as the final straw. People hated communism because it limited their freedom of movement and dissent. This is what caused great hatred.
I never said it’s all about money, but money is important. Telling a homeless bum in some American city to move to a European country would not get him girl anywhere.
I am not talking about someone who is homeless of of course, nor Europe, it could be anywhere in the world. Or not move at all. Life is a empty canvas and you can put anything you want on it. You can design your life anyway you like. It does not have to be marry an American girl and be a cubical slave. Life is an open book. However, people should think about what is the most important thing in life to them? If they need motivation to actualizes their ideals, they might want to ‘contemplate the brevity of life and the measureless gulf of eternity that lies before and beyond’.
Mark,
I do like your site. I wish there is a way you could make it a dating site. Im sure you have exposure to lots of women and probably many of them are shy. It would be nice to correspond with some of them.
Hello Mark,
Thanks for your words. They’re exactly what I was looking for. My name’s Angelo and I’m from Brazil. My grandparents are from Romania, so, I look like an European citizen instead the typical Brazilian man. I’m 31 years old software engineer and I still looking for my princess. I’m sure that she’s a Ukrainian girl, since I’m fascinated by those girls and by the Europe. I’m going to Ukraine to get a Russian course in Kiev and search for my princess (in Kiev and around all Ukraine). I don’t have any specific questions yet. I’m here just to thank you for your informations!
Thank you,
Angelo
If you take either a Russian or Ukrainian course (I prefer the latter) than this is a very good way to meet girls. But really all you have to do is walk around the street during the day. I think this approach is even better than meeting them in a club if you have courage.
Thanks Mark. What do you mean with “if you have courage.”???
To win a girl’s heart you do not need to be the biggest and the baddest guy in town. You need to have the courage of your convictions and do have the courage to storm your girl’s castle.
Take no prisoners.
Look I worked in investments in Boston. I intended to stay in Poland, I do not know maybe weeks. But then I meet my future wife. We walked and talked and had a wonderful conversation. But you know how women are, it too me 9 months before she even really would go on a real date. I had to move to Poland to win her heart. I basically had to leave my foofy Beacon Hill, Boston American life to try to get a date with my future wife.
Now we are married and I have my princess. But If was not her, play to win, turn her world upside down and fight off all the dragons, I would not have won her heart.
Everyone’s experiences in life will be different. And as the song goes ‘nobody knows the trouble I’ve seen’. Everyone thinks their hardships are harder than the next guys. But it does not matter, we all experience different things and are set up with out own problems and dragons. It does not matter your problems in life or mistakes or where you are. All that matters is what you will do with your life.
The more important thing is you have the courage to take up arms against your sea of troubles and do battle. This is courage and this will win your girls heart.
‘Our greatest fears are guarding our hearts deepest treasures, waiting for us to be bold and beautiful’.
In my opinion you have to play to win or not play at all.
From German here.
To me girls are princesses, but should always listen to your mom instead of them. Remember that.
But really, they should be respected as a queen. I remembered I used to have this one girl, she’s really beautiful, an American girl. We were this so close and the other night she tried to kiss me but I advise her that we should get married. I kissed her forehead instead. But we broke up later after 7 months of relationship because she told me I was too good for her and she was bad. She cried when I met her. I ask her what’s wrong and she wouldn’t tell me. She wrote me a letter after few months later saying she is so in love with me and she broke up with me because she finds that I could have a better lady than her. I hardly could not believe my naked eyes why did she say something like that. Later I had a girl of similar problems. We broke up. The other girl argues with me so that I should be a bad instead of being good all the time. I never liked that!
I don’t understand. Are some girls like that? Is having a good man who respects a woman is not good for them? They want a bad boy is it?
Now, I have stayed single for almost 6 years. I’m sick of girls. I have a strong faith, so this doesn’t mean I’m going to be a gay whatsoever. That is wrong and an animal. Everytime I see a pretty good girl, I give them a smile and walk away.
Even the Bible says you leave your parents and cling to your spouse. You do not want to ever put your mother before your spouse. This goes for both genders.
Your problem is simple. You are dating American girls. Come to Eastern Europe and in 6 months most of my friends are on their way to being married to a beautiful loving girl. Or South America or Asia or anywhere feminism has not poisoned the well.
Girls by their nature want a loving good man, not a bad guy. A bad guy is short for ‘weak’. Anytime you hear girls like bad guys, it is not true. A girl would rather fall in love with a man who can turn their world upside down and make the moon appear in the sky and the stars shine at night by just being humble and charming. Trust me. Bad guys are looked on as losers in Eastern Europe and the rest of the world.
I can not tell you how many beautiful nice Polish, Russian and Ukrainian girls I know that would love to have a man and believe in fairy-tales. Why? It is normal and healthy to want someone good.
Hello,
Thanks for writing this blog – very informative from an ‘insider’ point of view. I am stuck in America right now but am planning a trip for at least 1 month to the Black sea region (sometime in Aug-Oct). The furthest east I’ve been into Europe is the Czech Republic. In Feb ’09 I went to Ireland, in November of ’09 I spent a month in Argentina…So I absolutely will be doing this trip- preferably it will be 3 months instead of 1.
How possible is it to drive from country to country? I was thinking of doing a sweep from Slovenia to Croatia to Hungary to the Black sea, up through the Ukraine, then maybe up to Latvia/Estonia area. I fancy going to Siberia also but realistically it seems too much for one trip. Any thoughts? Maybe I would be better served by focusing in just one area.
I am very enchanted by European culture, but the prospect of encountering lovely women is the reason for my quest – maybe even finding a wife. My biggest concern is the language barrier however – its so frustrating when you cannot communicate.
Thanks,
Drew
One more thing – is there a dating website(s) you can recommend?
Hi Drew thanks for the comments. Yes it is easy to drive across Europe. I prefer train it is less stress, but driving most of my friends do.
For dating sites just ask me the country you are thinking. Russia/Ukraine vkontakte.ru or mail.ru in then go to the image of the heart. For Poland sympatia.pl or nightlife.pl for example. Many options. Ask any questions. Look I have to be honest, in the USA chances are you will not have your best luck finding a mate that will see you as your hero just as you see her as your princess.
Thanks so much my friend! I will go through the rest of your site and we’ll talk again I’m sure.
Hello Mark, how’ve you been?
I have no question at this time, only a little story. I met an Ukrainian girl on a dating website (her name’s Alyona)
Mark, given your know-how with Eastern european girls, any comments are very welcome!
and we’ve been chatting 1 month or more. She’s from Kremenchug. She’s a very nice, well educated, intelligent and beautiful girl. She has only basic English language skills, however, we’re chatting without many problems. I’ve called her and I could listen to her sweet voice… although she didn’t understand me completely, I could see that she was very happy and excited. I’ve decided to visit her on next month. I told her that I’ll arrive in Kiev and then I’ll get a train to her city… but she told me that she’ll get a car (with driver) and meet me at the airport! Also, since she doesn’t speak English, she’ll contract a translator for the first days… well, it seems too good to be true, anyway, I’ll enjoy it
Thanks,
Angelo
Dear Angleo, you should be more careful! It looks like a classic Ukrainian scam.
Do not do as she says! Make your own way! Meet her in her hometown, Do not spend money on her. You can do that when you are married!
If you need a car or interpreter, get them your self, be her hero. She can help you with language, but you decide, where and what to spend money on!
Peter
I have always said spend money on the woman you marry. The woman you share your life is how is important. However, set the tone right up front with the girls you date that it is not about money.
In Boston I had girls tell me that whenever they wanted to go to a new fancy restaurant, they would get a date to take them. Girls can be materialistic is you let them and it give you no advantage in dating. Many guys thing they are getting somewhere with women, they are not, they are just spending money.
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