I truly believe in marriage and family. If you are an idealistic Hungarian girl you have more mystical power than you can image to conjure your prince from afar or near. Just realize that. Girls who believe in ideals are like guys who believe in ideals, the road is harder but in the long run life has a richer quality and your relationship will be happier.

Therefore, you have a lot of kids at home who are living with their parents in an environment of arguing and screaming. It is emotionally disruptive to the developement of the children and adult children living at home because of school and economic reasons. I think it takes most people their whole 20s to get over the screaming and yelling at home, many longer.

So like every young person starting out living at home has a non-monetary price. I did it and then I was out, then I was back as a boomerang kid. I often in jest tell people who the money you save on rent does not out weight the money you will pay to fix your mental problems later in life.

About money, I understand also. However, many if not most Polish kids live at home with a family started. My sister in-law lived 11 years with her family and the child slept in the same bed with momma and tata because there was no money or room. They were able to build a house in those 11 years, but it was a long 11 years. Also the grandparents helped out with the child and the whole family is normal and fine. I know many people in Eastern Europe who live this way. However, I do understand your personal choice as I would not like to start a family living with my parents. Maybe my in-laws as I am not as toxically related to them. I think loving families like I grew up in, often have some toxic aspects. This is because nature wants the kids to fly from the nest.

In the USA we just pay rent. We do not look at buying a flat like in Eastern Europe. Eastern Europeans all want their flat. I just want to focus on lifestyle and flexibility then if I am happy money will come or not come. Whatever God wants of me in life. See, if you are happy and following your path, I believe you make others happy and God will help you in the ways you need help. It may mean money or may not. My grandparents moved to America from Eastern Europe with no money and did not speak the language and no health insurance and they started a family and had eight kids for example. Everything was fine. Why do people worry about money so much? Really? Trust in God who is with us, but money.

Never ever marry based on a man’s income potential. My brother was so poor at the start of his life he had little to eat, him and his wife had enough to get a hotdog, had nothing to wear but the same clothes everyday and a car that did not work no money in the bank and no apartment. Do you think she cared about that? She married him anyway. Now he lives in a beautiful house in London and Boston and also a huge place outside of Miami and sails across the seas in his handmade boat with him and his wife of 30 some years. They never cared about cash. They just lived their life. I have scores of other stories like that. I mean I was renting an 18 meter flat when I was dating my wife.
My friend Pat rents a 32 meter flat with two kids and a wife at the end of some highway in Poland and they are happy. I can not agree that love and money are anything but opposites. The fear of loose of money or fear of lose, I understand. But this leads to the darkside.
Better is to take an attitude that God will take care of me no matter what. I will commit myself to love. I know you do and really not talking about you but generally about this generation who have 1 child because that is all they can afford or delay their lives until they are 35 because they worry about money.

So I think you have to finish school etc. But I think money in the EU is not the problem it was. You speak English, you can got to Norway or London or pick apple in Ireland if you had to. I would. I have a Masters from Trinity in Economics but I would wash dishes if I had to. I am not proud. In the EU you should not have to worry about money. I do not see any starving Polish or Hungarian children. If anything they are not getting a little chunky like their Western European counterparts. This is not Africa or even Ukraine.

Money is everywhere and the ability to make money even more prevalent.

For example I always feel I should cook more, bake sweets, on the other hand others might envy my relationship with my boyfriend.
Ofc money is ruling us, just watching the tv you see families are kicked out their flat because they can’t pay the loan. You can’t stop feeling that I don’t want this to happen to my family, I have to work hard, earn more money. BUT it doesn’t mean that our hearts will change, it’s just that it’s hard to synchronize the working life (and it’s about earning for living and not about career) with our dreams and possibilities.

I’m not someone who goes to church, but I know what’s right and what’s wrong and I don’t want anything more than have a job which I like to do, and have my own family (2 or 3 kids)and lead a happy life, be a good mother and stay together with my husband till the last day.

But there are obstacles, I still live with my parents, and don’t have a job yet. In this situation I can’t possibly give much to a baby, when the house is loud from arguments, so I still have to be patient and wait for 2-3 years to pass, till we can move into our own flat.

So money is something bad but necessary in my opinion. For me, I can’t even start my marriage without it. So when you hear people complaining, or going crazy about money also check what’s in the background.

@ To other people
Don’t believe in this all Hungarian girls are just after money and don’t love and always lie. Do you think a country, a society like that would even work? If you have these unreal images of us then don’t even come here, to get to know us. You will just hurt us, there are plenty of Hungarian boys who will accept and love us, and we will love them back.

Girls do not convey the fact that they are thinking this way outright, but they often are thinking this way. Men seeking a wife need to be able to see through women and know their motives and hearth and soul. Guys have to avoid these women or they will bring you unhappiness and heart ache.

In Hungary, mothers train their lovely daughters from birth to find a rich man. Some of the first questions a girl asks from a guy in Hungary – do you have a flat, do you own a car, what is your job etc. Familiar, isn’t it? They are after only one thing, your money!
Someone wrote above that Hungarian girls do not approach men or initiate contact, this may be so but it is the biggest ‘two-faced’ behavior there is. So much manipulation going on in the background, so much mind game that yo are lucky if you do not go insane.

My advise to you all looking for a Hungarian girl is this : Aviod! If you want a peaceful life. They will never look after you, no cooking, washing, any housework BUT that is fine, they are not slaves at the end of the day, so you can always share chores BUT again they will never love you or be really interested in who you are. They treat you with no respect, will lie to you always!, and will cheat on you – guaranted. They do not believe in unconditional love or marriage for life. Once things get a bit difficult they will jump ship at first chance rather than working on the problem.

Find a nice Japanese girl, they are the ones that you are all looking for. They are well brought up, marriage is for life. I know lots of them, been there, seen it. This is the only country left in the whole world where it is worth going to find a decent woman for .

Let the liberal, feminist ideas to the rest of them. At the end of their lives when sitting in a nursing home they will regret all this, empty, shallow, materialistic life they had!