There was a book called ‘Smart women foolish choices’. Let me tell you, smart women, doctors, artists, generally brainy girls make foolish choices. This is why India has arranged marriages or in the Middle Ages there were chastity belts. Women can be naive and although smart in other ways, make foolish choices in terms of mate selection. They do not see the signs that the man will be abusive, yet others around them see this.

I can tell you in almost every case which guy is a player and which guy is real. Which guy is to be trusted and which is not. Maybe nature blanks this part of the radar off for women so there is reproduction. Or maybe women are not taught to wait for a ring and meet guys in church or the library. I do not know. Every woman can have as many children as they are physically capable of. It is about making wise choices in mate selection.

Call me crazy but I see women choose wrong guys all the time, it is almost written on the men’s faces, yet the women ignore it.

ex nihilo nihil fit – their fangs where there all along. I know if I were a woman I would discern these things early. I mean I have had to do this with women. Women are often the same way, wanting to suck the life blood out of you. However, during the courtship process, you can see the signs as long as you do not jump into bed with them too soon. Once you do that it is all over, the chemistry changes and women are often blind to the man. Before that they are thinking clear.

No child is a mistake. So she is blessed with one and if this is all God will grant her this is life. However, if she wants more she deserves to have more if she physically can.

Maybe what I write comes from my experiences also. I am the first to admit that I was scorned by women. Not for being a freak, but I was too nice. I was a geek reading Lord of the Rings and Chekhov and playing chess and studying the Bible, while the ‘cool’ guys got girls. I did not like watching sports, but rather would read philosphy and theology and discuss this with my friends on long walks through the woods. It was painful at the time to be rejected by girls, but I dodged many bullets. In retrospect I see those ‘cool guys’ were not so cool. And geeks like me make excellent husbands and fathers (tooting my own horn for a second, but it is to make a point). Women need to hear the message, be wise when making mate selection and the dating process.

My wife when she meet me would not date me for a year. She ran from me in gave me such a hard time. The second year when we started to meet, she met with my friends and family and we went to church together and sure enough we have a peaceful wonderful relationship. We made the right choices based wise things like conversations about values. OK, maybe at first it was all about attraction but this is nature.

I do not have all the answers but I think smart women make foolish choices and the way to prevent this is a courtship process that does not include ‘rolls in the hay’ and deep and long philosophical discussions about life and world view. I mean the meaning of life question needs to be asked and discussed and lived before I hook my wagon to anyone else’s star.

About choices – they couldn’t notice these problematic things, because these men hide it in the beggining of the relationship just after some time they show their fangs, after that the girl has a hard time who loves this person to accpet that she has misjudged her beloved and this relationship won’t work because they are heading to a bad future if this continues.

However, I know no man who treats a woman like that or woman who is treated like that. I am sure if I go to the bad sections of a city you have people like this but this is not everyday, educated, church going people.

These are extremes that are dramatized on the evening news but the vast majority of people in this world are peaceful and respectful. Women’s lib has become anti-men.

I do understand your point, that if you treat women with respect they will respond. People need to be shown love to be taught love.

I believe in the world of Mr. Darcy, Mr. Wickem and Mr. Bennet, not some stereotype of some uneducated brute who is abusing women. I do not know about you, buy my friends hold doors open for women and do not swear and treat women with kindness.

That being said I know a lot of women who are so in your face about proving a point, have tattooed, swear and would divorce a man if they are not happy, they live with their boyfriends instead of getting married and have children out-of-wedlock or worse terminate the baby if it is an inconvenience.

What if Jane, Elizabeth, Mary, Kitty, Lydia Bennet would like that? I think maybe working the streets of the East End of London.

Every girl who is in love would cook for the man ect since they want to look nice and feminim to their partner. <- this is the most important sentence in my whole reply.

But we won't do that if we are treated poorly, badly. We are not masochist. An other thing when men take these housework for granted and not lift a single finger to help and just simply expect the women to do these chores just like a job, women can get pissed off, there is nothing more horrible than fighting against huge piles of unwashed clothes, dishes which are reappearing after an hour, they (wives) will burn out after some point.

However, feminism takes on issues that have nothing to do with the genuine liberation of women and does so with anger. They champion such ridiculous issues like tax payers paying universal health care for contraceptives and worse terminating a life of a child not born. In other words, as I have to write out a check for over 2,000 dollars in taxes this week (really) and yet I do not have the money to pay for early intervention for my speech delayed daughter. While, some college girls is getting free contraceptives complements of my tax money. That is a real example of feminism in our society distorts values.

And what is so wrong with women cooking and nurturing her family? Why is that so wrong? Men and women are equal, yet that does not mean I will be breast-feeding. Women have a special role on this planet to care for the next generation and men to care for their families. Why is that all bad?

Look, girls can beat the drums of war with men and claim they are strong women (translation, angry demanding women) but my recommendation to guys that want a nice wife, why bother with these girls when the competition is so strong out there to find a good husband, why not just move on if you find a girl who gives that attitude. There are too many nice girls out there and are beautiful that are not feminist. In fact I think there is an inverse correlation.

Also, I am Romanian, we are not light-headed but long-haired creatures of myth waiting for a lead to follow, as any other human being we are strong and looking for a man to be the strong man by our side. Don’t expect a girl to blindly fall in love with you and cook and clean for you or such, just because her Romanian husband would beat her til she cries in a dark corner and then force her to make him a sandwich after she’s finished anyway. fortunately times are rapidly changing for us too and indeed, you will find poor, uneducated women with low ambition, willpower or power of thought only by the countryside, but I must add, those are not that fairy-tale-like and pretty over there.

Romanian, Hungarian, Swedish girls are beautiful but we have no credit for this beauty and some of us don’t take it for granted. Beauty is less important, please take into consideration this: the only reason why Romanian and polish and whatever women have not yet found they’re equal power to man as a human being is because we are still poor, uneducated, and everybody is taking advantage of it, so why shouldn’t men looking for obedient wives too right? Fact is not far from now we will become no different from Swedish or American girls or any girl around the world, I mean those of them with/without brains with/without beauty but most important of all with self-respect.

Western type of behavior does only prove that given a woman her freedom and equal rights she will act no different from man, some will still embrace having a traditional family, some will look for partners to dominate or be dominated by and some will chose the popular way (amongst men and women let’s not forget) of enjoying themselves and leaving scars behind.

It is most funny how reading thru all of the post, the only obvious conclusion is that men in their countries are more and more either rejected or disappointed by rejected and disappointed women in their countries, therefore reject or disappoint them, therefore go searching somewhere else. This has a lot less to do with nationality or culture as it obviously happens everywhere, but with the fact that men have found they can now be betrayed, broken-hearted, as well, and are in some kind of a shock, so some of their answer is to flee to some forgotten land and find some naive girl who has not been bruised yet by their society, their ancestors or human nature, and hide.