My name is Mark Biernat. I am an American living in Krakow, Poland. I am very happily married to the girl of my dreams.
I created this site to show other people around the world that the world is full of possibilities. Be open to the idea that just because you live in one place in the world does not mean that your princess does not waits for you on the other side of the world.
Finding your other half is the most important thing you do in your life. If you have love, nothing else matters.
If you find the girl or guy of your dreams it will make your life a fairy-tale. The fairy-tale princess from your childhood dreams and the unspoken prayers of your heart. Trust me, love makes the world go around.
True love does exist
35 responses to About girls for love
Hi Mark, I really agree with your opinions about courtship and marriage. I’m a traditional Roman Catholic in this Canadian wasteland. I’ve struggled with this issue for my entire adult life. Even now at 54, I still long for a traditional family life, the noise of a joyful home and the patter of little feet running to hug their papa. If you express these desires in this culture, you’re considered too needy and even the Catholic women flee like you had the plague. Who doesn’t need love? God created us for that, and the sacrificial marriage (the death of the ego) prepares us for our eternal union with God who is Love itself. The more I experience the poverty of the single life, the more I desire to lay down my life in providing and caring for my beloved and my family. I’m finally waking up to the possibility of meeting a woman from Eastern Europe. I am pretty cautious because I want to marry in the Church and share the fullness of the Catholic faith with my wife and family. I have been thinking of taking a trip this coming spring or early summer to western Ukraine, Belarus, or maybe Poland. I would appreciate any comments you would like to offer.
PS Unfortunately I only speak English at this time, so I’m not sure how well I could get around.
Is your language course available yet?
Thank you,
Ron
Ron, you are a good man. Only in the US and Canada is the world turned upside down. I love American but would not ever find a wife there. Do not think of a trip, just do it. Move to another country. Pull out all stops. Your time will run out. I know many girls in Europe who say the same thing. They are beautiful and want a family and are normal and treat men with respect. But at 54, your time will run out. Do not think about it just do it. I am catholic, I do not know if I am good or not, but my advice to you is. 1) Do not be so good you are good for nothing. 2) Do not get smart too late. Your a good man and you deserve love in your life.
Hi Mark, thanks for your reply, and thanks for the encouragement. I have two more questions to ask you, if I may. Is it possible for an expat to own property under a freehold title in Ukraine? I’m thinking particularly about farmland. Also I would like to ask if you and your wife have considered operating an introductory service yourselves? The reason I ask is because I’ve noticed the Tour sites have a very high percentage of divorced women on them. If they are representative of the society, how could a man hope to encounter single women without a third party intervenor? This is certainly a problem here in Canada where the vast majority of available women are either divorced or living commonlaw.
Mark, I have a nice quote for you, I think you’ll like it. Sorry I don’t know who the author is.
“To be loved deeply gives a man confidence, and to love deeply gives him courage.”
Thanks,
Ron
I know in Poland you need to be a Polish citizen to own land. However, foreigners own buildings and the land is owned in another way. I think there is a way to do it in Ukraine also. I thought of having a dating website, and I know a lot of Ukrainian and Russian girls personally who are free and educated and want to get married. However, I do not know if I would make a good match maker. I am more of a programmer guy and write language software and write about girls for fun. But also because I think who you marry is the most important choice you will ever make in your life. So I give guys a hint not to look in the USA or Canada. I would not marry a girl from Canada unless she is of a very different nature. – Nice quote by the way. I understand you want someone not divorced, but life is not about being perfect. Even our religion teaches that, it is not as important where you have been but where you are going. Everyone deserves a second chance in life.
If you want to win a woman, you need courage. If you really want to find your princess, travel the world do not sit at home and think about philosophy and life, go out and find her. Quit your job, its only money, live your life. I promise if you did this you would find your other half. If you want a princess you need to be a prince. One thing a knight has is courage and is fearless and a sense of adventure. No woman wants to be exported from her country to be a piece in a man’s lifestyle. You have to go out and find her and this means turn your life and her life upside down and start your own lives together. Do you understand this?
There is a recession going one. Quitting ones job even in a non-recession period is the worst thing to do. You as might as well tell someone to skydive without a parachute.
Besides if a guy is jobless no woman is going to like him whether in his country or abroad. This is a universal. Ok well maybe a fat woman in America will like him, but not a hot woman anywhere in the world.
You have to ask yourself what is more important to you, your money or your life?
Hello guys.
Well
The point is, without a job you won’t survive, let alone being able to find a good life partner!
Unless you are rich enough to afford living costs long enough to find a new job in the new country or long enough to find your future wife and bring her back to your hometown…
And frankly that’s not an easy decision to make, to quit your job you have earned experience and respect in for so many years.
That’s the first things we should worry about.
If that is the myth you want to live under, go ahead. If you make a connection between money and love then that is what you will be a prisoner of.
Love is not about money. For example, under communism in Poland (where I live now) there was nothing in the shops, only vinegar. No paper, no food, nothing, just vinegar. Many times it was several families live in a small apartment. People slept on the floor even with no water and no heat. People fell in love then and life had a different meaning and love was independent of money.
Now it is a sickness of the world today to think that you need money for love. But the irony is people today are more lonely than ever.
I left my job in Boston making over six figures and lived in a 18 meter apartment in Eastern Europe (that is about 180 square feet). I was living there with no job when I met my wife.
Later I was going to Ukraine to sell things in the market.
I now write software and do fine. Crisis or not I could go back to the States and get a job in a second. I believe in myself. This is more important to any girl than money. A man who has confidence and courage and a sense of adventure as well as gentleness and faith.
If you do not believe in your own God given abilities and are so scared of not having a job or what your boss might think, than I can not help you.
I know that no matter where I live I can survive.
I believe in myself and have courage.
What is life without love. All the money in the world can not buy true love. And when it is your time to go from this earth it can not buy you health. Read the holy books, whatever your faith is. It says put God and love first, not job and money.
“For example, under communism in Poland (where I live now) there was nothing in the shops, only vinegar. No paper, no food, nothing, just vinegar”
That is FALSE Admin. You know it. That happened towards THE END of communism. People were fed and able to buy western clothes throughout communism, but they had no rights or freedom of movement. If they protested, it meant jail-time or “dissapearance”.
“I know that no matter where I live I can survive.”
Well aren’t you some Rambo there. I guess you should try Somalia or Congo. hah.
Admin you had already lived your life making 6 figures as you claim, but other people even in their 30s are just starting to make their money. So they cannot just quit their jobs and move to another country.
It is true under communism it was like that. It does not matter when, people did live like that, they did. Love is found in all places, times and conditions. Its funny how the Hollywood and the rich and famous are hopeless with love, while simple folk from the villages stay in love their whole life.
Why not move to another country. You will learn languages and learn to survive doing non-traditional non cubical work. I know scores of people in Ukraine and Poland from the States doing this and all of them come back better for it. They learn languages and learn to think outside the box and live on less.
If you are a cubical slave and in your 30s and alone, why not?
articles.moneycentral.msn.com/Investing/SuperModels/markman-go-east-and-south-young-man.aspx
This guy is one of the smartest business writers in out time. In 07 he predicted the crisis. Read it.
I used to hire people, and nothing unimpressed me more was a person with degrees and experience. These people will make it to their 40s and 50s and find the job market a hard place as globalization will bump them, musical chairs the outsourcing version.
But again. Its not about money. Finding your girl is about being her hero and other half. Not some guy with money. Confidence and courage wins hearts not money. Make your own choices in life, but trust me, women want a champion not a meal ticket.
Admin,
The bread lines and limited food supply in every communist country came in the finaly days.This triggered the overthrow of communist regimes and acted as the final straw. People hated communism because it limited their freedom of movement and dissent. This is what caused great hatred.
I never said it’s all about money, but money is important. Telling a homeless bum in some American city to move to a European country would not get him girl anywhere.
I am not talking about someone who is homeless of of course, nor Europe, it could be anywhere in the world. Or not move at all. Life is a empty canvas and you can put anything you want on it. You can design your life anyway you like. It does not have to be marry an American girl and be a cubical slave. Life is an open book. However, people should think about what is the most important thing in life to them? If they need motivation to actualizes their ideals, they might want to ‘contemplate the brevity of life and the measureless gulf of eternity that lies before and beyond’.
Mark,
I do like your site. I wish there is a way you could make it a dating site. Im sure you have exposure to lots of women and probably many of them are shy. It would be nice to correspond with some of them.
Hello Mark,
Thanks for your words. They’re exactly what I was looking for. My name’s Angelo and I’m from Brazil. My grandparents are from Romania, so, I look like an European citizen instead the typical Brazilian man. I’m 31 years old software engineer and I still looking for my princess. I’m sure that she’s a Ukrainian girl, since I’m fascinated by those girls and by the Europe. I’m going to Ukraine to get a Russian course in Kiev and search for my princess (in Kiev and around all Ukraine). I don’t have any specific questions yet. I’m here just to thank you for your informations!
Thank you,
Angelo
If you take either a Russian or Ukrainian course (I prefer the latter) than this is a very good way to meet girls. But really all you have to do is walk around the street during the day. I think this approach is even better than meeting them in a club if you have courage.
Thanks Mark. What do you mean with “if you have courage.”???
To win a girl’s heart you do not need to be the biggest and the baddest guy in town. You need to have the courage of your convictions and do have the courage to storm your girl’s castle.
Take no prisoners.
Look I worked in investments in Boston. I intended to stay in Poland, I do not know maybe weeks. But then I meet my future wife. We walked and talked and had a wonderful conversation. But you know how women are, it too me 9 months before she even really would go on a real date. I had to move to Poland to win her heart. I basically had to leave my foofy Beacon Hill, Boston American life to try to get a date with my future wife.
Now we are married and I have my princess. But If was not her, play to win, turn her world upside down and fight off all the dragons, I would not have won her heart.
Everyone’s experiences in life will be different. And as the song goes ‘nobody knows the trouble I’ve seen’. Everyone thinks their hardships are harder than the next guys. But it does not matter, we all experience different things and are set up with out own problems and dragons. It does not matter your problems in life or mistakes or where you are. All that matters is what you will do with your life.
The more important thing is you have the courage to take up arms against your sea of troubles and do battle. This is courage and this will win your girls heart.
‘Our greatest fears are guarding our hearts deepest treasures, waiting for us to be bold and beautiful’.
In my opinion you have to play to win or not play at all.
From German here.
To me girls are princesses, but should always listen to your mom instead of them. Remember that.
But really, they should be respected as a queen. I remembered I used to have this one girl, she’s really beautiful, an American girl. We were this so close and the other night she tried to kiss me but I advise her that we should get married. I kissed her forehead instead. But we broke up later after 7 months of relationship because she told me I was too good for her and she was bad. She cried when I met her. I ask her what’s wrong and she wouldn’t tell me. She wrote me a letter after few months later saying she is so in love with me and she broke up with me because she finds that I could have a better lady than her. I hardly could not believe my naked eyes why did she say something like that. Later I had a girl of similar problems. We broke up. The other girl argues with me so that I should be a bad instead of being good all the time. I never liked that!
I don’t understand. Are some girls like that? Is having a good man who respects a woman is not good for them? They want a bad boy is it?
Now, I have stayed single for almost 6 years. I’m sick of girls. I have a strong faith, so this doesn’t mean I’m going to be a gay whatsoever. That is wrong and an animal. Everytime I see a pretty good girl, I give them a smile and walk away.
Even the Bible says you leave your parents and cling to your spouse. You do not want to ever put your mother before your spouse. This goes for both genders.
Your problem is simple. You are dating American girls. Come to Eastern Europe and in 6 months most of my friends are on their way to being married to a beautiful loving girl. Or South America or Asia or anywhere feminism has not poisoned the well.
Girls by their nature want a loving good man, not a bad guy. A bad guy is short for ‘weak’. Anytime you hear girls like bad guys, it is not true. A girl would rather fall in love with a man who can turn their world upside down and make the moon appear in the sky and the stars shine at night by just being humble and charming. Trust me. Bad guys are looked on as losers in Eastern Europe and the rest of the world.
I can not tell you how many beautiful nice Polish, Russian and Ukrainian girls I know that would love to have a man and believe in fairy-tales. Why? It is normal and healthy to want someone good.
Hello,
Thanks for writing this blog – very informative from an ‘insider’ point of view. I am stuck in America right now but am planning a trip for at least 1 month to the Black sea region (sometime in Aug-Oct). The furthest east I’ve been into Europe is the Czech Republic. In Feb ’09 I went to Ireland, in November of ’09 I spent a month in Argentina…So I absolutely will be doing this trip- preferably it will be 3 months instead of 1.
How possible is it to drive from country to country? I was thinking of doing a sweep from Slovenia to Croatia to Hungary to the Black sea, up through the Ukraine, then maybe up to Latvia/Estonia area. I fancy going to Siberia also but realistically it seems too much for one trip. Any thoughts? Maybe I would be better served by focusing in just one area.
I am very enchanted by European culture, but the prospect of encountering lovely women is the reason for my quest – maybe even finding a wife. My biggest concern is the language barrier however – its so frustrating when you cannot communicate.
Thanks,
Drew
One more thing – is there a dating website(s) you can recommend?
Hi Drew thanks for the comments. Yes it is easy to drive across Europe. I prefer train it is less stress, but driving most of my friends do.
For dating sites just ask me the country you are thinking. Russia/Ukraine vkontakte.ru or mail.ru in then go to the image of the heart. For Poland sympatia.pl or nightlife.pl for example. Many options. Ask any questions. Look I have to be honest, in the USA chances are you will not have your best luck finding a mate that will see you as your hero just as you see her as your princess.
Thanks so much my friend! I will go through the rest of your site and we’ll talk again I’m sure.
Hello Mark, how’ve you been?
I have no question at this time, only a little story. I met an Ukrainian girl on a dating website (her name’s Alyona)
Mark, given your know-how with Eastern european girls, any comments are very welcome!
and we’ve been chatting 1 month or more. She’s from Kremenchug. She’s a very nice, well educated, intelligent and beautiful girl. She has only basic English language skills, however, we’re chatting without many problems. I’ve called her and I could listen to her sweet voice… although she didn’t understand me completely, I could see that she was very happy and excited. I’ve decided to visit her on next month. I told her that I’ll arrive in Kiev and then I’ll get a train to her city… but she told me that she’ll get a car (with driver) and meet me at the airport! Also, since she doesn’t speak English, she’ll contract a translator for the first days… well, it seems too good to be true, anyway, I’ll enjoy it
Thanks,
Angelo
Dear Angleo, you should be more careful! It looks like a classic Ukrainian scam.
Do not do as she says! Make your own way! Meet her in her hometown, Do not spend money on her. You can do that when you are married!
If you need a car or interpreter, get them your self, be her hero. She can help you with language, but you decide, where and what to spend money on!
Peter
I have always said spend money on the woman you marry. The woman you share your life is how is important. However, set the tone right up front with the girls you date that it is not about money.
In Boston I had girls tell me that whenever they wanted to go to a new fancy restaurant, they would get a date to take them. Girls can be materialistic is you let them and it give you no advantage in dating. Many guys thing they are getting somewhere with women, they are not, they are just spending money.
Hey Mark, Well, Love exists for sure..though I am still in the search…
Learn to speak ukranian or russian?
Hello mark,
I came across your site by accident and i must say that i find it very informative and agree with all that you say. I love it. Thanks you for sharing your thoughts and experiences. You can only get the best advice from someone who “who has already climbed the mountain”
I admire you for never giving up on true love and this is why today you and your lovely wife are happy.
I personally do believe in fairy tales but it’s all about how far you are willing to go to achieve your dreams and who you choose to be your life long spouse. Yes, it might even take you to the end of the world to find your princess!!
I too believe that women must be treated as princess’s and equal but I do find that a lot of western girls take advantage of this whether they realise it or not.
I have been thinking now for many years myself in meeting a sweet, traditional Russian (maybe ukranian too) Christian girl as I can’t help but also believe that it is getting increasingly harder to find a good girl in Western countries who has not been corrupted by feminism.
Don’t get me wrong feministic movements have done a lot of good for women but i laso believe they have done alot of damage!!
All I’m asking for is a good, traditional, God fearing girl who knows how to be a lady and a good wife and will never think about divorcing for the most ridiculous thing like most couples do nowadays!! I girl who would be proud to be a wife/mother and homemaker.
I am planning to do a major in Russian language next year at university. I also know fluent Greek and i think it would be easier for me to learn russian as the Kyrillic alphabet is based on the Greek.
Can I ask you why you prefer ukranian over Russian language as you mentioned above in one of your posts?
Is it because it’s easier than russian? Are the ukranian girls better than russian girls?
Your thoughts and any advice will be much appreciated.
All the best and keep up the good work
I’m never,ever giving up on true love until i sleigh all the dragons. I will conquer.
Nick
About girls for love
Thanks for your kind comments. I highly recommend as stated you consider an Eastern European girl if you are not looking for a feminist. Not all Western women are but why take the chance with the most important decision in your life.
I am partial towards Ukrainian only because my family spoke Ukrainian. Ukrainians are Western European, while Russians are Eastern. Ukrainians are catholic while Russians are Orthodox. It does not matter with way, it is according to what you like. Russian is a classical world language which is very useful. Ukrainian is like Polish it is more a regional language, however, if you speak it, it will go very far winning the girl of your dreams. Westerns Ukrainians do not speak Russian if they can help it. I live in Poland and partial twoards the West but I am also a Russophile and love the culture. So I guess it is up to you. I personally love Lviv to Ternopil area as I think the girls there are the best if you are looking for a fairy-tale princess.
If you have any questions let me know.
Anastasia Date expensive
Hello Mark,
I have been a member of Anastasia date for about 6 months and get overwhelmed with EOI’s from women from the Ukraine. This is nice but one cannot reply to all as the expense would send you broke. Is the Anastasia Date site credibile and safe?
I have been corresponding with a few ladies there and i find that the feeling of love maybe false. I have been scammed and am ashamed so now i am very cautious. Maybe the romantic tour maybe an option?
I just want to fall in love that is all.
Appreciate any feedback.
Thanks
Why not try free alernatives? What about going to Ukraine or Russia on your own and not via a bride tour group. Why not connect on Russian dating sites that are free? Why not try Facebook and social groups that are connected to singles. I think traveling to Eastern Europe is the best way to meet your other half.
Values in dating
Hi Mark,
I’ve enjoyed reading your posts. More than anything I’m surprised to find in myself many of the values you have mentioned. I’ve been living in NYC for 15 years, and I rarely run across anyone who talks about these values especially in the context of dating and choosing a mate. I guess it’s nice to have this new awareness and also to feel like it’s ok.
I’ve been so intrigued that I logged into us.Sympatia.net. I’ve tried to “join the club” so that I can send email, but I’m unable to navigate “dotpay” to make the transaction. Any suggestions?
Thanks again. I am glad to be more clear on my values and to feel like I’m not alone.
Play all or nothing with dating and finding your bride
Thanks for the kind words. It is beyond me why people do not put values at the center is the dating process. I mean would you be a business partner with someone you do not trust? Think how much more important a life partner is. If you can not find someone who is not 100% with things like loyalty and devotion why both marrying them. You could just date them when the relationship gets old move on. Of course I am writing this to convey a point. That is play to win in dating and do not go for anyone who does not have humility and compassion and filled with devotion and loyalty and love.
As you know dotpay is just a Polish type of paypal. You can write Sympatia and they will reply. us.sympatia.net/contact.html is the contact page. You can write them in English. It is worth it, in my opinion. I have known a few people who are together because of the website. Not every girl on there is for you, but I think Poles tend to be more serious about their religion than many because of their history. So give it a try. NYC is one of the hardest places to find a nice person by the way. So many people it makes your head spin, but to find the one for you, it is another story. Also consider so trips to other countries and if you want to let me know how it all works out for you.
Just remember the story of the ‘pearl of great price’. This is what you should seek in your life. The girl who you would give up everything for, including your NYC and career etc and I believe God will reward you.
Work and Living in Minsk - living in Eastern Europe
Hi Mark,
I was just surfing the internet and stumbled upon your website. But first would like to congratulate you on your finding, your princess as I myself found mine too from Belarus. Truly, if you find the right women then your life changes & with it your goals & aspirations too.
I do want to applaud you on your website & the Q&A’ available are so informative, helpful to the reader. I on the other hand have a good job & lifestyle going for me but would like to live & work in Belarus, Minsk in particular as that’s where my sweetheart wants me to be. I have never been to Belarus & that’s the irony as my girl came to marry me.
Now we want to register our marriage back in Belarus, find an apartment & settle down after I get my residency there.
Care to shed some light about Minsk & the type of job opportunities available there as I have decided to make my trip & resign from my current job to be with my princess.
Thanks in advance Mark,
Neil
Moving to Eastern Europe for your girl
You are doing the right thing. Career and money back home mean nothing. Money pales in comparison to living with your princess. Even though it might be rustic at first and disorienting, eventually you will find an equilibrium.
You will grow richer in experience than any compensation back home would afford you. So hats off to you.
In Minsk to make a living I would do the following:
Teach English as a second language. You do not need qualifications as you are a native speaker and you will use the language better than anyone ever could just studying the language. If you have some business experience back home you can charge more as you can teach business English. Even if you were a super star consultant getting paid $100 dollars an hour like I was, do not try to quote money in Minsk to back home. They are two different realties. Learn to spend like a local and live like a local, fast or your money will evaporate.
I kept converting currency to dollars and saying, gee this item is cheap I will buy it. Start thinking in the local currency.
If you want a job, connect with the expats via a linkedin expat group there. They will give you real entrepreneurial opportunities better than you trying to access the local market yourself. If you do want to try to enter the local market try Gumtree or their equivalent of Monster.com. Also the best thing to do is write companies and people directly by figuring out HR or managers e-mails, and convey how you can add value to them with your skills.
I do not know your skill set but whatever it is I am sure you have some and would be of value in Minsk. I mean you sold your girlfriend, now wife, and I am sure she thinks the world of you. So similarly someone in the job market will also. It might take time and you need not to give up.
I even was a seller of food in the local vegetable market. I have a Masters in Economics from Trinity and I would do anything for work. It is all about the experience. Nothing is below me. The one thing I did learn was economics is about supply and demand, both in the goods market and the labor market. You need to identify your skill sets that would be of value in Easter Europe. Some guys are English tour guides, while some of my friends world in English language call centers that have been outsourced from the west.
A note about taxes. If you are American remember you have to report all world-wide income to the IRS. It will most likely be excluded as it will not be over $90,000 dollars but just report it. The local economy is mostly cash at some level as many people avoid local taxes, but the IRS, I would personally not take chances with, and again you will most likley not have to pay anything.
Let me know more about your skills and or situation and I could give you and idea of what might best fit your income and lifestyle in Minsk. Either way, I am happy you found your Slavic princess or your peal of great price.
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