One of the most common problems I see out there is Indian guys in Europe are alone. They are highly educated, peaceful and friendly but have little to no luck with girls from Europe. I mean what is the deal? Why do not females from London or France date or seek Indian males? On a dating site you never see “beautiful Russian blond seeking Indian guy – just leave your mobile number”. Let me tell you it is possible to bridge this chasm. The purpose of this post if to tell you the reasons why and how to over come these issues with cross cultural Asian European dating.
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Girls from Europe do not date guys from Indian because:
- European girls often want someone from Europe (home team) or the Americas while India (visiting team) is unknown. In cricket do not most people route for the home team? Indian men are from the same basic ethic group as Europeans, that is Indo-Europeans, but the culture is radically different and they are from a far off exotic land. Too much risk for a girl as she wants someone to take home to her mother (to like) and marry, not a player a foreign culture. Therefore, I can see how some European women do not go for Indian guys unless there are strong feelings of love. They prefer to stick to that they know, the home team from their own culture.
- European girls assume that Indian men have Indian girls waiting for them back home and will get married so what is the in dating an Indian guy. Sure almost all Indian marriages are still arranged and many have Indian girls waiting back home. Or maybe we all have watch too many Bollywood movies and think this is reality, but Indian girls are beautiful and know that if you give your heart to a guy he would just go back to Indian and marry someone that looks like Katrina Kaif, Aishwarya Rai, Priyanka Chopra or Tabu. European girls will never admit this but the risk of flight of an Indian guy is high if she competes with a beauty who also cooks Chicken Tikka Masala and does it with a smile. Come to think of it are you sure you guys want to date a ‘liberated’ German girl?
- Indian guys are often, but not always are physically smaller frame than Europeans, largely because of the diet. I ethically vegetarian diets are better (I am not one), but it does affect protein intake and growth rates. In contrast, I have seen Indians raised in the USA on a high fat meat diet become huge. This is in one generation and no one can tell me this is genetics. Women like to date men either taller or broader than themselves as it give them a sense of security.
- Indian guys often have a different style. Often because of their budget, but still, please, enough said.
So these are the common problems Indian guys face in Europe. Indians from Bombay, Tamil to Kerala usually come to Europe to study and often make higher earnings based on the power of the currency exchange rate of the rupee to the Euro or British pound. Sometimes they stay to get a visa or EU citizenship and sometimes for marriage.
They can get these girls, but do not know how. I see the above as a common problem with Indian guys, that is they make very few inroads with European girls. In fact Middle East guys seem to do better even though Indian guys are more connected to Europe ethnically and in some cases culturally.
European blond for Indian male
Solution for Indian guys who want to date European women
- Radically alter your style – Your goal should be to dress like an Italian. Some people argue that should be everyone’s goal who is in the dating scene as the Italians do know how to dress. I have seen Indian guys in Italy with barely any noticeable difference in look than some Italian guy and even marry Polish girls. When in Rome do as the Romans, if you are in Europe to as the Europeans. If the fear about dating Indian men is cultural than lessen the cultural boundaries. Indians are attractive people, look at the Bollywood stars, do you think they have any problem attracting someone to date? Clothes make the man. Everyone can be attractive if they know how to jazz up their look. You could even pump iron and where a cool t-shirt with a good haircut. Learn about fashion even if you are on a shoe string.
- Do not be a geek – Indian guys are generally smart and hard-working, but often are shy about flirting, OK they tend to be geeky. Take no offense, I am a confirmed computer geek myself. It is not a bad thing, but it does not get your far with girls, unless she is like Mila Kunis and plays computer games like hipster guy. Know how to be cool a charm girls. Charm is getting what you want without having to ask. Except for the culture you guys are basically the same as Europeans, there is not reason to feel funny or self-conscious. You come from a great land with a rich history. So get over any feelings you have and focus on learning how to charm girls. I do not know what to tell you, try with smiling and ask probative questions here and there about that they study and their interests and whatever it is, show some affirmative facial expression of interest.
- Explain your real intentions- If you are getting an arranged marriage back home, be honest. If you are looking for a marriage for a visa to Europe (I am not recommending at all) be honest. If you are seeking true love then tell them, but be honest as life has karmic laws.
- Try online dating – You would be surprised how the walls of culture fall when you start to write poetry online and via sms text messages. A lot of my friends from Sweden even have married people from the other side of the world.
Polish girls do marry Indian guys. British girls do marry Indian guys, I have seen all of this. It is more common the other way around for some reason. That is if an Indian girl goes to Europe or America guys are all over her, but the converse is true also.
Tell me what you think, about this type of dating and the possibilities? If you are a man from India what has been your experiences with love in the UK or Europe or chatting with Polish or Russian girls for example? If you are an American gal or a European girl would you date and Indian guy?
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I live in Kraków, Poland and have had an Indian guy randomly start talking to me on the street and inviting me for coffee twice. First time it happened I was in a rush so I said I couldn’t, but he was too old for me anyway (about 30, and I was 19 at the time). I just don’t believe in that much age difference when you are 19 or 20. You have different priorities, at 20 all you want to do is have fun and at 30 you are probably about ready to settle down. This why I think it wouldn’t work.
) and I would have if he didn’t answer his phone with the words “hi, Kasia” while we were talking.
The second guy was younger, about 23 or 24 and I was 21 at the time. The problem was, from the very beginning he made it obvious that he was looking for a relationship, even seemed a little desperate so it made me think he just needed to get married for a green card rather than was interested in getting to know me. I still wanted to go and have coffee and talk to him since I like talking to foreigners, (it’s almost like traveling
So if you are an Indian guy looking for a girlfriend in Europe, my advice is just take your time and make friends first. Asking a Polish girl on a date the minute you meet her is a good way to scare her off. Polish girls are careful daters. It is much better if you ask her to help you with something and have a casual conversation to start with.
Indian married with Polish gal
Hi Izabela,
I can undertsnd what you have gone through. Long story short, I met with my wife (Kasia) Online and must say that I agree with your advise. Kasia and me were just frnds for chat we never thought that we will get marry. when we start talking too much and realise that we should meet in real than i planed a month holiday frm office and ask Kasia to come to india and meet my family. Kasia is very shy girl. In fact im very shy in girls. And she came two India we got Engased and I decided to move to New Zealand so we can live in an English speaking country and live happily. I faced so many problems I cant even explain. But I proudly say that I have best wife
and for me my kaska is most beautiful girl. And i dont only know Kasia from Poland.
Kinga, my best frnd is from Poland and so many other girls I know. Hope that soon I will come two Poland and meet all my friends and my Polish in laws.They love me so much and I love them most. I married Kasia because I found the girl like I wanted. Not for any visa or citizenship. That is I am in New zealand not in Europe.
If you want be my friend via Facebook. You can find me” mine and Kasia’s pic is on profile.
Polish girl date
I met this Polish chick at the dog park in Melbourne Australia, I am not gonna ask her for a date or anything. I am taking my time to get to know her first, can you tip me on how Polish girls are and what steps I should avoid?
Good question, Polish girls are into culture, you can talk about Poland and what you know about the history and culture, read up on it. If you know a few words of Polish even better. Everyone loves someone who knows about their obscure interests and background. Also Polish girls are cultured so if you can manifest a level of culture about things like literature and language or anything high-minded it will appeal to a Polish girl.
Find out what she likes and then study and learn about this and be into it too. But also just be yourself and express things about your exotic culture, I am sure she is interested and would love to travel there someday as Poles love the ideas of travel to exotic lands.
Polish girls
To some extend I do agree with Admin. However with my personal experience I can say all 5 fingers are not same. All I can say is, ” be a gentleman (not only with the girl u like with every girl) and you will find ur self a magnate. Surly dress up nicely but not over. Girls like neat and clean person. Don’t over show even if you are billionaire. Be sober and down to earth.
If I am not wrong a girl needs “Care, attention and Love” If she is smart and do understand life she will give you enough space for your fun time (boys time)Try to talk about her family and if possible and admin said learn some Polish words. “Czesc” and try pronounce it clear. If you cant it will help you. confused??? This will be your fun time learning Polish from her and teaching her a bit Hindi.
Rest, Wish you luck.
A happy married boy with loveable Polish girl
Vikas(me)+Kasia(my wife name) = Vikasia (isn’t amazing)
Cheers!
Vikas
I am a North Indian guy (from Punjab) living in Germany from past 3 years. Surprisingly for me, I have more friends (girls) in Europe in these 3 years than in India (specially Polish, Balkans and Russians). Somehow I don’t go well along with other Indians. Also because most of them comes from South India and are typical geeks. They don’t like to go out too much and rather prefer to stay back and do some indoor stuff like cooking and watching movies. Unlike other Indian guys I am a bit open (actually very open) and like to make friends, go to parties, drink (even polish and russians say that I drink too much), dance. I never try to flirt with any girl if I don’t know her and to my surprise this behaviour attracts them the most and this is how i get girls. I prefer being good friends first, hang around together and then ask for a date. I am a well tanned guy and most of the European Girls like my skin color very much. According to them I am the “coolest” Indian guy ever and they can do anything someone to get my skin colour.
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Anshu,
Hows going mate? I’m from Punjab as well. I agree with you on your skin color complements. Because when I was new in NZ I met couple of kiwi girls and they said you got nice skin it’s not dark not too white. I asked her but white people dislike Indians because we are dark skin. I was stun with her reply, ” they don’t have such nice skin so of course they will b jealous and that’s y they react like that” I was like. And about drinking, Even I am a party animal. Punjabis r know for their King Size life. Though we are not good in studies we are open-hearted and know how are live life.
Cheers mate,
Vikas
Buddy,you had a chance, nice one indeed. I don’t know what happened, but I would like to make a comment.
I asked her but white people dislike Indians because we are dark skin. I was stun with her reply, they don’t have such nice skin so of course they will be jealous and that is the way they react like that.
When she complimented your skin that means she was attracted to you. You should have never made above comment. This sounds racist. If I were you. I would have made it funny. Without mentioning any words like ‘white’.
How girls see Indian guys
This is about how women see guys from Indian, there are pluses and minuses.
You might be James bond but do not generalize Indians. I agree that you may have more girlfriend’s in Germany than in India but trust me that has little to do with your connectivity with Indians. Individual opens himself more in foreign land and I am assuming that people are more socialize in the sense of talking to strangers in Germany rather than India.
I am in LA and train Indians
That’s being said, I am saying because I train people here (in Los Angeles) in PUA community (specially Indians), you would be surprised that Indian guys have more good stories and chance than any other race (except Latinos) if they improve a little bit of body language…
“I never try to flirt with any girl if I don’t know her and to my surprise this behavior attracts them the most and this is how I get girls. I prefer being good friends first, hang around together and then ask for a date.”
The answer to your above question is that if a guy like me will meet your girl who you are trying to be friends with then you will be dumped in friend zone forever.
I am surprised, I really am, here is a fact and no one can deny is, when you meet a female. Their mind circuit is designed in a way that they make decision in 10 minutes whether she would dump you in friend zone or in boy friend zone. You just said what you get in these two.
“According to them I am the “coolest” Indian guy ever and they can do anything someone to get my skin color.”
Your post says all.
Anyways the things which I usually encounter in Indian guys is:
Scent – They generally don’t use Western hygiene to the extent others do.
Fashion – There is a famous term in PUA community called Peacocking, which is essential to strike a conversation.
Come out of their comfort zone – This is very rare in Indian community, often when I ask my friends to talk to someone (opening line is provided), they say, no man I am too shy or not interested while he is staring her too much, this is all bullshit excuse, just go ahead and talk to her, apply 3 sec rule..
They think non Indian girls are easy to sleep with – Well I don’t blame them..The culture they have raised in is restricted and they are desperate.
They show too much interest quickly – Always remember.. guys are like dogs.. more attention you give them more they will come to you. On the other hand girls are like cats.. less attention you give more they will come to you.
Strengths of Indian men:
1. They are honest, most of the time.
2. They will respect you if you get to know them.
3. They are ambitious.
Also one thing and it is very important, girls are not racist, guys are, for example:
if a guy meets a girls.. he refers her ta friend like” Hey man I met this white chick” on the other hand if a girl meets a guy.. she always says that “Hey I met this nice guy yesterday”
Rules of attraction are always same you just have to tune it.. So please next time don’t refer yourself the “Coolest” Indian, rest if you need help. I would be happy to tell you some awesome conversation starters.
Do European girls like Indian guys
Many Indians guys also fail to connect to non Indian cultural diaspora around the world; yet they are obviously attracted to the exotic beautiful girls. Thus many a times they end up somewhere in the middle which might send wrong vibes to a girl. But this is not true for guys from all the cultures of India.
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I have been to USA and now I am in germany. the diff i felt is and how it is related to indian dating..
1. Most of indians are from south india, very few from other parts of India.
2. Srilankan, Tamilian, Pakistanis, it is difficult to recognize by looking them and most of the people are very miser in behaviour specially Pakistanis so it create a bad impact on girls in europe and in fact very few indians are really good in behaviour, sorry to say that but it is true and Pakistani they made it worst as a result as people see any asian specially from pakistan, india or Sri Lanka, they opt to stay away from them.
3. On the other hands, girls are able to get german guys, somewhere I felt even being a german but german guys are also unable to get girls easily so when a frustrated Indi girl meets with frustrated german, they hang up and in most of the cases I found girl start being sleazy or start acting like a bitch (3 cases out of 5), more interesting in the same event if an indian guy will do the same thing with an indian girl (talking or touching) she minds it but she is open to a german even for much more sleazy body language.
I will say at least german girls are honest here, if they will open they are open in same way to all and if not then to no one.
6.) Indians are more successful with Romanian, Poland and with spain girls, I felt girl from these countries are very friendly and really believe in friendship,unlike with german in most of the cases they commit as friendship but its all about sex (trust me its true).
I personally like afghan girls more although very few of them are good but I can guarantee you trust in such relations at least more than any other country.
Sorry if you find it offending, I wrote what I have seen in shopping malls, railway stations, in grocery stores. in pub discos, on roads.
I want to say not all Indian guys are miser and kinky, but such guys are misunderstood or facing consequences, cause of actions of stupid boys who spoils their own image and their country’s reputation and so there is a less rate of success but in USA it is exactly opposite, visit few weeks continuously to a same club or pub and you will a good girlfriend or mayb some girl who is very clear that she only want to have sex no marriage.
Thanks,
Rohan
Do European girls like Indian guys
Some European girls just love Indian guys
Hi guys,
I’m a French woman, 30, and I can tell you that some girls just love Indian guys, no worries for u!
This type of girls go to Indian restaurant, Bollywood or traditional dance courses, and temple.
They ay be the best for you (at least in Europe, no comparison with India of course
because they understand and enjoy pretty much the culture.
So, the problem can be (at least for me, I don’t know for the other girls) that you guys often have girls at home or nobody but just want to have fun because you consider us as non serious girls, and this is an euphemism because I’ll stay polite. Because we bath in swim suits. Because we are no virgins when we get married. Because we are free.
So, please, just as yourself guys:what are you really looking for? We cannot get snow and monsoon at the same time, and that’s the same with women. You have to be honest to yourself to know what is really important for you.
Intercultural understanding is a lot of work.
I wish you all the best.
Rejane
Rejane, you said the important thing here, ” just be yourself.” but you also have to put your best qualities first to increase your value in front of a female, No offense but girls like challenges and if they think you are too easy for them then no matter you are indian or non indian..this is a turn off.
I tell you a trick by which you can figure out whether this guy has a girl at home or he can get serious with non-Indian chick, (although I shouldnt be saying that).
So the first thing you should notice in 5 mins of conversation (of course provided you are interested in him). How much history or cultural knowledge he has about other countries than india?? Because if he talks about india too much than the probability is he has not been anywhere else and hence chances are he has too much indian culture in him (rest you can imagine)..
Second thing is while having a conversation ..is he able to make you laugh by your type of jokes and can have a decent conversation… A very good example is above comment where this dude asked girl “but white people don’t like Indian guys”, which portrays that he has been to that country only and of course has little knowledge about other culture (no offense and I apologize dude if I offended you)..
You should see how much he has knowledge about your country movies. This is very important. while dating him you are not gonna watch Bollywood junk for 24×7.. of course its fun but for a little time.
Of course music, does he have a good amount of knowledge of the music he is interested in. Of course it can be indian folk music, trance, jazz etc.
These traits of personality shows how much curious he is about other things than India, if he has those that means there is a good chance you guys would date awesome as he will enjoy discovering your interest and so would you.
Rejane
Hi Rejane,
Thank you for your comment. I have to agree that you right about the Indian perception. Sometimes a few bad apples give a bad review for an entire people. More importantly, I have dated European women and have been in a long relationship; adaptability, flexibility and communications are very important especially in an inter-cultural relationship.
Additionally, Indian men should be open to explore these relationships with the same standards applied for all women. No biases for European or Asian (Indian) women in the selection preferences.
I hope European women should be willing to take chance and get to know someone.
European and Indian cross culture dating
Well me being an Indian find easy to get some nice fishes here in Europe better than India, and I see a lot of Indians successful in doing this, Unmanly men always end up in disaster no matter where he is from.Just because I get a lot of girls coming behind me it does not mean that I’m better than all European guys and European girls are not friendly. It’s a cultural thing and just because Indians populate more, smaller percentage of indecent or boring male look bigger. A real guy and a real girl wont really care about race when it comes to date or long time relationship. And it doesn’t really matter what the rest other immature people think about it. If you want to meet a real Indian guy, just ping me.
From my personal experience,(I am from Punjab) it make a huge difference where do you come from, I mean your culture, heritage and lifestyle. I am not sure about rest of the India but being a Punjabi I was always confident talking with people, social skills you know, and getting girls is just about positive communication, from last eight years since I am in Europe. I been involved with English, French, Polish, Chinese and Russians. I mean I came here to do something in life not to go after girls(and I don’t follow no girl much) but I have had quite a number in my list, some decent ladies(couple of them from oxford.
Some suggestions:
1.Do not ask for a date at first meeting…be friends first and positive,know about her as much as can stay cool.
2. Ask her to meet at some common place (bar or coffee place in uni)
3. Don’t be too personal, talk more about, green peace, nature sports etc.
Depending on how she is responding at right time ask for a date (actually asking for a date is old crap stuff) if you pay right you will get the her in some time .
Once I get a girl when she was leaving a pub and going to other one round the corner and we chatted and I had her in two days.
So stay cools, just that.
Remember you cannot force a girl in western society, as soon as she feels you are desperate she will leave.
Indian women compared to Western Women
The purpose of this is to compare Indian women Vs Western women so people go in with eyes open about the cultural differences before dating girls. Well, a stereo type and dual standard boring article with almost hyped comments and imposing rules on just Indian men.
It is boring, because, just telling Indian man ‘must’ to do so many things. I wish and pray that Indian men should put their preferences also forth to any white girl and “laws must be same” without dual standards.
First to Indian men who is seeking only committed relation in and with western woman:
There is no “true be to yourself” with western woman – as you already read here “Indian man must do”. Take your background into consideration, talk to your family members and follow what your family wishes for you sincerely.
Indian men no need to feel lower than counter-parts; they do not treat much higher than us – with the woman. They know how to approach better then us because they grown-up in similar way. We may torture a woman for working in home and giving birth to our kid but do not cheat for other woman whenever “space” is found and of course women will also do same. We do not throw woman out of home while it is freezing outside and lost interest in her(when any new and attractive woman found). We have no problem to throw entire money into her basket rather than just paying. A lot lot much better than them. To get good marks in exam, we must write good in test and for that hard working is necessary. So let them also do hard work to get better man, after all, equal way of taking actions.
Looking for just physical relations then go to pub often with little extra bucks for paying your pleasure lady drink cost and taxi fare. It is as much simple as you read, believe it or not. Have fun in the night and get up tired in morning. Viel spass.
At western women: if you can not find Indian man, be sure you will never know better man or better things for you.
Indian men anyhow must know-never /smell bad in your body. Scent is a key for attraction in dating.
Do European girls like Indian guys
Comment from the Diaspora
My mother’s family were imported by the British to work as indentured labourers to what was, about 150 years ago, the British colony of Natal, South Africa. My great-grandmother was imported labour, a midwife, who provided for the medical care of the wives of the indentured labourers. We were Catholic, and my great grandmother spoke English as well as Tamil (originating from the south of India). We were greatly influenced by Catholic missionaries who were stationed in Natal, and who believed, at that time, that to be a good Catholic meant abondoning eastern/”pagan” cuture. This resulted in my grandmother not learning her venacular and of course my mother feeling alien to Indian culture. I am therefore a third generation South African, having been brought up in this country. I’ve studied or worked for extended periods in Denmark, the United Kingdom and Canada and English is my home language.
My father was a European anti-apartheid activist so I have green eyes and dark brown hair. The only things which make me “Indian” is my love for curries and spicy foods (which by now is probably a Universal favourite) and my enjoying Bangra music (I dont understand the words but because I like dance music, I enjoy the beat as opposed to say rap/jazz/classical music).
But off course the obvious give away to my ancestry is that I have brown skin. I believe that as a third generation South African I am not Indian any longer, but I find that white South African woman (themselves not European any longer probably third generation South Aficans as well) have problems seeing me as date-able.
I wonder if there are any similar experiences from the diaspora community?
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